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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Off To Find The Summer Sun and Sobriety!

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Mouseface · 05/08/2013 22:38

Hello, I'm Mouse :)

Welcome to the Bus, take a seat and enjoy the ride. We're a Bus full of drinkers, non-drinkers, those who are trying to give up for life, those who are giving up for a few hours because that's all that they can manage (which is fine!) or quitting just for today......

We don't wear Judgey Pants (they're far too last year darhling Wink) but we have hugs a plenty and tough love when it's needed. Which isn't often!

So, what have you got to lose? If you're reading this, you're thinking that you are no longer happy with the way you drink, which tells me that this is the Bus for you. :)

If you'd like to see where we've been so far and what we've been up to, take a peek HERE

And if you want to knnow why we're here in the first place, take a look at THIS THREAD RIGHT HERE :)

See you soon x

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Isindesidecar · 27/08/2013 08:16

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LRDPomogiMnyeSRabotoi · 27/08/2013 08:31

Oh, no, isinde. I'm so sorry.

And ma.

Ladame · 27/08/2013 08:56

Oh Inde (she would be the same age as my girl, I'm going to go and give her a hug right now) and Ma sending thoughts x Sad

Have a good Tuesday all babes x

lonnika · 27/08/2013 09:11

17 weeks AF today :).

Can't quite believe it myself :).

mrspicklepants · 27/08/2013 09:24

Thoughts are with all brave babes after catching up quickly on posts.... Just wanted to ask a quick question as to how many babes roughly feel that their alcohol misuse could be linked to depression? I just feel I can never quite give up the drink but not sure why? Should I try antidepressants maybe and then maybe I won't need whatever I'm using the drink for. I don't know but am wasting another day here hungover:-(

Anneisnotmyname · 27/08/2013 09:52

Mouse you are too kind to me, im on day one again! I didn't even try yesterday, spent the day comfort eating and then felt like what's the point? I've eaten rubbish I may as well have some wine. About half a bottle :(

Mrspickle I think you have a point about alcohol misuse being linked to depression. I don't think I'm exactly depressed but I feel that something is not right with me. Like drinking last night, I was upset and anxious over a lot of little things. I'd sound pathetic if I listed them, but it's like it was gnawing away at me all day so I had to have a drink. Which didn't help, I am still thinking of it now.

bobblypop · 27/08/2013 09:57

morning all
isinde sorry to hear that sad news. and ma very sad. does indeed make you value what you've got.
lonika wow - that is amazing!! Well done you. you should feel so proud. I'm not sure I have ever been 17 weeks af - except when pg of course...

day 6 here for me today which is good by my recent standards! Grin haven't slept well for last 2 nights, and shattered today...BUT do feel more positive AND managed to tackle lots of housework yesterday that I just haven't found the motivation for for ages so house looking much better which always improves my mood Grin

Had a mug of ovaltine last night followed by an early night and read my kindle (and no I don't care if that makes me sound about 90 LOL)...how lovely was that instead of falling into bed in a fuzzy wine induced blur!

hope everyone else doing OK. Grin

bobblypop · 27/08/2013 09:58

pickledpants I do find a link between my depresison and alcohol use. bit of a vicious circle though. I'm on anti ds. they do help. but then when I drink they dont work as well...and then my mood drops...then I drink more...etc!

Anneisnotmyname · 27/08/2013 09:59

Oh and having just posted that im now wondering if how I felt yesterday and today was not in part caused by drinking the night before.

lonnika · 27/08/2013 10:03

Wow just heard latest statistics show 20-25 percent of adult population drink to excess. Well done to us babes who have recognised we want to cut down on our drinking and are trying to do something aout it.

Isinde - sorry about our news
Ma - Said a quick prayer for Steff.

To add a bit more info on me - without revealing too much about who I am - I hope.

A year ago a very very close relative died of alcoholism. we had tried and tried to get help but they refused - it was tragic, sad and a very lonely end of life for what had been a brilliant, intelligent, humorous individual :(

I still didn't really acknowledge that my life could eventually go the same way but I did vow to address my own relationship with alcohol. Anyway. Like to think that their death saved me and therefore wasn't in vain - sorry for the ramble.

Have a good day all
L xxxxx

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Mouseface · 27/08/2013 12:23

Afternoon, tis me, Mouse

IsinDe - that is crushing to read, I'm so very very sorry to read that post about the young woman Sad Life is just too short to waste it drinking, and events like this really bring that into perspective. Massive hugs and lots of love to you my friend xxx

Ma - you feeling less faint today? Grin

Annie - so what? Try and try again? Day 1 is better than 'Fuck It' Always :) You clearly want to keep going otherwise you'd have stopped posting by now or not bothered to try each day. Go on, let's see if we can do it today, just today? Do it with me? xx

Lonni -you ROCK lady!!! Bloody marvellous. :) xxx

Well, we're going to go home a day early rather than break our necks to be out by 10am on Friday, I'd rather take our time and get home in a calm manner rather than DH getting cross with the car whilst packing. Etc.....

Off to Tesco for a quick top up shop, see you later xxx

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redstormrising · 27/08/2013 13:43

Hello BraveBabes.

Have been lurking and have decided to post. Inde I am so terribly sorry about your friend. Ma I also have said a prayer for Steff.

Thanks

I admire you all so much, for addressing your issues with alcohol head-on. I am ready to address mine I think too. basically my consumption has gone up and up and up, and in the past 6 weeks or so I have drunk at least a bottle of wine a day usually followed by another glass or two or a couple of pints of beer. I am desperate to cut down- preferably to nothing, but just down.

I am afraid though.... I have heard that going cold turkey can be dangerous... does anyone have any advice or tips? I have tried tapering my intake right down, but that just seems to give me an excuse to keep drinking, IYKWIM. I cut down for a few days and then go right back up again.

I am keeping a drinking diary, and it is scary.

Sorry to leap in and start with my problems hoping for advice. But thanks so much if anyone can.

Ladame · 27/08/2013 14:22

Hi redstormrising Welcome to the Bus! In the absence of anyone else at the moment, here is your ticket and information on opal fruits, Barry, etc. This ticket is valid forever Grin There will be wiser babes along soon, but just a suggestion ... try one AF night and then see if you can do another. It's easier to think properly about things when you don't feel anxious or recovering from a night before. Try tonight if you can. Eat plenty (and early if hunger is a trigger), sip nice soft drinks, pj's early and a nice bath and early night.

Ladame · 27/08/2013 17:21

Tumbleweed rolls across thread Ahem babes, where are you all, did I kill the thread?? I was in an 'incident' today Shock but I won't tell until someone comes on the thread (stamps foot)

Lon Such an inspiration you fabulous babe you!!

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Mouseface · 27/08/2013 17:29

Ma - I'm sorry, I missed your post about Alex's suicide and Stef and her families loss, it's so very sad when young people kill themselves.

I don't have my candle with me to light but will say a prayer for Stef. Bless you lovely lady for posting when you must feel so sad today xxx

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Mouseface · 27/08/2013 17:30

Dame :)

What happened and are you okay?

xxx

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Ladame · 27/08/2013 17:34

Yes Mouse I'm ok thanks. I was in Intermarche shopping and the lady came running out from behind the cheese counter and rounded me and a few other ladies up and made us come behind the counter. There was some shouting at the checkouts (we couldn't see) and then a Police siren. Apparently, there was a man with a gun. He got taken away, loads of Police and kerfuffle. Scary scary!!!!

Ladame · 27/08/2013 17:37

Mr Ladame home just now ... going to tell him all about it!

Anneisnotmyname · 27/08/2013 17:43

Oh wow ladame hope your ok x

Mouse I will keep on keeping on, I really don't want to drink the way I was. I have this awful tendacy to dwell on stupid little things and blow them out of proportion and I think drinking makes it worse. At any rate I felt happier last week when I did not drink, far more positive then I do now....

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Mouseface · 27/08/2013 17:47

The cheese counter you say?

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Mouseface · 27/08/2013 18:02

Annie - sweetheart, you can do this, you can not drink because you've done it before and you felt amazing! I feel amazing too for not drinking how I used to. I would have so much vodka that I stopped getting hangovers and could drink it all night and feel sober by the end of it.

Which is pretty feckin' scary when you think about it.

Can I ask you something? Do you tend to 'give in' if DH drinks and offers or pours you a glass? I ask because at first my DH refused to support my decision to not drink and to stop destroying myself, my marraige, my family, my relationships with others and inflaming my depression because I was on AD's at the time because I suffered massive anxiety attacks after Nemo was born....

I had every excuse under the sun to drink, you name it, it was on my list. The ONE reason I didn't have, was a reason to STOP. Not until that night with DH and Nemo, I put my own precious baby son at risk because of my selfish behaviour. Twatish to the extreme.

So, how can we break this habit of yours? What's the trigger? What makes you hit the 'fuck it' button? What makes you want to drink? xxx

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Ladame · 27/08/2013 18:02

Thanks annie and mouse Yes I'm fine!! But a bit shaken up, it's sooo quiet here nothing ever happens.

Mouse some brie and camembert - the camembert has got cranberries in .. cheesy heavenly goodness Grin

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Mouseface · 27/08/2013 18:02

'marriage' - sorry!

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Mouseface · 27/08/2013 18:25
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Anneisnotmyname · 27/08/2013 20:58

Welcome red :)

Mouse I'm really not sure what my trigger is. Yesterday I was feeling let down and disappointed so that was my excuse but I drank Saturday because it was Saturday, and Sunday because I felt like I could, and it felt like winter was coming so I fancied red wine. All excuses.

I have better excuses than that - h gambling, beong unreliable, being financially irresponsible, being irresponsible in general - but my recent drinking hasn't been in reaction to that. I wish it was then at least there would be an explanation.

Re dh he does not really support me cutting down/stopping. I think he feels ignored. I've been going to bed earlier, reading more, not sitting with him watching tv. he doesn't drink asuch as me so I don't see why he'd care but it seems to be annoying him.

Oh well day one nearly finished :) onwards and upwards