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Dating thread 62 .. All welcome

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Kirstywirsty · 20/08/2013 16:37

The Rules

  1. Develop a thick skin;
  2. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
  3. It's all BS until it actually happens;
  4. Trust your gut instinct;
  5. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
  6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
  7. If it's not fun, stop
  8. loo update is mandatory
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TravelinColour · 27/08/2013 22:59

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Bant · 27/08/2013 23:27

Travel - yes, me too

Overtheraenbow · 27/08/2013 23:33

Evening all!! Been away all week and shocking signal just checking in !!

Date with Mr Jazz very pleasant ( well the tickets he lured me with were the main draw and the event was excellent as predicted) he took me for dinner and paid and we parted with pleasantries and keep in touches! But I suspect although we were matched in personality/ tastes etc that's as far as it went: he could be one of my old college friends .

I only went as I'd already set it up oh and I REALLY wanted to go to that event ( did I mention that??) but spent most of last week with Mr IT who has been the height of attentiveness !! He asked if we were 'seeing each other' ( was that the exclusive talk??) felt a bit bad as I had arranged Mr Jazz ... But haven't spoken to anyone else on okc since. He's text me every day since I've been away , just nice friendly stuff and we have a date on Saturday .... But still not sure where its going. Have been told by friends to stop overthinking and enjoy. I like him but I'm worried he's not ready ( despite fact he's in EXACTLY the same situation as I am) hmmm......

Flipper934 · 27/08/2013 23:42

Over, I'm also guilty of overthinking, but I'm learning to let go and just enjoy things for what they are.

Sorry, but none of your bumping into people compares with the guy who lives three doors down from me, that i knew to say hello to, and who recognised me and messaged me on OKC. Honestly, if it wasn't for the fact that he later introduced himself, I still wouldn't have known it was him. I'm rubbish at faces.

AWarmFuzzyFuture · 28/08/2013 06:45

Morning Thread!

I've had people recognise me from my photos (on OD websites). So I hesitated putting my photo up in such a public arena. I have one of 'those' faces that people seem to recognise easily.

One of the guys I am chatting to sent me his full name and invited me to Google him. I thought that was very open. I don't have an internet presence, I am far too uninteresting and unaccomplished...Grin Will probably be seeing him tomorrow. Naming to follow if first meet goes well.

Feeling a bit mid week 'meh'.

Someone else can summond/send the Woo! today

Woo is shorthand for all the spiritual new age/positive thinking/atmosphere changing/universe agreeing stuff. [It is a bit of fun really, unless it works of course!]

It started about a dozen threads back when someone said they had put in a cosmic order thecosmicorderingsite.com/ and it worked.

KinNora · 28/08/2013 07:10

Morning everyone,

Wot, no WFF ?

Over not overthinking is one of those things that are harder in practice than they are hypothetically, or than they are if you don't give two shiny shites about the bloke.

Travel I'm impressed both by your ability to ride a bike in a pencil skirt and to wear red lipstick on a day to day basis.

Hostess had you mentioned the Prof a while ago ? (Or am I hallucinating again ? )

Flipper I'm so glad you've said that about recognising people, I'm utterly useless, I have to identify patients in the waiting room, with whom I've just spent 15 minutes, by fixing on their bag or shoes or something.

It does mean that I will never know if someone recognises me from OD because I'll just assume I've met them through work < non-specific, friendly, interested face, like a minor royal touring a provincial tap factory>

The only dating update I have is messages from a London café owner, Ian Beale, and a grizzly gardener who is both bearded and grizzled and is yet to learn of my complete plant apathy.

Hot Tub is somewhere in the wilds of the Lake District, necking real ale by the bucketload and Gay Paree is on holiday with his kids hopefully with no t'internet because I'll be disappointed if I don't hear from him again, Hot Tub and STD Man not so much

Have a smashing day, chaps, mwwwwwahhhhhh to all.

KinNora · 28/08/2013 07:11

Oh there you are x

kittykat10 · 28/08/2013 07:11

He texted me later that night , I guess as I have nothing to do all day and every day same so bit clingy.
I don't want to be but find it hard, plus I have a job interview today which I'm worried over I guess blew it out of proportion.

Last night's text were chatty then flirty so guess I got a bit loopy lol

Good job every one here so nice

KinNora · 28/08/2013 07:17

I'm pleased for you Kitty, good luck with the interview later - knock their socks off.

kittykat10 · 28/08/2013 07:30

Have to the exam to even get a chance of interview x

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Kirstywirsty · 28/08/2013 07:44

Good luck kitty

Moving into my new house today!! FoF coming over at tea time to help ..

I've only ever seen one person I recognised from POF .. But then he is nearly 7' tall so hard to miss!! .. Saw him next day after chatting at the train station .. I of course ignored him ( just chatting as local not because I fancied him)

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kittykat10 · 28/08/2013 07:48

I live about a five min walk from one bloke I chatted to I pass his house when I walk the dog lol oh yeah there Is the other local one who I can see in to back bedrooms from my house lol

KinNora · 28/08/2013 07:51

FoF coming over to 'help' Kirsty or to christen the new house ? Wishing you shedloads of happiness in your new home. Thanks

Flipper934 · 28/08/2013 08:11

Good luck with the moving in, Kirsty, and congratulations! Hope this is a fab new start for you.

Good luck to Kitty, too. Nerves always blow things out of proportion.

I've got one of those faces that people think they've seen before, I'm forever getting people asking me where we've met. Now, being so rubbish myself, it is entirely possible, but often they'll remind me of events I've had nothing to do with, so I'm used to random strangers starting up conversations. Never tall, wiry, hot strangers though.

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Kirstywirsty · 28/08/2013 08:21

nora yes I have told him every room has to be christened .. the conservatory should be interesting!' Wink

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KinNora · 28/08/2013 08:22

Exactly Flipper, I meet people in the supermarket or wherever, they're really friendly and from what they say we've obviously spoken at some length in the past but I have no idea who they are.

Perhaps we should form a support group for ourselves.

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Kirstywirsty · 28/08/2013 08:22

Ironically today would have been my 9th wedding anniversary .. I am so much happier now that I was 2 years ago when we had the last one

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KinNora · 28/08/2013 08:23

Kirsty you can be like the shagging neighbours on The Fast Show.

lovelybunchofcoconuts · 28/08/2013 08:46

Grin morning.
Well, I've unwittingly made my situation complicated. Time to have a good, serious thhink about what I really want and need.
How do I go about that?

Nora have you got a link to The Fast Show shagging neighbours?
I was propositioned by one of the men from The Fast Show and it put me off watching, although I used to find it really funny it was never the same after that!

kittykat10 · 28/08/2013 08:49

He remembered I had an Interview

I went all school girl crush for a moment lol.

KinNora · 28/08/2013 09:37

Lovely I've just spent a good 15 minutes on Google and YouTube and no, I can't find them. Which one propositioned you ?

Where I'm from a large number of women of my generation have had similar encounters with a certain comic actor who currently has a (very funny) film in cinemas.
(I've met him loads of times, never tried it on with me - pah)

MsApprehension · 28/08/2013 10:18

I have a first date report from last night.

This is the third guy I've been out with from PoF and I think he is the best so far. I wasn't bowled over by his animal magnetism but I found him reasonably attractive and funny, although he did talk about himself in such astonishing detail that I struggled to get a word in edgeways at times! Think we will meet again (just wish he was a bit taller) Grin

(My date on Saturday with Oz was nice although I was embarrassingly late, he was very sweaty and I accidentally spat a bit of fortune cookie at him. Think I'll have to politely decline second date.)

Bant · 28/08/2013 10:28

Nora - my XW was insulted by that DJ from Norwich, if that's the one you're talking about (would saying his name here be slanderous?) and refused to ever watch the show after that. He gets around apparently.

MsApp - how tall? And what did the fortune cookie message say? Duck?

MsApprehension · 28/08/2013 10:36

Bant My message said something generic about wisdom. His said something about how he would benefit from the evening's activities, and I thought "don't bet on it mate" Grin

This bloke is about my height so not short really, it's just that my ex was 6ft 6 so in comparison anyone else seems small. He is also quite slight in build which made me feel a bit chunky.

KinNora · 28/08/2013 11:33

Bant yes and yes and yes ! I first met him when I was 15 and he was a dweeb at a hoe down (don't judge me, it was at an all boys' school, we were on the pull) with keys attached to his belt.

Cough. Onanist.