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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Off To Find The Summer Sun and Sobriety!

999 replies

Mouseface · 05/08/2013 22:38

Hello, I'm Mouse :)

Welcome to the Bus, take a seat and enjoy the ride. We're a Bus full of drinkers, non-drinkers, those who are trying to give up for life, those who are giving up for a few hours because that's all that they can manage (which is fine!) or quitting just for today......

We don't wear Judgey Pants (they're far too last year darhling Wink) but we have hugs a plenty and tough love when it's needed. Which isn't often!

So, what have you got to lose? If you're reading this, you're thinking that you are no longer happy with the way you drink, which tells me that this is the Bus for you. :)

If you'd like to see where we've been so far and what we've been up to, take a peek HERE

And if you want to knnow why we're here in the first place, take a look at THIS THREAD RIGHT HERE :)

See you soon x

OP posts:
jango36 · 24/08/2013 18:07

Hi Guys x
just checking in with you all. Lots been happening of late aboard this bus. Lots of refreshing honesty! I always steer clear of the bus when the witch has battered me :( Maybe I should not.
Day 2 here for me again I seem to hit a wall about day six/seven. Not making excuses but I have a lot going on at the mo - and its not good. Hmmm need to find a new weapon to fight my stress not one that just drags me to my knees.
Feeling strong to be able to resist for tonight at least.. its a start!
Sending strength vibes down the airwaves to each one of you women or men! who are fighting this! as that is what we are doing daily xx

dementedma · 24/08/2013 19:14

Hi bobbly take a seat

jango36 · 24/08/2013 20:07

Hi bobbly welcome. Where is everyone else tonight?? Im not used to being on board alone looks round hopefully

Pink01 · 24/08/2013 20:59

Hey Jango, I'm here briefly. How are you doing? I have had a sober Saturday night. I'm in bed with a book now which is the earliest I have been to bed for weeks! But want to finish it before I conk out Grin

Pink01 · 24/08/2013 20:59

Well done on day two by the way, just seen your post lower down. X

Pink01 · 24/08/2013 21:06

Welcome Bobbly. You are in the right place, I hope you are ok and having a good weekend.i haven't been on the bus for long compared to others but I have been wonderfully supported and am beginning to fight back against the Wine Witch more successfully than I have done for years - but with a few blips I hasten to add!

Lonnika I am not sure!! That is a good question. Is there an adult education centre near you? If they have a website that might explain. I'm not sure if you would have to attend lessons or if you could just work in your own time and then sit the exam. I take my hat off to you, I am terrible at maths. What would you like to use it for?

Hello to everyone else, hope you are having a good evening. I have managed day 6 so feeling pleased. DH gave me the rage earlier shortly before I had to go to the supermarket, and oh boy the temptation to think fuck it in the wine aisle and load the trolley up was quite strong! But managed to resist. I think I realised it wouldn't actually make me feel better, and it would be very petulant behaviour so it's been soda water and lime for me tonight.

Anyway love to all, I hope you're not all at a party without me Hmm lol.

Mouse thanks for your posts, hope your holiday is still going well.

Pink X

Pink01 · 24/08/2013 21:08

Sorry for the multiple posts, just wanted to say GREEN I hope you are feeling better! Urgh, it is the worst feeling in the world, although the shopping trolley description made me laugh! Hope you weren't sitting in it at the time Grin

thornrose · 25/08/2013 01:30

I have to make Monday my day one (bring honest I'll drink tomorrow as I've got friends staying.) I'm on a slippery slope. I'm holding on by my fingertips. I'm really scared but just not scared enough.

Even as I write this I'm reminding myself that Monday is a bank holiday which means I'll drink. So Tuesday then, god this is ridiculous.

dementedma · 25/08/2013 09:13

Morning all. Looks like the bus was abandoned last night. Well done to pink for doing night duty, and to jango. How are you doing?
rose I liked scared, but not scared enough and understand that feeling. I am trying to move away from the "not scared enough" into a more positive slant like how much I can't wait to be thinner, feel less tired, have clearer skin etc. Start a whole new diet and lifestyle on Monday and actually looking forward to alcohol not being part of it. That's the theory anyway.....
What is everyone up to today?

ThisIsMyTime · 25/08/2013 09:56

Day 1 again only one glass of wine yesterday but wish I never bothered didn't enjoy it n e way will check in again later x

jango36 · 25/08/2013 11:04

Day three here now. Hmmm not feeling a boing yet.. But not giving in not for today ! Feeling a bit flat here:(

Anneisnotmyname · 25/08/2013 11:09

ditto thisis :( Now I'm worried that it'll turn into drinking tonight and tomorrow as I'm not at work till wednesday and i will say to myself 'I had better have a drink tonight as it's my last chance till friday'. When really I need to tell myself I can drink at the end of the week so no need to bother now. It sounds simple when I write it but following my own advice is another matter....

Ladame · 25/08/2013 12:10

Hi all babes

Am beginning my cycle of 4/7 today, with Sunday, Monday and Tuesday off to start with, then I choose my fourth day out of the rest iyswim. I find I like this system and if I decide not to drink that day, it works. By Wed I feel pretty good, a bit slimmer (i.e not so bloated) and calmer. I wish I'd had the strength to do this years ago Sad

I hope all of you are ok this Sunday, maybe some of you drank last night and are regretting it, or so pleased that you managed not to. If it's the first one, be kind to yourself today, plenty of water and a nice bath or pamper this evening. If it's the second one, well done you and I hope you can carry on through the week.

Lots of love across the sea to all of you today. Rainy here in France, but at least my veg patch is becoming more abundant and things are starting to grow in it again. Might need another trim soon Grin

Mouseface · 25/08/2013 12:20

Hello all, tis me, Mouse

Pink - thank you for asking after me, the holiday is not brilliant to be honest. DD's friend is poorly and DD has her period, the weather keeps lying to us, promising sunshine but delivering cloud...... We're all a bit fed up. But it's a holiday we've worked hard to save for so we're trying to keep smiling xx

Ma - you're sounding very positive even though you might be having a bit of a wobble about your new start on Monday. I just wanted to say I'll be cheering you on loads! Go you! Xx

Welcome to Bobbly :) nice to meet you.

Rose, Annie and others - sorry you're feeling flat and worrying about drinking. I have to say that if you need some inspiration and a reason not to drink, a real reason why it's a bad idea.... Go and read the posts by venus and IsinDe again, or if you've not already.

The both are truly heart felt and moving, for different reasons but they have both left a footprint on my inner drinker, who for the most part lies dormant these days.....

It's just not worth the loss of money, time missed, weight gained and inevitable hangovers the wine/alcohol consumed will give you, after all, you're giving it so much of YOU, but what do you get in return?

Try and get through the afternoon and worry about tonight when tonight comes. By which time, with a bit of luck, the shop will be shut and you'll have no supply at home......

That's another habit that must be broken if you really do want to stop pickling yourself from the inside. If it's not there, you can't be tempted! Plus, think of all the yummy snacks and treats you can have to replace the sugar! Xxx

You can do it, One Day At A Time. Xxx

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guggenheim · 25/08/2013 12:41

Just checking in.

excellent post mouse x

Lonnika DO IT,DO IT,DO IT! Go for it. You have some space in your head because you've kicked the ww out,you should definitely reward yourself with some edjumacation. Think I'd prefer some poetry or chocolate making but if I had the skills then I'd sign up for scary maths.

pink you sound well,keep going my lovely.Good work there- some opal fruits for you.

ladame I like the sound of that system, it seems quite manageable and gives your body a decent break from the booze. Have to say that i would struggle to stay off the wine if I lived in France. Ditto the cakes,bread,chocolate...

Big wave to all and welcome to Bobbly

I'm feeling happier again. Mini depression really is over. Had a wonderful morning with crazy Ds with loads of cuddles and playing in local woods. Planning on buying some new trousers,partly because I'm a bit fat for my old pairs but also because there is some extra money in my account because I haven't spent it all on booze. Fancy that!

jango36 · 25/08/2013 12:58

mouse just read your post and you are so so right. It's just not worth the loss of motivation is it? I feel so prou when I've managed just a few days. It lifts me up. Think how I would feel if I actually make it into weeks or dare I dream it month or months..

neonLadybird · 25/08/2013 14:04

Can I join you? I have set a date of September 1st to go AF just hope I can be strong enough. Have disclosed to my GP how much I drink and he said " that's a lot", guess what I was minimising :(

jango36 · 25/08/2013 16:32

Hi neon. Welcome aboard.. This is a fab bus where you will find massive support! Are you a daily or a binge type if drinker? I'm more of the bingeing type

neonLadybird · 25/08/2013 16:57

Hi jango I am an everyday and occasional binger not good! Btw when I tried to type your name it autocorrected to 'hangover' :)

dementedma · 25/08/2013 19:04

Mine always corrects jango to mango

lonnika · 25/08/2013 19:10

Hi all and welcome Neon and Bobby
Guggs you sound so boingy - great to hear :)
Pink and Guggs thanks - have looed into it and can just enrol at local college o do the exam. Just doing it for fun ;) and to keep me occupied on the loooong winter nights.
mouse - sorry to hear about hols hope it gets better for you.
Ma - hope you got DD2 sorted
Ladame I think your system is great wish I could do it :)
Well tonight's plan is Once upon a time followed by celeb BB (watching others when they are slightly tipsy does get me feeling a tad jealous though - :(. )

guggenheim · 25/08/2013 19:45

evening all,

lonnika you have got through the 1st 3 months,haven't you? you should really feel that 'fog' lifting now. Yes, the long winter nights without a big glass of red (and all the rest) seem to stretch a bit. Maybe we could have a 'why a sober winter would be good' list Smile

'lo there jango and ma

welcome neon see how you go tonight and build from there. Good luck!

bobblypop · 25/08/2013 20:07

hi all. I am reading and am very impressed by the determination you all have.
day 4 here for me...which is a big achievement. It helps that I have no wine in and am skint till payday on weds!! I do have a tiny bit of gin left though...and was V tempted earlier...but resisted.
despite that I feel very low and exhausted....but will stick with it.
will try to post more when I get in the swing of it...Grin

neonLadybird · 25/08/2013 20:22

Thanks for the welcome. Not there yet have a difficult week coming and then I hope to earn my place on the bus, will probably drip feed so apologies in advance and good wishes to you all, you are an inspiration thank you x

guggenheim · 25/08/2013 20:38

bobbly feeling exhausted kicks in at about day 4 and will last a few days- sorry love! It will pass and the real health benefits replace the tiredness. I could say that it is to do with the toxins leaving your body, but I have no real idea! Just stick it out. Go to bed early,rest loads,drink water,eat chocolate. It is worth seeing through.

neon you don't have to earn anything,all are welcome. Doesn't matter when or even if, you start abstaining/ controlling/whatever. Just post and read and think. x