Dating thread 62 .. All welcome

[Kirstywirsty]

The Rules

1. Develop a thick skin;
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
3. It's all BS until it actually happens;
4. Trust your gut instinct;
5. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
7. If it's not fun, stop
8. loo update is mandatory

Quick hello to you all! Having a wonderful, wonderful holiday with dc. We're at the zoo today ...

No dating news from me, apart from getting lots of lovely messages from Alpha. Looking forward to seeing him when we're back which should be a good antidote to that post-holiday comedown.

Sending you all lots of happiness and woo of whatever variety suits best.

Morning all :)

I'm hopelessly behind with all your news, but yay for those of you who are in that happy place where it's all lovely, relaxed and easy. And sending some dating thread Woo to all of you who want it! to the sofa- dwellers.

I'll be lurking over the next few weeks, and probably won't be posting much - about to move house and it's all getting a bit stressful so much so that I'm sitting in the sun at the moment when I should be packing boxes but date 3 with the footballer is happening this week, he is very easy to be with and it's all lovely so far

"snap" with Wag, it's moving time here soonish so I'm cheerfully on the sofa but will be lurking and mentally high fiving you all!

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And me juliette. Text an hour before she was supposed to pick the kids up saying could it be later this evening rather than lunch. No, as I have plans. This is an issue, apparently.

Hey Thread!

I behaved

Date number 2 report. Nice to see him again, (he is lovely ) lots of eye contact and kissing, chatting. But...I think we aren't quite right for each other.

He is just too different. I imagine that after the initial novelty wore off I'd be and just turned off by his lifestyle. He is a serious hippie. who could do with a wash

So onwards and upwards, no harm, no foul.

P.S. It was a really lovely date though.

Have just read up on all the going on's for Kirsty Yoga and Kin

He 'could do with a wash' - really ?

I've got no goings on Twinny as well you know...

Yes really. He is lovely but yes, there definitely is a whiff about him.

And he is two years older than he said on his profile, which given that he is at the top end of my age range is not ideal.

I thought I saw that you are meeting STD man (nice name) next week.

Oh yeah, him, that's not going to go anywhere, he's a typical GSM bloke, all ethical beige and Nigel Slater.

The woo has to start somewhere @ 'ethical beige' why aren't you drooling Kin don't be too insouciant

Lol Kin @ Sit on My Face! You're one classy burd you is.

Kirsty Aha, I get it - FoF, friend of a friend...sorry, I"m a little slow sometimes.

Juliette Oh, yes please! Although it has occurred to me in my more evil moments that being really, really nice to XH just might freak OW out. Might have to start putting smily faces on my texts. It will probably kill me but if it causes her to lose a night's sleep it will be fucking worth it!

WFF hmm, a 'definite whiff' would be a deal-breaker for me.

It's definitely ex spouse being a fucking idiot day - grrrr.

What's up Kin?

Don't let the b'stards grind you down.

Nothing definate but possible date 3 next weekend,I asked in a very casual way,I'm trying to keep it to non traditional date stuff so it's relaxed.
We were mates and nothing else to a week ago don't want to rush it

Oh he's got a very high-powered job, one that's stratospheric compared to my lowly status at the bottom of the nhs and he is seemingly incapable of making any arrangements for the children - the thing is, if you asked him, he'd say he's a fantastic father and so would his satanic family

OH they're all fantastic fathers Kin - Father of the Fucking Year, every one of them.

I don't know how old your children are Yoga but the consolation is that as they get older, they recognise the truth for themselves.

Kin yes, old enough to start to see for themselves

coconut you go! And hooray for everyone else's dating success. Having difficulty at the mo with Meet Up guy do to presence of children - we both have two. Mine are around visiting quite a lot do to school holidays, which tends to limit what we can do at mine, IYSWIM; he wants to spend time with his ( they are a bit younger than mine) during school holidays. This has created some mis- understandings, though I attempted to clear the air about it today.
One issue is he sees his kids at XPs place, & occasionally spends the night there, which I am not entirely comfortable with. He does not have a lot of choice in this as his place is too small, & DCs prefer their own patch. I envisage a scenario where his XP makes a move, especially as he would really like to spend more time with kids. He assures me this won't happen, he has moved on, etc. But still... after his latest visit I found him a bit distant, he says this is due to him missing DCs.
This is our baggage & a bummer. Not a lot to be done about it, just try to move past it. School will start soon.

Evening all

Moan I wouldn't be comfortable with him spending the night at his ex's house either. As for the being distant, what do you think that's about?

I'm mooching about POF & match although I'm not putting any effort into it! I don't have a photo up.
I'm meeting TopCat sometime this week although I'm not putting any effort into that either.
I go back to work next week and that is taking my attention, I had so much to do this holiday and haven't done a thing PANIC!

Oh no - I blocked Mr Casual sex guy on POF and now he's texting me repeatedly, asking why I have blocked him and saying 'I take it u don't fancie sum fun...' Erm. No. I don't.

I have spent the whole weekend with Mr R&R. I have even cooked for him

He met my ex today. It went well. Ex texted me later 'He seems a nice guy. Happy for you'

You can't hide from the Woo Kin

Knackered thread wave

WFF You can keep the jumper

49 impressed you can run Mr R & R by your X!
Coconuts thanks for your opinion, at least I now feel my reaction to this is not out of order. I did mention to him my discomfort with his overnights.
It is still early days for us, I am far from divorced myself. I will have to see how the situation with his XP plays out, as I need to be confident that chapter is closed for sure.
I am now managing my kids time with me a bit more assertively - on my terms rather than theirs - so this should help.