The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Travelling Far And Wide, With Sobriety In Mind.

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Welcome to the Bus one and all! I'm Mouse, one of the Brave Babes :)

We have a new line that we're taking with us on every journey, thanks to one of our wonderful Babes, Curry -

Alcohol Fosters Inertia.

So when you're drinking excessively, nothing changes, or improves, the sharp edges of our lives just becomes that little bit less in focus, blurred and all you feel is numb. Then like shit (emotionally, as well as physically) if you're honest! Who wants that?

You are only ever better/pacified/happy whilst the alcohol is in your system. And that doesn't last........... it's not a cure, it's a quick fix. A sticking plaster.

So, if you think you're drinking too much, and want some friendly advice, or just to come and have a chat, get to know others who are just like you, who won't judge or criticise you, then hop on board! :)

We're a really mixed bunch and all at different stages of our journey to find sobriety or certainly drinking in a more controlled, less dangerous way.

And, if you'd like to see where we've been so far, have a look at the links below :)

LAST THREAD

THE STARTING POINT AND WHY WE'RE ALL HERE

I want one now! Im off to the apple store

morning all.
day 2 here.
went for a run last night to ward off we and it was great! managed an extra mile so up to 3 now yay!
strong vibes to all on day 1 today...and hugs to all other babes.
're sugar cravings... I have always struggled with this regardless of drink. chromium is meant to help, but didn't do much for me. very interesting book called sugar addicts total recovery programme or similar, or Google "radiant recovery" for more on sugar addiction. also eating more protein helps stabilise your blood sugar levels ....
must dash....dc need attending to...Back later.x

Morning, tis me, Mouse

This - WELL DONE!!! :) xxx

Baby - I could talk for hours about abusive relationships of all shapes and sizes but I won't bore you all again with it... I have to say, reading that you took CONTROL (you know that word?) of your own destiny last night made my morning.

Re the sweet craving, you could try Boot's range of diabetic or weight watchers sweets/biscuits etc... Boots range have no added sugar in (not sure about WWers) and will help with the sugar hit that you need, or fruit juice is good. Fresh, not from concentrate, helps as that has natural sugars in. So you could try that? Or a hot chocolate before bed? Just leave the Bailey's out!!

Re your DH, leave him to it. I can honestly say that none of this is you. He's made you feel like it is, I'm treading carefully as I don't know you both but from what you've posted, he sounds like he's carrying a lot of the same traits me abusive ex's did

Rise above it, time and again and with a bit of luck, he'll get bored and leave you be. I only hope that he doesn't change tact and try something nastier to get a rise out of you or upset you.

YOU ARE IN CONTROL! Say it, all day, every day, YOU ARE IN CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE xxx

Dame - welcome home lovely!! Fab to see you xxx

IsinDe - I'd call that a victory too, you didn't nail a bottle and a half of wine... you had three beers when out and three bottles at home... no wine is a HUGE success in my book given that wine is your biggest weakness, has far more alcohol in it, and sugar and other nasty chemicals..... good on ya! :) xxx

Ma - make sure you help me to convince Dame (and anyone else :) ) to join Bootcamp this Monday!! :) We clearly need to slim Gerald down if he's listing to one side!!

Morning to everyone else, well done to those who didn't get wasted last night, and is your day is day one today, then so be it!

Off to get food for the weekend now, once my stomach has decided what it's in the mood for!

Be back later xxx

Oh and I can second that protein helps with the sugar cravings too, although I still crave sugar being on Bootcamp

Yes, Isinde that was a good choice. And I think I remember reading that beer is not as addictive as wine, so it's easier to stop after a couple, if that's what you want?

I've got a box of non-alcoholic wine in the garage. It's been there for ages but it's my 'fall back' if, for example, we have unexpected guests or a sudden celebration (it's fizz). It's my safety net so that I don't get caught out unawares - I know how that ww works.

Just popping the cork and drinking the non-alkie fizz is enough to give me a bit of thinking space. Then I can slap myself with Barry and come to my senses

I'd completely forgotten I had it until I read that Isinde. Maybe you could do the same with some Becks Blue or other non-alkie drink? Just a thought.

Morning Babes :)
Checking in on day 3.
Wont name check you all as in a bit of a rush.
The dd's and I are off for a little day out.
Not feeling that boing yet.. but Im sure it will arrive looks around hopefully for small boing.
Baby can so, so relate to the dh situation. They like to keep your under the influence as your more passive in your behaviour.. Unless your like my nsdp who turns into a bullish idiot after a few..
Anyway thinking upbeat vibes and sending good wishes to all babes especially those struggling. x

OMG I got mine from amazon, company called H2O, they have a full range for all iPods, I filled mine with Adele, Amy Winehouse, nice relaxing tunes that fill my brain and soul with girl power!!! this is you sound amazing, Saturdays feel good and full of promise without a hangover don't they?? Big hi to my lovely gals inside ladame faire ma
And super duper mouse it's raining here and pretty cold but this bus is full of warmth and I'm full of gratitude to all of you, TODAY I WILL NOT DRINK xxxx

Thx baby just checked back and browsing h2o just now. Sounds lovely way to relax. It will make me go to the pool in evenings! Saving me from temptation. Best wishes everyone.

Jango I think I've experienced a small boing today - got all the housework done by 2.30. Well as much as it's possible to do with a 4 and 7 year old about! It's nice to have got through it without fighting the lethargy from friday night drinking. Oh and combatting the rage I always have that dh hasn't lifted a finger all week. Typically I work week days, he works weekends, saturday the house is invariably a tip Actually I have been rather passive agressive, I did all the ironing but his shirts

Isinde I'd consider drinking beer over wine a victory :) There's far less alcohol in it for a start. Years ago I used to drink lager and I drank sensibly. Tipsy but not drunk, no hangovers, I knew my limit and didn't go over it but then I discovered wine I've got plenty of lager in the house but haven't had a bottle. I've considered I should drink some with dh to keep him happy but 1) I'm scared I might suddenly develop a real taste for it 2) I don't see that I should have to drink to keep a man child happy 3) since being on this bus I want to do better than I originally intended :)

Faire - I drink Becks Blue, topped up with diet lemonade and slices of lime if I fancy a beer in the summer. I do miss cider I have to say but on this BC way of eating, beer and cider are like eating 100 chocolate cakes in one sitting so, erm, a pretty big No then?

I've just been food shopping when hungry - BIG MISTAKE! Nemo said "I can smell bread mamam, can I please have some bread?" I thought, YOU want bread? Never mind you! What about me?

So he got a half baguette, which smelt divine, gingerbread monkeys (Morris & Mollie ) which looked delish, and a Christmas (ALREADY!!!) tube of Cadbury buttons with mini treat bags, in that he will actually chew!! So, all in all, a good shop! He's sat sucking half of Morris's face..... which if you didn't know about his problems, might read weirdly!

Jango - well done on day 3, if you manage to keep going and there is no reason why you won't, is there? :) Then day 4 will make you feel even better. Then better still on day 5 etc.... your body is adjusting to the loss of all the things you were putting in.

It's like when I started on the low/no carbs, sugar or starch diet, I got 'carb flu' and felt crappy for about a week whilst my body took what if was used to being given from elsewhere IYSWIM?

That's what happens when you stop drinking, smoking or quit anything that your body is used to having in large(ish) quantities, it has to replace the removed substance.

When I first stopped I felt like shit for weeks, but I'd been nailing about

mouse so good to hear of nemo eating, although i would have the bread off him in seconds if i got the chance.
Am not stressing too much about the low carb this weekend but will be right on it on Monday. Am crap with spreadsheets so hope I post my weight in the right place....
Took all of dd2s stuff to uni this morning and dropped it off. as she has already spent a year in Spain its no big deal, but lots of terrified looking 17 year olds and worried looking mums and dads up there today. Wanted to hug the first, and tell the second to get a grip. they WILL survive, stop mollycoddling and let them grow!

Ok so wedding anniversary today (1st one) n hubby bought some champers so I probably will be having one or two glasses with our dinner as ds is with grandma. I'm not going to binge or go on a bender I feel confident I can enjoy this sensibly and I will feel just as proud of my self tonight as I was last night. Fingers crossed xx

This - to be honest, I would be sharing the fizz with my DH too, Happy Anniversary sweets :) xxx

Ma - Someone will help with the spread sheets - when you say 'eats', he kinda just sucks the life out of the food!

evening all.
mouseyou have made fabulous progress on your journey, how amazing.
this happy anniversary. hope you manage the champers.ok and don't get swayed.
demented I will definitely be a mum that needs to get a grip when ds1 goes off to uni in a couple of years! hope your dd settles in well.

well, day not so great here. have been feeling exhausted yet anxious all day.... now just had big argument with Dh so feeling worse...need to try hardest to resist ww..thankfully no alcohol in the house....counting the hours till I can go to bed

Tonight is the hardest as dd having bday party with lots of alcohol. Shes 21. Im banished to room to read. Feel like giving into ww but want to feel as good in morning as I felt this morning. Have to give her lift to boat at 6 in morning. It would be good if only 1of us hung over!

Havent decided on new name yet. Maybe omgmorehopeful sounds a bit more upbeat.

Thank you every one for ur nice words. Good luck to everyone tonight whatever people are choosing to do ie drink/ abstain. X

Have a hot chocolate Isinde. Is it dark where you are, it is here. Really starting to feel like autumn. This is when I start wishing I had an open fire.

OMG - that is going to be a really tough test BUT - if you are sober and anything happens that requires you to drive, intervene etc, at least, just for tonight, you will be that mum who can do that. Look at it that way? :)

If you don;t drink when all around you are getting wasted, then this is going to be one of the biggest successes of your journey, and at such an early part of it I promise you. YOU can do this, because you might just have to be there for others tonight...... xxx

I like OMGWillGetThroughThis :)

Hello
I am a long time lurker and occasional poster who has name changed for this. I wasn't aware of this thread until just now - have been reading a few posts and trying no to weep (about what I'm not exactly sure - just finding you I think). I am a single mum and struggling with lots of things, alcohol being one of them. I have just drunk 2 liters of value cider already tonight as i couldn't afford wine. I know I will have a terrible night, sleeplessness, anxiety, guilt, remorse etc. My DS is here with me and hates me getting drunk. I have ruined friendships because of it and this addiction has been affecting me for 30 years. I know I need help but... Not sure what I'm trying to say - just 'hello'

The great thing about posting and reading here is that we dont feel alone with any of this. Isinde ill fight ww with you.

Mouse dd made vodka jelly and a massive birthday cake and I will give some of them lift later to nite club. Theyre all lovely and well behaved. Im not finding it too hard as I can talk here and hear how all are doing. The call of ww is fading slightly but not totally gone yet for tonite!

Saus - take as much strength as you can from here. Your problems are sovfamiliar to me. And hello!!

evening peeps

Checking in after a mad busy week.

Hoping all BBs are safe and well tonight (not read back so I hope I'm not missing anything obvious)

DP being a miserable twat and doing my head in - FFs GROW UP YOU MANCHILD

but overall life's not so bad - it'd be a whole lot worse if I was drinking

IsinDe - go to bed lovely, I would if I could but Nemo is still up thanks to no school - he has too much energy! He has. however, learnt the alphabet off by heart, and can tell me every letter even out of order :)

Hot chocolate after dinner is on the menu here this evening :) Great call Faire :) xxx

This - you are doing so very well, it's fab to see :)

Baby - how are you holding out?? xx

Thank you Bobbly - it wasn't easy, given the day to day battles that we as a family have faced, and me (as a disabled, full time carer to Nemo), have had to face personally and mentally dealing with demons that were once locked deep and far away by the twist of a vodka bottle top..... suddenly free to wreak havoc on my metal well being, my emotional stability and my marriage.....

Yes, I have come a long way but I had to pull my Big Girls Pants right up and get the feck on with it :)

Right, a certain small boy needs some calming and sleep so he is up the wooden hill!!!

Be back on the thread in a bit when watching X factor back so OMG - I'll be here for a chat lovely :)

KEEP GOING!!! xxx

Decided to go for OMGWillSucceed - it has a certain ring to it!! And will hopefully apply to lots of things as well as ww.