What do you make of this text exchange?

[happinessisfree]

Had a gut feeling so checked dh phone. Messages between him and another woman. I know who this woman is he calls her a friend. Seen a few text exchanges berween them including.

DH: Call me at 9:30

OW: I will call once he has gone to work.

And

DH: Is 11 o clock ok

OW: I can meet you in town or are you free Saturday.

I have not confronted him I want to see some more evidence I dont want him to squirm out of it. I have been cheated on before I dont trust my own judgement. Am i crazy or is this suspect?

Im not really that strong ive been blubbering a lot this afternoon. I feel strong with all of you behind me though.

He came back, tried to have sex with me. Told a few more lies. He says nothing happened, ow suffering from depression, he has told her im crazy and she should report me to the police for harassment (I only rang her the once to say she was welcome to him).

He also said that now I have accused him he may as well sleep with her and if I have destroyed her relationship he will be with her. Who does he think he is?

I am glad he has been so vile. I hate him.

Yeah he sounds vile. He's certainly sticking to the 'caught out' script ... What a complete fucker !! Where is he now ?? I very much hope you have called in some RL support, if not we're all here for you and will do all we can !!

happiness Nothing wrong with blubbering, just try and not let him see you cry if you can help it. You are incredibly strong. He is the weak one.

Tried to have sex with you?! FFS, what a prick.

He is funny, isn't he? I hope you laughed like a drain.

See what he did?

1 flatter
2 deny
3 criticise and blame pass
4 threaten you with the police, indirectly
5 tell you what he wants ie her- and pass it off as all your doing.

He is pathetic.

What a complete asswipe.

Nothing else to add to this really, except just be glad you are out of it.

Gosh what a pathetic specimen.

And as Winter said, nowt wrong with blubbering, you won't feel strong all the time, but as you rightly said, we are here behind you :)

Who have you got who can support you in RL?

If you go through the list that onefewernow just made and imagine an innocent person doing that it is laughable! Can't believe people try deny this shit!

The OW is welcome to him..he thinks he is a prize to be won, actually its the opposite she gets the booby prize.

I hoe you get legal advice tomorrow OP and keep this man away from you, he is vile.

What a prick. He's trying to threaten you that he'll leave if you have damaged HER (already damaged) relationship ?

Hope the door doesn't trap his dick when it slams repeatedly

Yes a prize prick. I knew he would react like this. I can see straight through him.

Ive messaged my sister I'm going to see her tomorrow for a chat. I havent really felt like talking to anyone face to face today.

I think he honestly thinks this will all blow over. I dont think he ever thought he would be forced to leave.

I suspect he thought he'd have his feet under the table with a little lip service. He's probably panicking at the thought of sitting in a bedsit alone in dirty grey pants and a Pot Noodle (here's hoping)

Where is he now ?

I hope he is very far from you

he tried to have sex with you ? I hope you made it very clear that was an act of aggression.

Stay strong, love

At the moment, he does think it will blow over. I hope you don't concur with that when he starts the charm offensive. So many of these threads end with women just like you taking these fuckwits back. Don't be one of them.

Listen to AuntyOldFucker.

What's with the old eh, AF? Celebrating again are we?

And next he'll be accusing you of "stirring it" just so OW's husband would mete out punishment to him/her/both. Because after all, you have no other concerns or priorities oh no.

I have a celebration, hissy

I became a great aunt today

happiness! i felt so upset and sick for you when i saw your news. massive hugs and holding your hand. you poor thing

i actually feel like knocking his block off personally. nasty arsehole! trying to use the fact hes been caught to try and justify it! as for ow i wouldve told her husband showed him the texts. why the hell should she swan off with her marriage after wrecking yours? the cheap slut. but on the other hand, should she stay with her husband, fuckwit would lose out both ways. dont let him slither out of this one. get your new life, pamper yourself hold your head up high show him what hes thrown away.

what will they achieve. theres a true saying: if they'll cheat with you, theyll cheat ON you. id slip that little gem to him. cos down the line it'll echo in his head each time her phones off or she gets a text and he'll find himself in your shoes. then he can lay in the filth he helped create... x

The fact is, if he were innocent of any wrongdoing, he would not have reacted with anger, and blamed you.

He would have reacted with horror at having allowed himself to get into a situation that worried you so. He'd be embarrassed, remorseful, falling over himself to prove his sincerity to you. He would totally understand how it must look and be mortified.

But no. He reacted with anger. Anger that you caught him out. Anger that it's all gone tits up. How dare you discover his affair?
So he attacks you. You're paranoid. Snooping. Out to cause trouble. He defends her!

Chuck him the fuck out.

Hi OP
I hope you are OK today and I'm sure having a good chat about all this with your sister will help.
A problem shared and all that.
You're doing so well.
Stay strong.

So sorry op but well done for being string and not letting him ride roughshod all over you!

I hear this often on here, but he is not a prize to be won. His reaction tells you all you need to know...

Very none mn but 'hugs'

Well done for doing the right thing. For your own sake NEVER ever take this pathetic excuse for a man back. Ever..

I'm sorry you feel so hurt right now but honestly you will be so much better off without him in all and every aspect of your life.