Update on husband engaging in online grooming

[StillWaitingForMotherhood]

Hello everyone.

He has been arrested, he has been in a police cell since yesterday and the police have both his computers, his phone, camera, iPad, everything.

I am truly ashamed of myself and those of you who are furious with me and sickened by my original post are absolutely justified. Having read it back this morning I am genuinely appalled at myself.

I would just like to ask that you please try and understand that I was in utter, utter shock when I wrote it. You always imagine that you know how you would behave in a given situation, but when overnight your world changes and everything you thought you knew comes crashing down around your ears, I guess it makes you do and think strange things.

I would also like to clarify that when I referred to pubescent girls and their curves, I was attempting to articulate (very badly) that these were pictures that the girls were posting of themselves, not pictures that others had made them pose for. The way I phrased this was absolutely inappropriate and offensive and I am very, very sorry for this. All of the girls in the pictures, pubescent or pre-pubescent regardless, are CHILDREN, I would never look at it any other way and it is sickening.

I am not a troll, I am a real person who this time two days ago had a (as far as I was concerned) troubled but basically normal marriage with a troubled but basically normal man.

Anyway I have read every single one of your posts this morning and felt you deserved an update and some reassurance that this man is no longer free to talk to children.

Thank you.

[Hebemajeebe]

You have nothing to be ashamed of. You have actually done amazingly well and been unbelievably brave. Many many women in your position would not have acted so swiftly or thought so clearly. I've seen it through my work and you only have to look at all the recent scandels to see how frequently people do fail to spot the seemingly obvious about a situation like this or make excuses for this kind of behaviour. And many of them are not so emotionally connected with the person who has committed these crimes as you are when the psychological pressures to try to find an innocent explanation is so much greater. People do naturally minimise things that are so horrific and counter to what they believe about their lives. It's a normal response. All you voiced on your last thread were those thoughts that were flying through a shocked mind - once you had a chance to process your thoughts a little you were able to see things clearly again and did exactly what you had to under the hardest circumstances.

[Buzzardbird]

Thank you Op

[puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE]

Well done Still

As a mother to a young girl, I thank you for having reported this.

I'm sorry your life has been turned upside down, but just remember all the children you have helped protect and retain their innocence.

[Nadalsballs]

Well done OP, you've hopefully made our children's world a little bit safer

[CakeExpectations]

I keep thinking of you StillWaiting. This week must have be horrendous for you. Hope you're ok.

[Jux]

Well done . You have done us all a great service at enormous personal expense. You are a brave and good woman.

You are going to need a lot of support now. You will find it here, and I hope you will find it in rl too.

[themaltesefalcon]

You are amazing, OP.

[HotDogSlaughter]

You are incredibly brave. You will go on and have a wonderful, fulfilling life , you will.

[struggling100]

Please, please don't feel that you have to apologise. You are dealing with far too much already, without being made to feel that your reactions were somehow inappropriate. You were clearly completely bewildered and shocked yesterday, and struggling to process a really, really horrible discovery. The action that you have taken is tremendously brave and selfless. You now need to put yourself first. Please, please don't feel ashamed. Surround yourself with helpful and positive people, and perhaps also to see a counsellor to start dealing with the impact this will have on you.

[Lweji]

I got all confused there, thinking there had been a new update and it was already over 100 posts up without me noticing.
Almost zombie? ;)

[CanucksoontobeinLondon]

Well done, OP.