Dating thread 62 .. All welcome

[Kirstywirsty]

The Rules

1. Develop a thick skin;
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
3. It's all BS until it actually happens;
4. Trust your gut instinct;
5. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
7. If it's not fun, stop
8. loo update is mandatory

Hon, sounds like a mysogonistic creep to me.

Hamwidge, and WFF, if it's not right, it's not right.

I had no fanjo-leap with MA on the first date, but it seems to have taken up trampolining since.

Coconuts, take your time, make sure the decision is right for you.

Spreading the woo on behalf of WFF this morning.....

I think fanjo leaps can develop :)

I've heard they're introducing fanjo leaps as a new event for the next Olympics.

What's fanjo leaps

Sorry to sound thick

My date is on yet lol

Waves to all

I'm going to write this all down in the hope that it's cathartic.

Yesterday I spent the day with Ironman, inc Coffee. All was great.

Then in the evening I went for a late date with TopCat, I met him in a pub at 10.20! I was home and on here again by 11.30!
So I now have a crap date story too; TopCat only talks about himself and when I tried to speak he shhhhed me! So I thought 'sod this, I could be at home in my pyjamas' so I left quickly.
So I left, went home, rang Ironman and felt better.

Still undecided about the Ironman situation though.

Good morning Fred!
Sorry I've been AWOL for so long. Gladdened by the continuing woo! (kin I reckon it's storing up something special for both of us!

Lots of RL shit and sugar to deal with.
STBXH finally moved out - again - at the weekend. This is a balance of S&S, really relieved to finally see the back of him, but kids not so happy. He also carry picked kitchen implements and condiments, which I only discovered as I needed them
All sugar was neice's hen do - full works including stripper! Definitely an experience! Not sure I'm keen to repeat it though!

Not much on dating front here. Had a brief return to Carman, from way back, but only confirmed why it stopped in the first place. Had Date1 with Poet, which was a bit meh, but he sees quite too keen. Not sure how to proceed, thought i was happy to see him again, but not keen on the constant supply of stanza's I've inspired!

And on a final note - any London-based Fredees at a loose end tonight and fancy a cut-price theatre trip PM me!

kitty Fanjo leaps are the flutters of lust, like butterflies, but not in your stomach!

Lovely, is there anything worse than being shushed? Well, obviously there is, but it makes me steam. I hope you can come to a decision about Ironman - you obviously like him loads, he seems to soothe you, those are a great foundation

Lol ok well I know sound daft lol

coco Ironman Coffee?

I think i need slightly more detail. I thought it was all very much off?

you left terrible date and phoned ironman and then felt better. Why are you binning him off?!

Hi Fred
Right ok I'm starting in earnest with the dating. Nominate me a od site and I will do a profile

I found OK Cupid was good for me :)

Ham it depends where you live and what you like.
For example; Guardian Soulmates is good if you live in a city but useless if you live rurally.
Match seems to be universally popular, OKC is better than Match for accuracy of potential dates, POF has many chancers but it is free and busy, Mysinglefriend means they are endorsed so slightly lowers the possibility of meeting a complete nutter.
BTW this is only anecdotal (mostly from these dating threads) as I haven't really used any of them.

Snape there are a handful of good reasons I shouldn't be with Ironman, most of them are surmountable but one in particular is not. Since he left at the weekend we have talked at length and he wants to work on the surmountable things, keep seeing each other and review in a few months time.
There are also a handful of good reasons that we should be together.
I am torn about the 'wait and see how it goes approach' as I'm of the 'if it doesn't work then move along' school of thought, I don't do faffing.
But I do love him and there are many good things about 'us'. Also, my workload this year will be very heavy indeed and I don't see much opportunity to form a relationship with anyone else for another year from now.
All thoughts welcome because I'm feeling a bit lost, which is not like me at all!

Apologies for the ramble, I hope no-one minds. I don't usually do it!

Thanks folks...I'm
Going in!

A brief pop in as I just have to share the news that I apparently have 'heartbreakingly beautiful eyes' , and a working bullshit detector my friend ...

As you were.

ha ha nora

'as a good looking woman have you ever considered finding a wealthy man who can help you start up your business?'
WOAH SCARLET FLAG ALERT.

Kin you heartbreaker you. :D

Ham lovely gives good advice, I think that okc is the best of the free ones. I was once on PoF and was horrified frankly.

Sorry to hear about all the 'meh' and awful dates. Onward and upward.

I am to see Prof tonight (with invite to stay over in his spare room as I have nowhere else to stay in his home town :/) and I am TERRIFIED. I am worried that whatever I do eg Coffee/no Coffee will be the WRONG THING. Bah.

Well, Ham, have you done it and braced yourself to read an influx of bollocky messages like the one above ?

Okc does have some w*nkers though.

A friend is on there being quite open that she is just looking for casual sex atm. She has had a couple of messages inquiring if she 'has any diseases' and one saying simply 'disgusting repellent whore' :-0

It just f*s me off so much that a woman being open about what she wants supposedly lays herself open to these kind of insults... I'm guessing the hundreds of blokes openly gagging for an easy shag rarely get them (I may of course be wrong). apologies, feminist rant over...

My latest flattering message: 'I am interested in the short term dating and casual sex you mention, what do you have to say about that?'

From a man describing himself as a 'Portuguese stallion'

I don't mention casual sex on profile btw.

I don't feel I DO have an awful lot to say about that, tbh.

Well DrFlash is history, as it MrT.
Just got back from a date and he was perfect! Way too normal for me! I'm in love! The trouble is he told me when he met another woman off the net she was too full on. How on earth am I going to play it cool!
I've no idea if he even wants another date anyway. Can I send a "nice meeting u, would u like to do it again sometime?" text? Or do I have to wait for him?

Hostess you should just do whatever takes your fancy at the time, no point in fretting beforehand, que sera sera etc.

(What I didn't mention is my 'luscious lips', I am indeed a heartbreaker on a grand scale)

lovely re Ironman the whole 'I want to be with you but not yet' would ring alarm bells for me. Surely (unless there is a massive geographical problem eg he has to spend a year in Singapore etc) if he really likes you you can get on with it now??? Is that what you would want ideally?

Ah Kin I've had my luscious lips mentioned a few times by dodgy chancers

Flojo why not send the nice text if you like him.