Dating thread 62 .. All welcome

[Kirstywirsty]

The Rules

1. Develop a thick skin;
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
3. It's all BS until it actually happens;
4. Trust your gut instinct;
5. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
7. If it's not fun, stop
8. loo update is mandatory

KinNora 'amusing socialists, men who are fluent in French and penniless artists prefer me....'LMAO god does that ring a bell or 2.

49 I actually find dating eats my time more, if I actually try to see all the people I'd like to try out (god that sounds awful... like test driving a car :/) I'd be out every night of the week and that ain't happening...

At least with one man you can chill out on the sofa and have takeaway and catch up on Breaking Bad etc (I still haven't seen ANY of that...)

And for dates you have to be all spruced up, full makeup if you do that kind of thing, legs freshly shaved, hair washed and arranged, no slobbing around in t shirts etc... takes bloody TIME...

wff i await the woo tidal wave with some trepidation LOL

kittykat I'd actually just fess up to having no money and say 'can we do something fun and free' as others said. There's no shame in being skint especially now :/

Hello again, got some great advice from you guys a couple of months back about a guy I met through POF. Took a break from it as decided was not ready, but having lurked on Match have just joined up. Have had a few emails back and forth with a guy who I initially winked and who wants to meet up but I am not really interested in anymore. What is etiquette here? Is it OK to just ignore and hope he goes away or should I send a blunt - no don't want to meet up. Help - I am so bloody clueless and also quite spineless!!

Huddy - I would say its best to let him down gently, say you're dating someone else and feel you have to see how that goes, you don't feel comfortable double-dating, rather than ignoring or saying no

Hello all - apologies for not being around much

all still going beautifully with Henry :o

Makes such a refreshing change after seventeen years of shite consisting of ten year shite marriage then seven years dating on and off, shortish relationships etc.

Hello Lubey, bloody brilliant Henry news and hello all

Kin you are right, I do not attract amusing socialists, men who are fluent in French or heaven forbid penniless artists. Those men don't appeal to me, all that wishy washy indecisiveness does not appeal at all and i would call them on their lack of pragmatism
Yes, celebs & rich men are me, as are proper manly chaps.

So I saw Ironman this evening and we did The Coffee, which was great but I have agreed to some things that on reflection I'm not sure about, oh lordy.

Morning Thread

Busy day today at work.

Lubey , hey (page 20 folk) Coconut, Bant, Huddy, Hostess, and Kitty

Date update later.

Bonne Chance x

Woo! [WFF waves hands in a wizard spell type of way]

Morning all.

Woke early again by panicking pet, it's calm again but I'm awake.

Texted Mr car and not heard anything guess ball in his court now !

Hostess You are right about all the dating malarkey. Can't remember the last time I shaved my legs. Properly

Oh dear Coconut Easy to get swept away with Coffee.

Kin Knitwear. Reminded me of the old knitting pattern male models. Not a good look!

Have fun WFF Hope he is at least clean.

Lubey Yay for Henry

Hi can I come in? ..new to all this
I know no one can answer this question but me but when do you know you're ready to jump back on as it were! single for 10 months after a long marriage, 2 teens, very sociable outgoing personality and miss going out meals drinks tec. ALL friends and family are couples and feel guilty dragging them out all the time. Been having a snoop on match but not joined up yet. feel very anxious/excited. How was your first step??

lovely what are these things you have agreed to??
WFF tons of woo for the date

Everything I just splurged out an okc profile in 5 minutes, stuck on the most decent but not too flattering photo I had.. and waited. I am 40 and no model but have met a few interesting guys.and some weirdos and tossers

Date Report...

Well, I drove 30 mins to share Nachos and drink (alcohol free) beer with chap.

My initial impressions was 'oh' not in a thrilled way. He has a lovely face, and great teeth (I have a thing about poor dentistry) We chatted quite nicely: common interests etc. Usually I am either a 'Yay!' or 'Hmm, let's see' feeling.

Lovely bloke, has run over 20 marathons. We talked a length about running as it is something I used to do lots of in the past.

I didn't experience my fanjo leap

Couple of amber flags: he took a phonecall from his adult son during our date, no apology offered for the interruption. Plus in the car park didn't walk me to my car as we came to his car he said 'I am parked here so...'

I could see him again, he has messaged me asking if I'd like to see him again. Not sure...

I have just ended things with mr hot and cold who I stupidly adored. He doesnt adore me

I didn't get a fanjo-leap with nameless. I was just really glad to spend a couple of hours with a hottie. :) I suggest seeing him again, he might be a grower...and fanjo-leaps are over emphasised some times. Maybe not the best basis for a relationship (sure and steady wins the day)

Nameless made me a web page. The second date (kissing!) started with watching the BBC penguin spy documentary. He has given me infinite penguins.

Not sure.

I sent him my 'we're not right for each other note' But I did leave the door open so to speak.

He talked a lot about his obsession: running

Snape - I wrote the Bant's penguin scoring system when I was bored. But hearing 'infinite penguins' actually makes me all well up inside. Lovely. :)

Wff the walk to the car is tough. If we say 'ill walk you to your car' when in a car park, it could be seen as an invasion of privacy/space or hankering for a snog. If the moment isn't right, it's an awkward thing for us to suggest..

Hi all

hostess he wants us to get back together, he will slow down on the moving things on front. I've said I'm thinking about it, I was thinking about it so much I went back for more Coffee today . I'm still thinking, plus there are other considerations.
I find myself in a quandry.....

:-( hamwidge sounds like you did the right thing though.

On the walking to the car thing, the doc from last night left me to walk for ten minutes to the tram station on my own.

He talked a lot about his Porsche and his new Mercedes, yawn. He asked me a lot of questions, some too personal - eg about my ex.

On the other hand he was charming and complimentary. No spark. He did pay for the meal, but I went home feeling flat after 2 hours. I texted to say 'thanks for a nice evening.' he replied 'thanks to you also.'

I immediately messaged Mr casual POF guy, who invited me out on Saturday- but I'm away. At least I fancy him.

hon - thanks for the comment about the cars. I've really got to stop boasting about my moped.

Bant

He really was too too much. At one point he asked, and I quote: 'as a good looking woman have you ever considered finding a wealthy man who can help you start up your business?'

Why can't I meet someone nice and normal?

That's the point where you stab him in the nose with your fork

Don't 'as a good looking woman have you ever considered finding a wealthy man who can help you start up your business?'
What has being good looking got to do with setting up your own business? What sort of business was he suggesting? Ew.

I was telling him about the tutoring centre I want to set up. I have no intention of getting some wealthy man to finance it for me. It was quite insulting really.

Ah, not as bad as it could have been but still, ew.
A lucky escape I'd say.

Went out with friends last night came home as didn't feel well, texted Mr car to reply to his earlier text , mentioned wasn't well and went to bed.
Woke up this am and

Had a lovely text asking if I was ok no babe or sexy just my name which I found really nice.