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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Off To Find The Summer Sun and Sobriety!

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Mouseface · 05/08/2013 22:38

Hello, I'm Mouse :)

Welcome to the Bus, take a seat and enjoy the ride. We're a Bus full of drinkers, non-drinkers, those who are trying to give up for life, those who are giving up for a few hours because that's all that they can manage (which is fine!) or quitting just for today......

We don't wear Judgey Pants (they're far too last year darhling Wink) but we have hugs a plenty and tough love when it's needed. Which isn't often!

So, what have you got to lose? If you're reading this, you're thinking that you are no longer happy with the way you drink, which tells me that this is the Bus for you. :)

If you'd like to see where we've been so far and what we've been up to, take a peek HERE

And if you want to knnow why we're here in the first place, take a look at THIS THREAD RIGHT HERE :)

See you soon x

OP posts:
Mouseface · 19/08/2013 11:17

Welcome to the new Babes - Pink, that post was really inspiring :) You seem like a whole new Babe since last week. Thank you for being honest with me about the giving up drinking question.

It's not easy to actually sit down and think long and hard about what it is you really do want - drink in moderation or not at all because you can't moderate, or trust the WW to bugger off after one glass! Now all you have to do is to decide when that time will be if you've not already, I've kind of skimmed the last few pages because it's not the best of internet connections here! Grin

You're doing great though, really you are so much more boingy of late :) xxx

Purps! - how are things? I saw that you'd had a glass of wine that lead to a bottle etc...... how are you doing now? :) xxx

Well done Lonni for keeping at it! FAB! :)

To those who are drinking, as Pink perfectly said, you won't be judged here, it's not how we roll...... there's so much support on this Bus that it bursts out at the seams some days! Grin

We're all at different stages of drinking or not on here and that's what makes it work, we can all relate to someone, we've all been in someone else's shoes at one point or another, we've all woke at 3am with regret weighing heavily on our mind, angry that we had so much to drink, disappointed that we undid all of our hard work, feeling sick, sweating or needing to use the toilet again..... waking with a fuggy head, shaky and not wanting to parent or go to work.... we've all been the last one standing and drinking and we've all made an arse of ourselves at one time or another.

The thing is, because we all have those things in common, we can support one another because we know how it feels to be a complete tit in front of others, puke at a party, fall over or off something..... the shame of the next day was never enough for me to stop. Regret soon faded away, embarrassment became an easy one to make up an excuse for, "I hadn't eaten, my meds had affected me more etc......" And of course the hidden drinks, one glass in the kitchen before taking the bottle through to share with DH, buying 2 of the same wine and hiding one.............

I stopped because of Nemo. Not when he was born, but when I picked him up drunk one night and DH stepped in and actually told me to go to bed after taking him off me. Sad Blush

THAT was the slap of reality that I needed to stop me killing myself day after day and it's one I will be ever grateful for :)

So stay on the Bus, share as much as you like, read, chat about anything you like, after all, it's our daily lives that lead/push/convince some of us to drink isn't it?

Keep going Babes :) - Sorry not to NC you all, I will read back once the internet connection is better!

We're off to the beach today with a bit of luck! Send nice weather vibes our way please!

Bye for now xxx

OP posts:
ThisIsMyTime · 19/08/2013 11:38

Orbrigada I too I'm totally annoyed about the continuous waisted days off because I'm hungover and too nervous to leave the house ie today ! Back to work tomorrow and both days lost to hangovers there has to be more to life than this horrific cycle but all honesty life without booze is scary to me however this existence is not what life should be like

dementedma · 19/08/2013 13:13

thanks green appreciate that. I will stop asking food-related questions honestly but the site in your link says no cheese and yet mouse says cheese is ok. its all very confusing.

A big hug to all those feeling shit after yet another weekend on the piss - its a mother fucker of a habit to break isnt it? I'm ok when I'm at work but almost dread going home and starting the daily battle with the WW.

Anneisnotmyname · 19/08/2013 13:36

Afternoon all, sorry not to name check. I've been reading through the last few pages and there's some fantastic posts there, very thought provoking.

Day 2 here and I'm hoping to stay AF until saturday at least. I can't really see myself ever getting into double figures, I'm sure I will sabotage myself! Like on friday night I opened a bottle of wine at 10.45, how stupid!

Last week when I did not drink I felt so much better and I can see that for all I think my daily drinking is not hugely excessive it's effected me far more than I realised (or would admit). I had two glasses of wine saturday night and sunday I felt grouchy, lethargic, headachy, ate loads of chocolate, and my mood was really low. Total contrast to how I'd felt earlier in the week.

Well it's my 40th in just over a month, I should aim to be AF until then....I wouldn't mind losing a few pounds too. About 6 although that is as likely as me not drinking I suspect!! Dh is trying to undermine me now - I'm getting lots of tuts and humphs when i refuse to join him in drinking Hmm

babyjane1 · 19/08/2013 15:01

Hi babes my iphone is broken and I'm using my kindle which is a bit alien to me so short and sweet, day 7 and a record for me, sending strength and support to you all, be back later, chin up everyone xxx

obrigada · 19/08/2013 15:22

Have made a promise to myself to check in here everyday to keep myself on the straight and narrow. Baby huge congrats on reaching Day 7 and I will be your SW buddy if you like?

jango36 · 19/08/2013 16:56

Checking in babes day three . Still being tested and under stress I have never been before ! In fact tonight I am gonna do exercise ( to try and release some of this stress ) then a hot deep bath. Am quite enjoying a book at mo so will prob be okay :))
Then day four looms! Think will be checking in a few time tomorrow babes.
Sending big positive vibes to you all especially the ones who are really truly struggling today.

PurpleWolfe · 19/08/2013 17:26

Hi all, hi luvvvverly Mouse, thanks for asking about me. I think I'm doomed until I get back to the routine of school run etc. Sad Doesn't help that XP has taken me (and DC) out for lunch on two consecutive days. Hoping to at least rein it in a bit in the next few days. I'm searching for next years holiday. If I pack the evil wine in I could be, roughly, £3650 pound better off, 2 stone lighter and not hugely weighed down by this bloody guilt. So, could afford a holiday abroad, wear a nice swimming cossie and not look like I haven't had a decent nights sleep in weeks! What's not to want?! No brainer, really, so why can't I do it?! SadSadSad

Sylvana · 19/08/2013 19:30

Thank you everyone for the wonderful, warm welcome onto the bus. I am a stranger to you all, yet you have welcomed me with kindness and non-judgement. I really appreciate it and I won't forget it, thank you xx

Pawprint · 19/08/2013 19:39

Hi all - welcome to new babes and good vibes to all the regular babes. Mouse love to you and Nemo.

I have deteriorated since returning from holiday. Been drinking a bottle a night since Saturday.

So f@@@ed off with myself. Evil addiction and I am weak

dementedma · 19/08/2013 20:27

sylvana we may be pissheadslike a tipple or two but we know our manners Grin
We just know what its like and no one judges anyone on here or they get slapped round the head with Barrie our pet squid. (Don't ask)
Well Babes, I am leaving the sidecar......and stepping onto the bus Grin. Day 3 done, plus some lowish carving plus a 5k walk tonight. . Stick with me jango we can do this.
purps god, you make it all sound so crazy when you list the benefits, but yet it is still so hard.

PurpleWolfe · 19/08/2013 20:32

Hugs Ma xx

Anneisnotmyname · 19/08/2013 21:47

Day 2 nearly done but feeling totally fed up. I'm back at work tomorrow and I've just found out I've lost £70 from my purse. Think I must have dropped it whilst putting my card back in - typical I've never done that drunk! So annoyed with myself Angry

dementedma · 19/08/2013 21:53

Well done on day 2 anne. Ouch to the lost £70. Could it be right at the bottom of your bag or tucked in a pocket?

dementedma · 19/08/2013 21:56

pawprint are you OK? You are not weak, and yes, it is an addiction. You were strong enough to make the step to come on here and start facing up to it. That was a big step.
Plenty of water tonight and two paracetamol. Tomorrow will be a better day.

bailstersmum · 19/08/2013 21:58

Hi - thanks for the responses to my me me me posts from yesterday. Its interesting to hear other perspectives and its helped me to stand back a bit. So, its onwards and as one of the posters has written - looking at the positives rather than where we are missing out. I suppose we are lucky in that we have identified our issues with alcohol and possibly what we hope to achieve. There are many more that will just struggle on without this insight and in denial. At least we are trying to break the cycle and if we fail at least we have tried and we can keep on trying X

Anneisnotmyname · 19/08/2013 22:00

No I've had a good look, I'm pretty sure I've dropped it in the supermarket car park. I'll call tomorrow and see if someone's handed it in but I don't hold out much luck. I wonder how many bottle of wine i will have to not drink in order to recouperate the money?!

Pawprint · 20/08/2013 03:20

Thanks Ma - I'm ok, tomorrow is a new day.

Annie - how bloody annoying re the money Hmm

Whatevermaybe · 20/08/2013 08:47

Morning All Babes

Anne - hope some decent person found your money and handed it in.

Day 4 and feeling quite positive but tomorrow will probably be a challenge as me and DP usually have a mid week drink or few. I start of with the best intentions but cave in and end up pissed and full of regret the next day.

Right better get on, check in later Grin

Pink01 · 20/08/2013 09:04

Morning all babes Smile

Ma, well done!! Day three is fab! You should be on the upward curve now and start to really feel the benefits. Keep going. Keep posting Smile

Anne hope work goes ok and the cash turns up. That is so so annoying. I hope some honest person has found it and will have handed it in. Well done on day two as well that is a real achievement.

Paw are you ok? You're not weak. In fact research increasingly shows that alcohol addiction is based on a chemical reaction within certain people that non-problem drinkers don't experience. (Think I have explained that right) also it has a genetic basis. Just get through today and day one will be done. You have done it before and you can again! We are all right behind you. Btw I have done similar recently, had a couple a night on holiday and then crept back up. I am still trying to shake the WW off my back although I have done a few days AF since, I still need to achieve a long run of dry days!

Purple, when I stopped drinking at the start of the year I wrote down every day the accumulated money, units and calories saved based on £5 a day, 9 units and 500 calories. As I did get to 60 days in the end it amounted to quite a lot as you can imagine! You are right it is a no brainer and to this day I still wish I had carried on. Goodness knows what day I would be on by now Hmm

Jango well done and keep going, will be going out later but check in this afternoon so should be able to post back to you. Keep going babe as you are doing so well.

Baby day 8 today? You go girl! Keep going, you have done a weekend too which is fantastic! Hope you get your phone fixed. I am a bit too attached to my iPhone!

Sylvana hope you keep posting and let us know how you are.

Whatever can you start planning tomorrow now and find a way to avoid? If you don't want to drink, that is. It's so hard when your partner encourages you, mine does unknowingly and it makes it really tough. I have bought him a load of lager that I don't like so am not tempted by!

Mouse thank you for your post, hope you are having a wonderful holiday and getting some rest! It's great to hear from you. I am feeling exceptionally boingy today, even tho it is only day two, something seems to have clicked in my head and I feel confident for a change that I will keep the WW at bay for a good while. Hope this does not set me up for failure that I have typed this! I'm feeling really positive and full of hope. I slept like a log and have a clear head, it feels great Smile

Anyway I really hope I have got everyone in, have a great day babes, keep kicking the WW where she belongs!

Pink X

Pink01 · 20/08/2013 09:12

Whoops I missed you out Bailster. I'm glad some other perspectives have given you pause for thought. It's a big decision to drink or not drink in these circumstances so taking time to weigh it all up is really sensible ( if that doesn't sound patronising)

Keep in touch with us and let us know how you get on. X

obrigada · 20/08/2013 09:38

Morning babes, Day 3 for me today and I will not drink today ... there I have said it!!

Pink01 · 20/08/2013 09:43

Well done Obrigada, they say get past day three and everything starts to improve so test that theory!! Grin Sorry I missed you in my original post, not sure why. Have a great day

Pink X

dementedma · 20/08/2013 09:48

quick check in - well done to all those managing to have some AF time and hugs and strength to those in the grips of the ww

obrigada · 20/08/2013 10:06

No worries Pink, I am crap at namechecking people!

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