Dating thread 62 .. All welcome

[Kirstywirsty]

The Rules

1. Develop a thick skin;
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
3. It's all BS until it actually happens;
4. Trust your gut instinct;
5. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
7. If it's not fun, stop
8. loo update is mandatory

Morning! WFF - yes, date for me tonight!!

This is date 2 and we've chatted on the phone the last two nights. We seem to get along so well, he's smart & sweet and no red flags. I stil have this voice in the back of my head though telling me he'll be gone by next week - I'm trying to tell it to shut up!

I do the same thing ,thinking he won't want to know soon.
Not even sure if it an actual date tomorrow or is it two people going out for the day lol I know that don't make sense .
When I suggested we meet up last week it was as a mate but mates don't kiss and cuddle ?

I wasn't looking for a relationship. Sometimes stuff just happens

Yoga He sounds lovely That is the thing with OD isn't it, so easy to discount someone.

I wouldn't have given Mr R&R a look through OD. He really isn't my 'type' at all.

Have the day's gone

Morning Flipper morning49, morningWagon, morning Yogamorning kitty

49, NCG is so not my type, at all...[worried face], not that I have a type, unless men are a type, but he is a rainbow jumper wearer. Ah, well, what's a girl to do eh?

Half the day. Sigh

Had a lovely text this am saying wishing I was spending the day with you

WWF I would absolutely love it if Mr R&R was a rainbow jumper wearer

Morning everyone, mwwwwahhhh

Yoga he sounds good, and he has a nice face - open and likeable, I hope the date is marvellous.

Twinny - rainbow jumpers ?

I was talking to Gay Paree on and off for most of the evening. Bastarding hell, I really like him, he's easy to talk to, funny, clever, attractive, French (I think, his English is so good it's hard to tell). Obviously it's going to go nowhere, especially after I gave him cause to google Ken Dodd, which has apparently 'scarred' him.

Morning thread! Have tried to catch up, just back from 2 week hols in Portugal with Mr Ex Army and collective DC's, 14 days of 24/7 and we had a fab time! holidays with STBXH were always our good times and i was anxious beforehand that expectations may not be met. But all ghosts laid to rest, as good as and better.

did find out something very disturbing about my 13 year old DD on holiday but will start a thread in a more appropriate place, but if anyone has any experience of self harming teens and could pm me I would be grateful.

It's my 48 birthday tomorrow and this time last year I was struggling to cope, covered in bruises and couldn't see a happy future, things do turn around and I'm happier than ever, DD issues aside, -self indulgent post.

Waves to all, loving the woo and the sound advice.

Hello Tygsy, lovely to see you.

I'm really sorry to hear about your daughter, I don't have any personal experience of self-harm other than through work and the people I tend to see are the more serious/long term end of the spectrum. Hopefully there will be loads of helpful people on MN.

Thanks kin good to be back!

I think/hope it is something that has stopped now, but I only saw the scarring on holiday when she was in a bikini, we had a brief tearful chat and it started this time last year, when we all went through a shit time and I was so wrapped up in my own pain I didn't notice. nothing looks recent and she swears she is happy now and it is a thing of the past but I also know that it can start again and she could just be trying to hide it still. Anyway, not for dating! But I just want to handle her right and not get shut out by her.

Hi Tisgy Hope you get the help/support you need for you and your daughter.

Happy Birthday for tomorrow. I can recommend 48

Hi all and thanks for the advice. Decided against no strings thing with POF guy. One of the things I didn't like was that he stated on his profile that he was looking for a relationship and he wasn't direct about his intentions at the outset. I don't want to enter into any kind of arrangement with someone like that.

sounds like you've made a good instinctive decision dontcallmehon

Mehon He could be following POF advice

Hello all
Right I'm going to make a conscious effort to start posting in here regularly again. I'm having a little time away from ODing. Have hidden my profile on pof and deleted the app from my phone so I'm not tempted to take a peek. Problem is I'm bored so incredibly tempted to, just for something to do. The worst part if all this OD rubbish is that it's making me miss my (god awful lying cheating) ex. I think it's just because I'm lonely, but it was just so easy with him. Feeling utterly rubbish right now. However, I will amuse myself following your dating stories for the time being and hopefully chime in with my own soon, when I feel a bit less fragile.

Hi all! Can I join in?

I have been on POF for a few months and had a few dates. None came to anything really apart from 1. He's from Northampton but lives locally to me (I'm up north). He's been texting lots, seeing him 3 or 4 times a week for dates for around 4 weeks now. We both decided we wouldn't date anyone and have both hidden our profiles on POF.

The only thing is he has gone back down south to see his son and family this week until a week on a Monday and I've had radio silence! Tell me I'm being insecure and he's not living some weird double life? I'm normally so laid back I don't know what's got into me!

Sorry for the hijack! I'm planning on keeping up with the thread though

Lauren Reception problems maybe. Some terrible spots for it down here.

Oh I didn't think of that! I automatically assumed the worst

I've only sent him one text and he hasn't read it so that's a strong possibility!

49howdidthathappen, shocking! So POF advise men to lie to get women into bed.

Happy Friday everyone!!

Thanks for your words of wisdom regarding new man. I'm still in the bubble. It's brilliant but weird. Over the last week we have built up a major connection. I'm torn completely between mind and heart(?). He says and shows that he is really into me. Not in a I want to get into your pants way but more like he finds me interesting, learn more about me and share experiences together. I can't believe that someone actually likes me but he does and I feels good. My ex couldn't have given a hoot so having someone that is happy to disclose their feelings is different. I could listen to him talk for hours. The connection thing has taken me massively by surprise and scares me a bit. I struggle to tell him how I'm feeling and when he pays me a compliment or indicates his feelings towards me I either laugh nervously or give a sarky reply (he has pulled me up on this!). I know it's early days but signs are good. This is good isn't it?! How do I stop worrying and just allow myself to go with it???

Sounds like a very happy friday for you, Pom! Yay for you!

I've gotten my self all worked up over my date tomorrow . Stupid stuff like what to wear lol