Dating thread 62 .. All welcome

[Kirstywirsty]

The Rules

1. Develop a thick skin;
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
3. It's all BS until it actually happens;
4. Trust your gut instinct;
5. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
7. If it's not fun, stop
8. loo update is mandatory

I've met him too. I was with a man at the time and he didn't try it on. I've seen his new film.

Still lurking, not much news for me. I'm still in touch with POF guy but not sure when I will see him again.

Small world eh ?

Nice to see you Scrazy

Kin I can't tell you which one because it might out me but I was working, he was very erm attentive, all lager hands. He gave me his number, needless to say I didn't ring it. It was a loooong time ago.

I had a 2nd date with TopCat, he's lovely, could be a slow burner.
I also have a date planned with a friend of a friend, in order to differentiate I'm going to call him FoF#2 (this time it's personal). I know him a bit already, it will be interesting to see what he's like when it's just the two of us.
But I don't know whether I will see much of either of them because yesterday Ironman came back to collect some things and would like us to try again but slowly.

My brain is so confused.

Lovely (now I want to know what job you do) - you've got it all going on, haven't you. How are you feeling about trying again with Ironman ?

WFF horrified to hear you are feeling meh! that must be the equivalent of a massive downer for anyone else- big hug to you and remember to say f* em...

Kin yeah as I fess up to working in a university on my profile I get a lot of profs and I've been on a date with one before who was a fascinating guy (as they tend to be, although too often full of EGO) but awful teeth.

Teeth are a total dealbreaker for me. Stained teeth make me feel ill. I don't know why, I can handle fat, baldness etc in the right person...

Getting nervous about Friday, as I always do when things look promising.... :/

Kitty congrats on job and sounds as if your thing with new man is going ok too...

Kin I don't do the same job now, this was pre career, I was working at a celeb hang out. i might have reciprocated with a celeb or two

I missed Ironman awfully and he only left on Saturday, much more than I anticipated and much more than i ever have STBXH. It was just that I lost my nerve when we looked at houses to move into. He says let's try again, stop looking at houses and slow down.
OTOH I'd started down the road of getting over him. All suggestions of how to proceed would be gratefully received because I feel a bit lost really

It's off topic but I didn't get the job a bit upset but it was an hour's drive away .
Came home and had a good cry and cuddle with the pup!

But keep everything crossed for my next one , which is the one I really want.

Lovely really ? oooooh. Celebs and rich men make a beeline for my sister, amusing socialists, men who are fluent in French and penniless artists prefer me.

As for 'how to proceed', and prefacing this with disclaimers about my own shitty track record, you say that the only thing that gave you pause for thought with him was the sea change when you started looking at houses together -I think some degree of trepidation is normal when you're considering such a monumental change, especially when you've had previously unsuccessful relationships. Do you love him ? Want to be with him ? Does spending time in his company make you happier than not being in his company ? There's your answer.

Kitty that's a shame but I've got my fingers crossed for the one you really want.

What do you guys do about who pays for the date?

My money is limited after bills, petrol,food I have less than 5 pounds for me even worse this week as job center refuse to reimburse me for today's interview costs and I feel awkward when he paid on Saturday.

I've always paid my way so this feels odd

I usually pay for myself Kitty until we are in a relationship/on a regular footing. Then we take turns or share the costs: one buys drinks the other pays for the activity etc.

I think in your situation I would postpone date until I could afford to pay my way.

Or choose something inexpensive like a walk with cold drinks/coffee brought from home.

Have you all been busy putting in a cosmic order?

I have a lunch date tomorrow. OKC man, seems straightforward and nice. (bloke mentioned upthread who invited my to Google him). Let's hope he likes a daily shower (I have a name in the wings waiting if things get to date 3)

Two other dates lined up for next week. Although I am reminded of rule 3. (aka the BS rule)

Woo! - there is a tsunami of dating activity on it's way!

I'm hoping he will come to a charity fete at weekend it only 1 pound so I'll pay. He has known my situation before the meeting me and to be honest I'm h as lot doing the walks etc as feel it more relaxed.
I'm hopeless at eating out due to eating issues so relaxed stuff fun x

Or maybe your right like my friend said it not fair on him to travel to see me

The costs he incurs to see you are his choice Kitty

Kitty, if he knows the situation, and he's happy to travel to see you, then of course that's fine. It's not like you're taking advantage of him! Or forcing him to travel when he doesn't want to!

Kitty I agree with WFF, there's plenty of cheap fun stuff you can do without getting into any awkward dynamics of him paying, or you giving the impression you expect/need him to. You're not balancing some global trade deal so if he does incur additional travel costs I wouldn't worry about it.

He was actually the 1st person I told I lost my job a few months back . His pet was sick the same day and since that day we have spoken daily

Kitty He knows the score. Relax and enjoy

One bad thing about having a man in your life is the lack of fucking time!

I'd be happy to make the sacrifice of time for a man like R&R 49 it's a fair exchange I think

Texted him about job said sorry and then naughty text saying you pass my exam!!
Which made me smile x

WFF I am a brat Headless chicken routine been a bit full on today.

Kitty

'Tsunami of woo' my arse WFF !
Day 2 with no bloke contact (apart from Spud and Grizzly Gardener, they don't count, obv) whatsoever - mark my words, I'm going to end up a desiccated old trout, knitting in the corner at your weddings/handfastings/ceremonial orgies.

Fortunately I'm back at work next week so will be doing something useful.

Why is it so difficult kids date lol

Too date mad predictive text