Ouch, just been dumped by a friend, come and hold my hand...

[ruggedhitchhiker]

...or slap me, not sure which is best

It happens, I know. But it's happened quite a lot, recently - about 4 in the last few years.

I know not every friendship is for life. People move on, get busy, get bored of your jokes. But I liked this one. And can't really tell what I did wrong this time.

I still have a small circle of lovely (tolerant), funny, kind friends who have known me for yonks and still want to hang out (though a very small circle. Let's call it a circlet). But people I could trust and confide in and wouldn't run away fast into the bushes? Apart from my partner, maybe 2.

Does that make me evil? Or crazy?

Please someone come and tell me that it's similar for them.

I need to go and clean something furiously (if you are on the same train line as me, I can be at your house in 40 minutes).

Awwww

Hi everyone - sorry for not coming back sooner, I've just been eaten up by Monster Work. I'm so grateful to all of you for sharing your own experiences. I really didn't expect to find many people who understood. Even just reading the messages makes me feel a little less alone.

Cerealqueen and Viva, your posts especially struck a chord - well, actually, all of you.

I really think/hope that a lot of this is about not valuing ourselves enough. For me, and it seems some of the rest of us, we're coming on here and saying 'They did this, they said that...but I stayed friends with them...' and it's only when other Mumsnetters are getting angry on our behalf, that we're realising, we deserved better.

FriedSprout and fellow Hampshire Sistahs, I am really sorry, I can't make Thurs (tom) or the following (10th). But I would very much like to come to another one, so will bookmark this thread.

Something that is very hard - the more knocks you get, the more scared you are to try again. (Sorry I can't remember who said they had cut themselves off socially, and don't know how to go back to the page without losing this message, but I really relate to your post). So I have to admit, I very much would like to meet up, and from this thread you sound lovely, but - it's nerve-wracking. You don't want to stick a pin in the wound.

Oh dear, that went a bit gory! Hampshire gang, have a great time tomorrow - and others elsewhere - hope you get to meet. We must be brave. RH

Oh I am not popular, but am very approachable at work. I think I come over as a bit po and humourless,.which in combination with intensity/awkward anxiety must make for a winning combination socially

Btw I live nowhere near Hampshire or Scotland so no likelihood of making a meet there

I'm in Fife, not far from the FRB with a couple of teens and a dug. I would like to meet local Mners . I have turned into a teen-taxi with no other life.

Evening all - final call for anyone wanting a 10.30 meet up tomorrow.
So far there is a total of two ( and that includes me) - you're all lightweights

Pm me for details

Mrsmindcontrol - did you check your inbox?

I have people I talk to on the phone every once in a while, but I don't have any close friends I would trust to go to in a crisis or help me out, except my partner.

Now I am a parent, my priorities have changed. Plus a lot of my old friends were very immature and self absorbed (I am 23).

I live on the South West coast. Not that it matters now, the weather is still rubbish!