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Dating thread 62 .. All welcome

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Kirstywirsty · 20/08/2013 16:37

The Rules

  1. Develop a thick skin;
  2. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
  3. It's all BS until it actually happens;
  4. Trust your gut instinct;
  5. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
  6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
  7. If it's not fun, stop
  8. loo update is mandatory
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Snapespeare · 24/08/2013 14:09

nora interview was 'just OK' they didn't cry... Or pass out with delight at having met me....so I shall wait and see. Was very warm day and i wore long sleeved wool dress and jacket to hide tattoos. train home was packed. then downstairs dog ran up the drive and stuck it's head up my skirt and sniffed my crotch. [Hmm] No results until mid September (they're seeing a lot of people) and I have another interview for something else early September....and have applied for another eight jobs, so que sera etc.

Namelesses birthday yesterday, he's off to his parents for a few days Hmm so I am borderline crazy-with-lust. Have also torturing self by googling 'long term health implications of M.E' [sigh] of course none of this has to happen, but it's contributing to me feeling a little gloomy.

Threadwave, hello new folk! And lovely to hear good news for kirsty pom & others! Yay! :)

hostesswithleastest · 24/08/2013 15:04

snape sending job vibes your way. Re ME I guess that the Internet will magnify the worst case scenarios and maybe stepping away from Google might help? I've had friends with it, one who is now (almost) totally recovered after a horrible 5 year bout. How is nameless doing ATM with the symptoms?

The gavel has fallen on young un. Next!!

Next one has stepped up in the form of a 23 year old travel agent. Hehehe. We'll give it a go why not.

wine far too young was 21. Blush

Snapespeare · 24/08/2013 15:17

Oh I know, Internet diagnosis is just like prodding a loose tooth with one's tongue or picking a scab. I'll let it be. :) he has good days and bad days, sometimes feels very low because he can't enjoy the things he used to and has a bit of a yearn for his healthier days I think... Arguably then he wouldn't necessarily have met me, so swings and roundabouts and all that.

grinch that's a shame about ironman... But you sound like you know it's a good decision, so 'chin out, tits up' :)

KinNora · 24/08/2013 15:23

Slightly dazed and dreamy face at Ontzettend Dikke Ochtend Lul.

Ok, back in the room.

Pony the reason I recognise the whole rescuer shizzle is because it's me all over, it's my default and has done me no favours whatsoever. The re-evaluation that OD has forced me into has made me realise that although I will always be a 'carer' what I never again want is an imbalance, I want a man who will care for me.

Snape bit of a bugger you're having to wait to hear about the job. Has Nameless's ME improved since the start of your relationship ? There are so many conditions where levels of contentment and happiness have a direct effect on the prognosis and symptoms.

I've had some Space Dust and a spectacular chocolate milkshake this morning, now I just need a good seeing to.

Yogagirl17 · 24/08/2013 15:57

Hi Snape - good luck on the job front!

Snapespeare · 24/08/2013 16:06

He's improved marginally I think...he's more inclined to get out of the house, walk up to the park with me etc. :)

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Kirstywirsty · 24/08/2013 17:05

Fingers crossed for the job snape

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kittykat10 · 24/08/2013 17:43

Well I went on date 2, it was lovely a kiss as soon as I got in car I'm still rather nervous on the kissing front.
Chatted away on way there , during the visit held my hand or had his arm around me .
drove me home more kisses and cuddles in car . Even cheeky kiss on boob lol
He talked about other days out etc what we could do which sounded good.
Hope to see him again x

MirandaWest · 24/08/2013 17:55

Glad you had a good date kitty :)

Am back home in the rain to a divorce petition. Knew it was coming (XH and I sat down and filled it in together) but is still a bit weird Confused.

Right now would like either an unpacking fairy or someone to give me a hug. Right now it's sort of good I am on my own as XH was generally useless at things like coming back from holiday and would probably have gone to bed as he was "tired" so I'd be doing the same things anyway but this way at least I know it's all down to me.

It's wet and I'm tired. And DDs new book inexplicably got saturated on the way back home

49howdidthathappen · 24/08/2013 18:42

Sorry to hear Ironman wasn't going to work out for you Grinch You seem on good form though Smile

Oh God the missing them Snape

*Juliette Grin

Sending you bucket loads of Woo Kin

ponygirlcurtis · 24/08/2013 18:57

Sounds good kitty - and as long as you are actively ok with the hand-holding and the cheeky kisses on the boob Grin then fantastic!

Miranda even though you knew it was coming, still not a nice thing to get on a Saturday. I am still to get mine done, not sure when I'll get round to it. Sending you a virtual hug and a Wine for tonight - you can enjoy it after you've unpacked calmly and in peace. Or before you start on it, up to you!!

kittykat10 · 24/08/2013 19:03

Well I blushed but it wasn't forced and it nice to know he not as shy as I thought.

KinNora · 24/08/2013 19:09

Noooooooo 49 not the woo, I can't cope with falling for someone - too scary ( exceptions made for Mr R&R clones, obv )

dontcallmehon · 24/08/2013 19:11

Hi again all, glad to hear such positive dating stories - gives me hope! Date two with doctor on wednesday. One of my issues is that I can't imagine kissing him. Date 1 seemed fun but quite formal and I'm not sure if there was a spark...

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Kirstywirsty · 24/08/2013 19:35

hon (sorry couldn't resist ) go and meet him again .. I wasn't sure if there was a spark with FoF on date 1 .. There definitely was on date 2

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MirandaWest · 24/08/2013 19:36

Thank you pony girl :) I have a beer chilling in the fridge for later (have told DC they are going to bed a bit earlier than when we were away Grin)

DadfromUncle · 24/08/2013 19:39

Hello all, as usual, nothing to report. Created a profile on OKC (thanks for the prompt/tip WFF). Once I put in all my search criteria there was a grand total of ........1 woman! She looks really stern in her picture (not in a good way). Will have to slacken off on requirements a bit but looks worse than POF at first glance. Back from a gruelling week in that London being trained by an enthusiastic workaholic Californian bloke - need time to unwind, and back for 3 days more tortue next week - mustn't grumble or will get fired. Glass of wine and DVD for me tonight (solo) not my DD w/e but did see her this am which was good.

DadfromUncle · 24/08/2013 19:42

BTW - should I put exact same pics on POF and OKC?

kittykat10 · 24/08/2013 20:46

I used the same pics on a different website

KinNora · 24/08/2013 20:49

I don't see any reason why not DFU if they're good ones, I'm sure you're about a million times better than most blokes on okc because I've been contacted by some interesting people.

kittykat10 · 24/08/2013 20:55

He texted and said sorry for boob kiss would only do what I wanted to do.
I was a bit shocked but it not like it wasn't nice , hope that don't make me me seem cheap .
I was worried today I'd not like him as much again after 5 Months of texts you build up an image , but I did , it was nice some to show affection in public even if I was shy over it lol.
Plus it nice someone who likes to do fun stuff and not just the usual meals ect which normally fills me with dread due to eating disorder.

Good luck to peeps on dates today xxx

Grincheroo · 24/08/2013 21:15

49 yes I'm good thanks Grin I'm off out for a drink in a minute with my friend, she feels bad for me but there's no need Confused

hon don't imagine kissing him, go on the date and actually kiss him Smile

kitty that sounds promising.

Waves to all Grin

dontcallmehon · 24/08/2013 21:33

Ooh I can't imagine kissing him. I don't even know where we're going yet, I'm waiting for him to suggest a location. After our first date he sent me a text to say I was 'utterly engaging' which was rather lovely. Smile

Grincheroo · 24/08/2013 21:35

hon utterly engaging is a splendid thing to say, no wonder you can't imagine kissing him, I wouldn't want to do anything to stop a man talking either if he said kind things like that.

BaltiPie · 24/08/2013 22:02

Hi again!

I am okc again emailing with the new guy I exchanged messages with yesterday evening. He seems ok so far and we chat easily so I am overlooking overuse of "ha ha" (for the moment!)

I wondered when people thought its ok to give your phone number out - I ask because he ended last nights exchange by giving me his phone number and I though that was kinda soon - I could be any old weirdo for all he knows Grin

I haven't used it yet - I thought I would wait and see if he got in touch again, in case he was just bored last night [cynical]

We are emailing now after he sent me a message just saying "Evening X". I feel so out of practice and worried about him being a bad 'un I feel like I am looking for things wrong with him already Confused