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MummyTo1PlusBump · 14/06/2006 07:11

As some of you will already know off the antinatal posts im 12 weeks pregnan with a 14 month old ds.

Well last night i recieved a knock on the door from a woman saying ive been asked to give you this, it was a note saying my wife has been sleeping wiht your dh for some time and we are divorcing because she says its love apparently, heres her number, ask her.

So i phoned the number and a woman answered, when i asked if she was sleeping with my dh she said im not answering any of your questions ask him. I then phoned him who denied it and only admitted to sleeping with her when i asked him to swear on ds's life, he says its not from her dh as they split up 2 years ago and no way is it love, he says it was a stupid mistake a one off never to be repeated, she has then apparently been stalking him via phone and when he brushed her off she has resorted to this.

Anyway i then chucked him out at about 3am and he went to his sisters, we hardly have sex as it is, he says cause hes always tired but if thats the case then why did he fuck here.

I dont know what to do ive been up all night crying, havent slept so sorry for any typos, i dont know where to turn, i moved 300 miles from my friends and family to be with him and i cant cope with it, i think i believe what he is saying to me but i cant trust my own judgment anymore, he swears on ds that it is the only time its happened, i love him dearly but my world has been shattered by this what can i do.

Thank you for reading so far

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tillibugger · 11/07/2006 13:37

Just a little note to say i agree with all the good advice you have been given here and time is a great healer. Re: revenge. I know its so hard not to contact slut (sorry) but it really is better not to have her tel numbers etc. I have experience of this and some of these sluts (sorry) actually would quite enjoy u calling and hearing your in pain etc. keep strong it will get better, i can only read this every few weeks cos it brings too much bac to me.

tillibugger · 11/07/2006 13:37

Just a little note to say i agree with all the good advice you have been given here and time is a great healer. Re: revenge. I know its so hard not to contact slut (sorry) but it really is better not to have her tel numbers etc. I have experience of this and some of these sluts (sorry) actually would quite enjoy u calling and hearing your in pain etc. keep strong it will get better, i can only read this every few weeks cos it brings too much bac to me.

MummyTo1PlusBump · 11/07/2006 16:16

I know what you mean tb, ive had the urge to ring her a few times but always thought why humiliate myself letting her know whats shes done to me and my family, im sorry you had to go through this too, i wouldnt wish this on my worst enemy ( well apart from her), Thanks for all your kind words everyone

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longwaytogo · 11/07/2006 17:23

Gosh you have brought back memories of when he used to go out and be longer than I expected and my stomach would be in knots. I still do this sometimes but it does get better as do all the other things.

MummyTo1PlusBump · 14/07/2006 14:02

Hi all just a quick update

The MC is going really well and i feel like im getting something out of it, although DH thinks its rubbish he does understand my need for it,things are going ok, although his friend just called him a few mins ago who split with his dw about a month ago and he has now found out that she was cheating on him, it really angered me to hear my dh saying "shes such a bitch" "your better off without her" and "thats what they all say" i mean if he knows all this then why the F&*K didnt he think about that before he started his sordid affair, my new philosophy on life is trust no one as you will always get let down in the end! other than this though and a few wobbles here and there things are going good between us (well as good as they can be at the moment), I hope you all are well m21pb x

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