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Dating thread 62 .. All welcome

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Kirstywirsty · 20/08/2013 16:37

The Rules

  1. Develop a thick skin;
  2. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
  3. It's all BS until it actually happens;
  4. Trust your gut instinct;
  5. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
  6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
  7. If it's not fun, stop
  8. loo update is mandatory
OP posts:
Yogagirl17 · 20/08/2013 21:12

Just place marking in the new thread.

Foodie going to phone me tomorrow eve to chat and arrange 2nd date. :)

Flojobunny · 20/08/2013 21:12

Delete his number before you ring again

RabbitIssue · 20/08/2013 21:16

Could someone sum up the last 4 months or so for me pls? Grin

I'd got up to Snape and Nameless and then RL got in the way.

Bant still in Budapest?

Hamwidgeandcheps · 20/08/2013 21:47

Penguin that response was really disrespectful I am cross for you but know the feeling well Hmm

Hamwidgeandcheps · 20/08/2013 21:48

Leftthebastard - best nn ever! Come right in Grin

Hamwidgeandcheps · 20/08/2013 21:54

Why should I feel like shit until he has time to talk to me?
Yes, why should you??

superdooperpenguin · 20/08/2013 22:04

You're right ladies, I will not let him beat me down!

Feeling so disillusioned by OD right now, it's hard! You think once you've got past a few dates that you're safe but you're not!

I will not call him again, I will wait for him to contact me (assuming he doesn't just disappear which would be quite shitty after 3 mths of what I thought was exclusive dating!)

Starting to really dislike men!

scrazy · 20/08/2013 22:19

penguin, really sorry about the phone call. Men can be so insensitive and I cannot work out how someone who doesn't give a shit about you can still carry on dating you and let it drag on for ages. You were right to ask the question and blow him out if he doesn't do the right thing.

Leftthebastard, I love your name and you are on the right thread Grin

Place marking mostly, seeing POF guy again soon but it really is just for moving on sex Hmm this is how it started with LT except this time I will stop it before that them feelings start if ever they do.

Grincheroo · 20/08/2013 22:27

Penguin it's not all men.
Do not ring him, or text him, or email or just drop by.
Not even in a few days time when you are feeling lonely.

Instead, get back on OD and move along.
He will be back, or he won't but keep your dignity
x

Grincheroo · 20/08/2013 22:28

Also helloooooooooooooooooo to all Grin

scrazy · 20/08/2013 22:38

Yes, sorry I should have said 'some' men in my post.

JulietteMontague · 20/08/2013 22:39

Kin you are indeed a gonna, whatever you do don't let him phone charm you with his accent. Chest out for Hot Tub though I say, do you think you fancy him?

Dutchie Day tomorrow, I'm really looking forward to a cuddle and a well tended Oven Grin.

JulietteMontague · 20/08/2013 22:45

Penguin what a yes don't call, text anything again. Never mind that he apparently isn't interested in being exclusive the way he answered you was horrible. What Grinch said seems like a plan.

JulietteMontague · 20/08/2013 22:46

What a .... clearly I couldn't think of the right word so just fill in whatever you like there Penguin

AWarmFuzzyFuture · 20/08/2013 23:04

Goodness! I pop out for a few hours and come back to a new thread Grin

Crusty Cuthbert has been solidly texting/emailing all day. He has a lovely turn of phrase. If we can sort something out, hopefully, I'll be seeing him sometime over the bank holiday...fingers crossed eh?

Kin, the woo has arrivedWink The Irishman sounds interesting....

Wagonwheels · 20/08/2013 23:30

That's fab re CC, WFF, hope you get a date fixed soon Smile

And you too Kin, with HT..... Nerves, eh? Wink

The woo is indeed still with us... I also have a tentative date with the footballer at the weekend Smile

Wagonwheels · 20/08/2013 23:32

penguin I'm sending you some
Woo now too. Better you know what a vile man he is now, than even further down the line Wine

Grincheroo · 20/08/2013 23:42

WFF I may have missed something here but who had the previous Cuthbert, was that you too?
If so, are you just calling them all Cuthbert for memory purposes?
If it wasn't what's with all the Cuthberts?
Can I just call them Custard? I find that easier to remember.
I've never met a Cuthbert, just sayin'.

MirandaWest · 20/08/2013 23:58

Hello new thread :)

My children are doing v good not waking up early on holiday but also going to bed v late. We have been doing important things like running down sandunes in the dark though Grin

Flipper934 · 21/08/2013 00:18

Grin at Nora. Hot Tub and NI man with broken arm, eh? What did I tell you about the special woo?

WFF, am liking the sound of Cuthbert. Grinchie, it was Velvetspoon who had the (not so) lovely Cuthbert on a previous thread.

Penguin, sorry, lovey, that stinks.

Miranda, your holiday sounds lovely.

AWarmFuzzyFuture · 21/08/2013 05:54

Morning All!

Crusty Cuthbert will now be known as NCG (Not Cool Goatee) to avoid confusion. Yes, he has one of those types of bohemian types, with an out of control goatee extending about a good four inches past his chin Shock

I am still very surprised by him, as I would have thought we'd have no chemistry and completely different outlook/wavelength.

Jules have fun, I am absolutely thrilled for youSmile

Right, stand by your beds....Woo!

superdooperpenguin · 21/08/2013 07:29

Good morning, I am still feeling mad! He didn't get in touch at all - how can you date for 3 mths and then disappear like that? I handled it all in the most mature way last night of course (pjs, crisps and too much wine).

I don't know if I can face going through all this again with someone new! I seem to have a real knack of attracting commitment phobes!

kittykat10 · 21/08/2013 08:53

He answered he said it made him laugh me asking if he'd been married then we went back to our flirty chat !

kittymchotpress · 21/08/2013 08:55

hi super I feel your pain! long time lurker...v occasional poster. I had the same after two months and it stung like hell. but if I looked back closely all the signs were there, but I chose to ignore them Angry , I think I need to have a review of my boundaries before getting back on the OD carousel. have realised I can't make it work through strength of will Grin , and perhaps the benefit of the doubt shouldn't be need to be used so much in the early days...hope I remember all this nexy time and get out at the (second) niggle. good luck.

Overtheraenbow · 21/08/2013 09:13

Oh I appear to be logged in again ( last password!!)
Hello to all - good to see the woo has been working its woo-derful magic for those of you who have it. It's heading your way if you haven't ( yet!!)

Got my own bit of woo going on here!! Mr IT and I went on 3 rd date last night, then he came in to mine for. coffee ( with a small c)!!) as he was going he asked if I wanted I carry on seeing each other ( am aware I'm probably giving off some wary vibes though I think that's cos I'm wary of getting hurt) I said I did and he seemed relieved !! Trying to sor out date it was looking way in advance as I'm on hols so he said how about tomorrow night!! So I saw him Sunday/ Tuesday and Wednesday wow!! Can't sustain that (he lives 25 miles away)

Also I have a 1st meet tomorrow with Mr Jazz.....hmm go/ don't go ??