Dating thread 62 .. All welcome

[Kirstywirsty]

The Rules

1. Develop a thick skin;
   
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
   
3. It's all BS until it actually happens;
   
4. Trust your gut instinct;
   
5. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
   
6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
   
7. If it's not fun, stop
   
8. loo update is mandatory

[PlotTwist]

Oh, a new thread. Bookmarking. Although I have no news whatsoever to report. No replies, no dates and definitely nothing betwixth these thighs that didn't run on batteries (have a cookie if you get the slingled mangled quote there).

Ah well.

[superdooperpenguin]

Evening all. Well stupid POF guy got in touch eventually today, said I had behaved like a crazy woman for ringing him twice last night after our exchange of texts and has said he needs time to think. I on the other hand need no time to think - he's absolutely gone! Once again my fuckwit radar has struck gold! I really need to evaluate why I keep getting involved with these awful guys!

In other news, I have reinstated my POF profile - with the messages I've received so far this is only adding to my glum mood!

[Flipper934]

Kitty, what Yoga said. Both of those are fairly innocuous questions that I would want to know about someone before dating/going out with them, especially as he's a friend of a friend, so you could potentially find this stuff out about him anyway. Why do you feel bad for asking them? Has he said something that makes you feel bad, or is it just you?

Penguin, bullet well dodged. Ringing 15 times might make you crazy, but twice? Oh no. Onward and upward...(things will get better on pof, given time)

(a lot of time)

[Yogagirl17]

Well I'm almost afraid to say it but i might actually have met a really nice guy on POF (and we have now confirmed that he most definitely would not wear socks with sandals!). Chatted on the phone for over an hour tonight and seeing each other again on Friday. Trying very hard not to sit here wondering what's going to go wrong. Just because i deserve something nice in my life doesn't mean I'm going to get it. Don't know if I"m a realist or just jaded.

[Flipper934]

Sshh! Don't want to jinx things, so I'm whispering. Yay for SnS!

[MsApprehension]

Yay Yogagirl

[Wagonwheels]

WFF Arf at Lack of Sex Register - I'm on it too!

However, times they are a changin' - date with footballer pulled forward to tomorrow. Hope it goes as well as last time... Think he might be the one to break my drought (Not tomorrow though, that's just a pre-season friendly)

Yoga don't look further than Friday, just enjoy it! He sounds very promising though :)

Big thread wave! Back to work this week and struggling to keep up with thread... But glad to see the Woo is still with us, and that we're all still trying hard to cut loose the wankers :)

[49howdidthathappen]

Just catching up. Agree WW excellent Woo about on here. Just the odd knob getting the well deserved chop

[scrazy]

Yoga, have a little faith but wits about you and all that. Hope he turns out to be a goodun.

Seeing my POF guy on Sunday night. It's weird as we have said it's just casual but he is prepared to drive quite a distance! Anyway, I think I will just see him a couple more times as I don't need another player in my life, got burnt the last time.

[DadfromUncle]

penguin we're not all gits honest :-) wishing woo to all in need. No luck for me still - woman off POF did message to say a medical emergency for one of her family was currently (and entirely understandably) taking priority over dating. Got a wink thing from a woman who says blokes must be strictly within 30 mins drive but she isn't. Cheered myself up with Guiness during solo visit to pics to see Alan Partridge film.

[PlotTwist]

I don't think all men are gits, my reasoning is that I'm tolerably nutty perfectly normal, then it stands to reason most people on these sites are also normal :D

My best friend says I'm just too picky. Maybe so, but he's not the one being messaged by 50 and 20 year olds.

[Pomegranatenoir]

I'm trying to catch up but struggling! This thread has picked up some serious speed!!

Okay sorry for delays in posting but I have been locked in some kind of bubble for last few days. Had chats with new man on Sunday for 4 hours. Then 5 hours on Monday, 4 hours on tues then met last night. I have never experienced anything like this before. He is gorgeous inside and out. Serious sparks, chemistry, connection all of that good stuff. He seems completely genuine and lovely. It's like he sees straight through to me. We talked about a lot of stuff that has gone on in out pasts. It feels wrong to have such a connection after such a short amount of time. He said he really likes me and I completely feel the same way. He has got the best smile I have ever seen, kissed me in the most gentle way, listens to what I say and takes it in. I could have just sat staring at him but we couldnt actually stop talking. This is scaring me.

Somebody pinch me please. I can't sleep because I can't stop thinking about him. This is bloody ridiculous!!!!! But so addictive!!!!

[AWarmFuzzyFuture]

Morning All!

Can't name check everyone, but hello to the occasional posters and longtime lurkers

WowPom that is fantastic girl I am all for you

Yoga I feel exactly the same.

Plot, all the men on the OD thread are sane and sound and if there wasn't a dating embargo of sorts this thread would be very interesting.

Dadf (have you tried OKC?) I think that due to the holidays etc POF will probably have a surge in Sept/Oct time.

Have now sorted out next date with NCG this Sunday evening. I will be stopping on the way back from taking my kids of their final holiday destination. I've booked a b&b, but would have done that anyway as it's a long journey and bank holiday traffic etc.

Although I am wondering if I really fancy him now as we are so different...I guess that is the purpose of date no.2.

If that date goes well I won't meet other bloke.

[AWarmFuzzyFuture]

Oh and I nearly forgot....fill yer boots this time.

WOO!

hope you all have a good day.

[49howdidthathappen]

Pom Steady your horses girl But enjoy!

[Overtheraenbow]

Morning all!
Not sure what todo people! Went on date 4 with Mr IT last night. All nice ... Had fun.... Cane in for coffee.... Went home...that's it!! No holding hands -peck on cheek at start/ end and a quick hug (!!) as he left!! That's it!!

Now I know he's had a tough time, he told me a bit about his marriage breakup and. I think he's been hurt a lot by that but... I'm now thinking
A) he doesn't fancy me ( in which case it's off)
B) he's shy
C) a physical RL is not important to him. ( off again)?
D) he thinks I'm not interested in anything physical

We won't see each other for over a week as I am away this week.... But should i keep it up and see what happens and see if thungs are different after I get back and see him a few more times ( if its b or d) ....... I'm starting to think its me!!

Oh, And he's just text me to say he's thinking of me.../:

[kittykat10]

It was just me . He told me other stuff that I could identify him by.
I think deep down I'm over reacting I was with some one for nearly a year and he didn't know my home addres.
Maybe slow n steady the right way to go

[superdooperpenguin]

Over sounds to me as though he is very shy. I would remedy this by either jumping him or getting him drunk!

Dad how was film? Thinking of doing my own solo trip to see it soon!

Pom as someone who has been stung twice by POF relationships please protect your heart! It all sounds lovely and hopefully there will be a happy ever after for you both, just be careful.

I'm still feeling poo this morning, just gutted that I can't seem to get any relationship beyond the 3/4 mth mark! However I am off on holiday (alone!) tomorrow so hopefully I will return a new and improved woman!

[kittykat10]

Over

Maybe he is shy, I've not really had many bf but I went from one who was very physical to one who didn't kiss me till the 3rd date and thought this new one wouldn't kiss me as it was a so called mate date so was surprised when he did.

Maybe the time away will be good for you both

[kittykat10]

Will sound like a stalker but found out his name and home address lol

Maybe I could become a detective lol

[Flipper934]

Penguin, don't feel poo about it - I used to think a bit like that, but realised that it's actually a good thing, as it meant I was weeding out the wronguns rather than putting up with them .

Kitty, your ex doesn't sound very nice at all. I can see why you might be anxious if he kept you at such a distance. I wonder if you'd benefit from taking a moment to have a look at what a healthy relationship should be like, so that you've got a better benchmark. The link to the 'Right, everybody listen up' thread in chapter 61 is a good place to start.

I hope I don't sound patronising, but you seem very unsure and you should be enjoying all this lovely attention from this guy, not worrying about everything!

Pom, rule 2. In the meantime, have fun!

Over, B, I reckon. I don't think you'd have got to date 4 without him fancying you.

[kittykat10]

I sort of kept him at a distance he never asked where I lived he never picked me up from home ect

[Ms23]

Can I join? I'm a newbie!

Just been asked on a date (by a man I've only met once about a year ago! - to cut a long story short he is a friend of a friend and when my friend told him I was single now he asked for my number). I haven't been on a date in 9 years due to long term relationship which finished around 3 months ago.

Any first date advice?! I'm so nervous and its not til next weekend due to our schedules clashing!

[Bant]

Hi 23 - first of all, read the thread OP with the rules for dating. They're not rules as such, just the accumulated wisdom and cynicism of those of us who've been dating a while.

Don't sweat it, don't get too nervous, most first dates (especially from online dating, but maybe not so much if you've already met him) end in failure - or at least no spark, just a pleasant enough evening.

Don't worry too much about what you're going to wear, most men wouldn't notice unless you were in a sack cloth, or a wedding dress. Something halfway between those two should be fine.

He should be trying to impress you, not the other way around. See how you get on, don't drink too much but a little booze helps.

And give us more background, and an update from the loo during the date. We like to live vicariously.

[Ms23]

Thanks Bant!

Background on me - I'm 31. Long term relationship just kind of fizzled out and ended amicably. I'm not looking to jump into anything serious but would like to get out there dating because my friends tell me I have to .

Background on him - err, not sure really! we've had a bit of a chat over text and obviously could ask my friend more but I don't want to have too many pre-conceived ideas about him before the date. I can only vaguely remember him from the social gathering that I met him at previously and we barely spoke at all apart from as part of a group discussion. He has a good job, is decent looking and has been friends with my friend for a long time - she says he is a lovely person.

The date is next Saturday, for drinks.