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I don't know what to make of this.

127 replies

Spottypurse · 16/08/2013 20:49

DP always told me he hadn't done something.

I discovered today that he had.

It's not a bad thing, but it's really weird that he never told me.

I don't even know why I'm posting. I feel odd and rather unsettled. Like I don't know him.

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SinisterSal · 16/08/2013 21:13

Was it 'been in Birmingham' or soemthing like that?

If it's mundane he mat simply have forgotten the day you asked him and never thought since.

(Apols to Brummies for calling their city 'mundane')

Mum2Fergus · 16/08/2013 21:13

Graduated?

cozietoesie · 16/08/2013 21:14

Use this as a vehicle to get to know him better. Talk to him.

CinnabarRed · 16/08/2013 21:14

Done a degree?

Tiredemma · 16/08/2013 21:14

Ahem....

(From north birmingham.....)

CrapBag · 16/08/2013 21:15

It must be graduated surely? Or forces? Not something you could forget but odd to lie about.

These things would not 'out' you though.

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Spottypurse · 16/08/2013 21:15

Cinnabar and Mum2Fergus have it.

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JohnnyFontaneCannaeSing · 16/08/2013 21:15

Maybe he just couldn't be bothered to go into details with you when it came up and felt it easier just to say it hadn't happened.

SinisterSal · 16/08/2013 21:16

From a 4 yr uni course or a weekend training course ?

RabbitIssue · 16/08/2013 21:16

graduated?

RabbitIssue · 16/08/2013 21:16

sorry crossposted

CinnabarRed · 16/08/2013 21:17

What did you think he'd been doing between the ages of roughly 18 and 22?

It's a really odd thing to lie about, and would make me worry what other lies are out there.

Surely the more usual thing would be to pretend that you do have a degree when you don't?

Tiredemma · 16/08/2013 21:18

A photo on the piano you say?

Has he been to an Elton John concert and not disclosed this?

IfYouLoveSomebodyLetThemSleep · 16/08/2013 21:18

So ask him about why he lied and see what he has to say.

WhoNickedMyName · 16/08/2013 21:18

How long have you been together?

ImperialBlether · 16/08/2013 21:19

I suppose that's why the OP is so concerned, Cinnabar. If he'd said he'd graduated but hadn't, that would be understandable in a way.

ListWriter · 16/08/2013 21:19

Unless he's told you the truth and the photo is the lie?

enderwoman · 16/08/2013 21:19

Been on a roller coaster? Met someone famous? Won an award? Been in a newspaper? Visited a famous landmark?

CinnabarRed · 16/08/2013 21:20

The OP's definitely not over-reacting though. This would throw me too.

Catnap26 · 16/08/2013 21:20

Maybe he passed but not with a good grade and was a bit ashamed or maybe his degree isn't remotely related to his current career and he feels embarrassed or as if he has let himself down.

I think it is strange to lie about but may have understandable reasons.i would honestly ask him about it.

WhoNickedMyName · 16/08/2013 21:21

Depends what he's told you.

My DH would tell you he's never been to university, but he has a cap and gown photo from doing a HND at college.

Ask him.

enderwoman · 16/08/2013 21:21

Just seen op's update.
Did he get a bad grade?

MissStrawberry · 16/08/2013 21:21

He said he hadn't got a degree and has?

You feel sick?

Blimey.

Catnap26 · 16/08/2013 21:23

Maybe he is lying to his family and they think he has a degree but he doesn't and has forged the photo.

It is a real mystery.

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Spottypurse · 16/08/2013 21:23

I don't know what he got. I didn't get a chance to talk to him.

I don't know why I feel so uneasy. It doesn't matter now - so why lie?

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