Dating thread 62 .. All welcome

[Kirstywirsty]

The Rules

1. Develop a thick skin;
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
3. It's all BS until it actually happens;
4. Trust your gut instinct;
5. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
7. If it's not fun, stop
8. loo update is mandatory

Hello all! Back from my travels... I will read and acquaint myself with everyone's news, but I needed to update re Mr RL. I need to rename him so I think SSW will do nicely.

You may remember I said a couple of weeks ago I said that he'd rung and told me he wanted more than just friendship (after months of slow burn flirting etc). We kept in contact whilst I was away and then on my return (Friday) I went round and we had 'the talk'. We both want to see where this might go, we both want low key, we both want to keep our respective dcs out of it until there is something for them to need to know, we both want to remember that this has arisen from a good friendship, we neither of us want to rush anything so we rushed into a rather delightful shag (termed by SSW as a 'knee-trembler' no less)

I'm cool with all that. My RL existence is very chaotic right now and so it will be nice to keep his friendship with a little light relief on the side () with both of us having a view to possibilities for the future.

So my biggest problem now is how do I keep myself from launching myself at him every time I see him (often every day and often with various assorted dcs hanging around)?

title all sounds really great with ssw!! And restraining self will of course be possible by visualising something deeply unattractive every time you see him. Like miley Cyrus with her tongue out.

wine I have drunk texted a flakey 21 year old when drunk soooo many times it is truly embarrassing. Gave up when I realised he still lived with his mum. Heheh.

Perhaps the prof is just waiting for you to say when you're free Hostess.

Kitty it really is all sounding good. No need to worry about any of it. And no need to feel embarrassed about people knowing you're dating either.

Broken really sorry to hear your news. I don't think that having contact with either of them is a good idea.

Bant polecat ferret (cute) or albino ferret (slightly menacing and predatory)? These things are important to us northerners.

Haha Title that's brilliant.

Things are brilliant here too, very much so. This man is just so very, very nice. He genuinely wants to make me happy, I want to make him happy. There's no crap at all, no attitude or moodiness or thoughtlessness. He's interested in what I say, and remembers stuff I tell him, and does nice things for me. It all feels so natural and relaxed and right. And he can turn my knees to jelly and make me blush just by looking at me. Couldn't ask for anything more. It's perfect.

Oh dear, I just seem to have embarrassed myself. Flew back to Hungaria and got a taxi to the flat, which was meant to be pre-paid by my company. There have been problems with the arrangement recently though so I had an email confirmation ready to show the driver if he had a problem - as the language is a nightmare.

So, he has a problem with it. I take out my phone and show him the email, he gives me a very strange look and goes 'ok' and drives away. I check the phone and unfortunately it seems instead of showing the email from my colleague, I've accidentally flipped over to a different page and have shown him Nora's angry hedgehog picture.

So now I've learned that showing an enraged rodent is Hungarian-sign for 'I know you're trying to rip me off, and I'm annoyed about it'

I must use it in the future. Perhaps I'll get a t-shirt printed.

Bant

Oh my god, I'm so sorry - have I inadvertently caused an international incident ?

(Again)

Possibly Nora, I'll keep you informed.

I've had to google hedgehog jokes for my date with 'notFrench' on Tuesday. The taxi incident should help.

But I did find :

The devout cowboy lost his favorite Bible while he was mending fences out on the range.
Three weeks later, a hedgehog walked up to him carrying the Bible in its mouth.
The cowboy couldn't believe his eyes. He took the precious book out of the hedgehog's mouth, raised his eyes heavenward and exclaimed, "It's a miracle!"
"Not really," said the hedgehog. "Your name is written inside the cover."

Oh no bant- everyone knows you should never show a Hungarian taxi driver a picture of an enraged hedgehog... :D

oww I am so happy to hear how good things are and you surely deserve it

God i feel shattered and hormonal this evening. Sofa is calling, I want to watch the whole of game of thrones 3 and that is not compatible with constant dating :)

wine I am sofa -ing for a bit I think but for future reference what is your sure fire technique? Do you message them?

I messaged 21 year old as he was terribly sweet and keen at first , then appeared to get the fear and appeared to want me to pursue him which I will only do when very pissed

Swiftly followed by 23 year old demanding Pictures within 3 texts... Goodbye... And the other young un was the little tosser with the disease fixation. Hehehehehe

So all in all have not really satisfied my young man fetish this summer. Maybe I should have got predatory and messaged a few. Not in mood now :D

Btw apologies to the thread for coming across as dirty old woman but no point trying to hide it really :D

Hostess - what 'disease fixation' ? I'm agog.

I have a hedgehog story. Probably around 10 years ago I was lying in bed with the ex Mr Nora when we became aware of a bizarre and slightly frantic rustling noise from the patio directly below the bedroom window. Being the complete gent and hero he is, Ex Mr. N suggested I investigate so I toddled off downstairs, opened the back door and saw the black bin bag moving of its own accord.

Our hero yelled from the window above that I should 'poke the bag with something', but not wanting some enraged giant rat to leap from the bag and sink its teeth into my throat, I gingerly tipped the bag up only to find a hedgehog had stuck its head into one of the little raisin packets I used to buy for the children and couldn't withdraw it so was blindly thrashing around. I duly performed an act of hedgehog rescue (admittedly slightly worried about the 15 million fleas I assumed it'd be crawling with ).

Hedgehogs!!! I am overwhelmed with cuteness....

The closest I can get is at least a rodent story. While living in a flat next to some huge tall trees my winter wardrobe was basically eaten by a hungry squirrel who got in through an open window. I had no idea before that squirrels enjoyed the taste of textiles -and for a while was convinced it was rats until i caught him in there nibbling away. He totally scared the crap out of me and I think it was mutual.

'Wine* I agree I think that with age comes wisdom and these guys show very little. Plus they are terrified of the predatory older woman they also want. It gets dull.

Ooh I want a classy evening out!! My friends are all too cultured apart from the best friend who frequents the s and m scene and that's just going too far for me. Hehehe

By 'cultured' btw I mean 'reckon they are too classy for a 'classy' nightclub.' Whereas I know I'm not

I used to have a clever hedgehog come into the back porch via the cat flap, for a late night snack of cat biscuit.

I did learn a thing about hedgehog shite. It is a fucker to get off the floor.

49 :D squirrel shit in your wardrobe is similar!!

I'm in London and have not seen a hedgehog in about five years!

So, I have a date tomorrow. Off okc, he seems really nice and genuine, I had high hopes for this one.
Thought I'd have another look at his profile to remind myself of his likes etc so I could seem interested tomorrow and boom, the do u have kids box actually said yes and I'd completely missed it. Assumed he didn't since he never mentioned it anywhere else or when we chatted.
So I asked and he saying nothing to tell, he's 15 and Iet him once.
As a single parent myself with a feckless ex who has only seen DD once this is causing huge alarm bells in my head.
Should I pull the plug on tomorrow's date or meet him and get the story (excuse) first?

I'd get the reason via email, if he's a complete arsehole (and that may not be the case, my brother hasn't seen his eldest in several years because the mother emigrated and got back together with her ex and disappeared off the radar) - if this guy is an arsehole and makes it obvious to you early on, it'll be an unpleasant date.