Ouch, just been dumped by a friend, come and hold my hand...

[ruggedhitchhiker]

...or slap me, not sure which is best

It happens, I know. But it's happened quite a lot, recently - about 4 in the last few years.

I know not every friendship is for life. People move on, get busy, get bored of your jokes. But I liked this one. And can't really tell what I did wrong this time.

I still have a small circle of lovely (tolerant), funny, kind friends who have known me for yonks and still want to hang out (though a very small circle. Let's call it a circlet). But people I could trust and confide in and wouldn't run away fast into the bushes? Apart from my partner, maybe 2.

Does that make me evil? Or crazy?

Please someone come and tell me that it's similar for them.

I need to go and clean something furiously (if you are on the same train line as me, I can be at your house in 40 minutes).

Awwww

Hello Mum2Fergus... I actually know a Mum with a Fergus but she is in the Borders! Hello Doha!

I'm in Scotland too!

Im in the same boat too. I think my problem is that Im quite shy..it takes me ages to find courage to get to know people and by the time I have it, they are gone.
My dh is my best friend - and I am his. he also doesnt have many friends - cant understand that though because he is lovely!
I have one friend who is amazing - I met her through a parenting website when we were both preggers last year and she has been so wonderful (when I lost my dad recently, when my ILs lost the plot and we had to cut contact) and I hope I have been there for her too. I work full time and my dh is a sahd, so I cant meet mummy friends going to baby groups etc, and bless him - he takes our LO to baby groups and the women there (he is the only man) look at him like he's a serial killer or something, so no friends there either.
we dont really have any family either between us - only my mum!

My Little girl is almost one and we were thinking about her birthday the other day. I see pics of birthday parties on fb etc (others DC etc) and I remarked to dh that I feel quite embarrassed that we couldnt do that even if we wanted to because I dont really have anyone much to invite.

I feel a bit less rubbish that Im not alone oin this though!

sadly Im not in any of the areas mentioned

Gosh that looks like 4 of us in Scotland now---positively heaving

5 aside league here we come lol x

Am very old, but very close to you and in similar boat. Bit the bullet and met up with another lovely mumsnetter recently.

Come and join us for coffee, garden centre visiting and . We know how to live it up in these parts

Where are you FriedSprout?

Rock n roll Sprout!! Where you at?!

Quality not quantity ladies! I've never really thought much about this but I guess I have one truly good friend who I can turn to in a crisis. I also have a sister and a cousin that I'm close to. I do have lots of social friends all related to my kids'school/extra-curriculur activities. We meet for coffees/plan occassional nights out/take day trips with kids. I have 2 or 3 good work friends who I lunch with during the week, talk shop with and indulge in gossip with. We have a very 'tight' community where I also consider my neighbours to be friendd of sorts - all ages.

I think maybe it's a question of definition, I'm calling all of these people 'friends' but except for thr first one mentioned none of them are completely that, they all serve different purposes so to speak and I dont expect any more from them. My DH on the other hand literally has scores of great friends, many of whom have been around since childhood and whom I know he can have confide in as much as I csn with my 'best' friend - I've never called her that tbh and I dont know if I'd be her bf but that honestly doesnt bother me. I accept the relationships I have whatever form they take but dont go looking for new ones - laziness really....

Happy hugs I agree with you I call them all friends but I don't expect the same from all, I feel supported and happy with the few friends I have.

I posted last week cos I was fed up with always being the one to make the effort with my two "best friends". I'm reading this thread tonight and wondering if the very fact we are posting on here at all, about all manner of problems and dilemmas, should tell us that we have no mates!!!!!!!!

Those with mates will be texting them, not talking(posting) with a bunch of strangers...........

Ps I'm in Scotland too!

Or, using my logic (!) These 'strangers' could just be another type of friend....

Happy, I do agree, I've had great support on here. But I feel so let down by my RL friends that I can't contemplate setting up a blind friend date with a MNer only to be stood up by some troll! Content to post for now.....,

Ahhh we have our 5 a side

ivmessedup l am NOT a troll honest !!

I'm Chichester, am I too far East? I'll come over and meet up too! Or if you ever need to clean, I have a pretty messy house and lots of tea on offer though in reality I feel guilty even if my sister washes up!
I promise I'm not a troll :)

I can relate to this thread

'I think it's a sign of strength don'twanna that you are recognising when you need to shed people. I have clung on to people who weren't interested in the past and it only hurts you. '

Gosh, this rings true. Have been valiantly hanging on to two former BFs, despite them clearly not being interested. It hurts that they aren't. All since having children for me, and being a SAHM not the socialising career women they still are.

That text about the Chablis is just cruel!!

One of the above BFs used to call me to tell me when I wasn't invited to something as I'd be wondering why she wasn't available.

DH says just lose them...but we are talking 20+ years of history here.

I'll bring the juice and oranges for half time. I'd be up for a nae mates meet up . However as ivemessedup says, would worry that I'd be stood up....

I too know a lot of people and I think lots of people think I'm really popular and have lots of friends. In reality though I have work colleagues I meet for lunch and people who I know through the kids. With the exception of a couple I couldn't turn to them for support etc. Even the two I can do this with, I'm scared to in case I put them off and lose the too!

That's why I post on MN, amongst other reasons, feel really supported on here.

Goha and mum2fergus, south of Winchester, north of Southampton, v. good secondary school, but not kings

Am usually to be found drinking gin having nice cup of tea in the shrubbery section at Brambridge G.C.

Fried. That is just around the corner from me. Wow I didn't think I had mums netter so close. So who is going to be brave enough to suggest meeting up?? (Runs and hides).

I've tried to suggest a meet up in last post but no takers ...(shuffles into lonely corner and quietly sobs)

Tweet. Where about are you. I'll be brave. Come and meet me. Kids back to school so just me and the baby after 4th. Happy to come out at night if that suits others better.

Tweet you are in Scotland. Couldn't be further away from me :-(

That would have been lovely eve, I'm at home with baby too but I am in Scotland. That's a shame, thank you for responding though