The Dating Thread - episode 60

[Djangounhinged]

If I may?

I would instantly marry someone with the whiff of Terry's chocolate orange. Or, to be honest, after eight.

Porridge - it makes sense as long as you don't feel obliged to follow through with meeting. We all have our own radars and comfort zones, and you're just calibrating yours

Porridge yes it makes sense, it's like 'practising' what you intend to put into practice with different sets of people. Then you can compare notes here

sorry rant alert

FOR FUCKS SAKE

I MEAN SERIOUSLY, LIFE... WTF? WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK? WHAT THE FUCKING ACTUAL GREEN HAIRY FUCK?

You know I said BC fell off the earth? Haven't heard from him for three months ish

Well he's back (again) and is he in Hong Kong? nope.

Is he back where he was, 150 miles away? nope.

He isn't

He's moved about 25 miles away from me. MiltonFUCKINGKeynes

Too late dude, and wtf with not telling me til now? And you expect to just barge back in and this be happy news for me?

FUCK OFF DO ONE JOG ON TAKE A LONG WALK OFF A SHORT FUCKING CLIFF

Er, right. Had to feed the cats (reality not euphemism) and do chores (not watch mindless Telly at all), so have missed lots.

Secret No clue if he's coming back, but the touching (lack of) is alien (to me at least). Also, inspite of only having drunk

luberbooby before my thread time, but was BC the chap you had as a lover, great chemistry, before your current interest developed?

How odd! No surprise you're...erm...surprised! I suppose if you're set on the current interest you can just take it as a compliment that you're now his "one that got away"!

Red flag question.

For the ladies, is it weird that a guy mentions both on his profile and via e-mail chat that he owns his own flat? Not sure of the relevance, and wonder if he's trying to do some compensating for being a bit rubbish in person? (I e-mailed him as his face looks very handsome to me!)

Lubeyboobey I better watch out then because I'm near MK!!!

I would go bloody stark-raving catnip glassy-eyed knickers-falling off mad for a man who smelled of After Eights ... mmmmmmm.

Lubey what a massive, massive pisser.

Lorna more a bit 'I'd really, really like to have a shag' I'd say.

Dad Showbiz had a whole chest Axminster thing going on.

Have a good day everyone and Snape fingers so crossed that I'm practically incapable of doing anything for the emotional pizza.

Lubes, I'm sorry, but unfortunately there are no cliffs for him to walk off here. Barely a small hill anywhere around. And don't be too hard on the lad, after all, he's having to live in MiltonFUCKINGKeynes. That's punishment enough.

I may have a date tonight! Guy who's into martial arts. As my last date (with Poshboy) got cancelled for weirdness reasons, I'm not holding my breath.

If we're using this thread as a measure of oddness, can I ask if you think it's odd to spend every single night at a new boyfriend's house, when you've only been seeing each other a few weeks? I'm not talking building up slowly, this is full on from when they started seeing each other, apart from the odd night. There is history between them, so I suppose you could argue they didn't need the getting to know you stage... I think I would feel smothered. They're not a close enough friend that I could say anything, I was just wondering if my dating expectations are off!

flipper why would you say anything? Surely if they are happy then that is the main thing?

lubey sorry you're pissed off .. You have moved on though so his loss

snape good luck with the emotional pizza

Happy Friday everyone :)

Lorna I found lots of guys did that (mentioning their flat). I just assumed it was some kind of boost (in my city and age group it's difficult for single people to own), or a way to say they were past the shared party house days and ready to settle down. But so many people did it I figured it had to be intentional.

And Flipper, I don't think that's in the realms of oddness that you'd ever say anything about. They must both like it, but it's certainly not something to expect. I did that when I was about 18 but now I'd feel totally smothered.

Thanks everyone. I'm not pissed off, its actually quite funny in a very twisted way :o

I am very happy with Henry and BC can just truly do one. It's just all so wtf. How long I'd have given ANYTHING for BC to be nearer then this happens a week into a new and exclusive relationship. LMAO.

Lorna yes that was him...

and yep, all his loss... and a lesson learned (for him)

I MEAN SERIOUSLY, LIFE... WTF? WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK? WHAT THE FUCKING ACTUAL GREEN HAIRY FUCK?

Lubey wtf indeed, particularly as he made a big fuss of being 'busy' and unable to travel. What a shock for you but ok, he's really tripped up with this one, maybe it's part of your cosmic order to press the eject button.

That may have just been the best rant ever. Particular admiration for the use of GREEN HAIRY and correct punctuation .

Flipper meh, this is the sort of thing I did as a student. Just thinking about the logistics makes me weary now.

Lorna I always assumed the 'own' a flat thing was to say they are stable, responsible and a good catch. It's always put me off when a man mentions any assets in his profile.

Snape you absolutely have to post an update

Flipper seeing someone once or twice a week is fine for me (but I have children so couldn't see someone every night even if I wanted to). But that's a bit claustrophobic and needy - whatever happened to keeping your own life and interests? Good luck for your date.

And Snape good luck with the Pizza of Lurve.

Lubey blimey, that is a shock and very weird of him to just pop up again like that. But it seems to be the season for magically-popping-up exes. Have you said anything to him?

Never had anyone talk about owning their own place Lorna - probably supposed to show he's financially stable, responsible etc but there are better ways of doing this.

Alpha has just e-mailed to say he's free all weekend . . .

Well, I've realised I've been doing this OD lark for about a year now and goodness me the time has just flown. Never thought I'd still be doing it a year later - I thought that magically I would meet The One within one or two dates and would live happily ever after. Nah. But I have had twenty first dates or so, one seven month relationship, my current almost two months and counting thing with Alpha and a lot of fun as well, both with the dating and on this thread. Not bad for a years work. Cheers, me dears

Idea for new business - foodstuff aftershave - initial launch After Eight, Chocolate Orange, more to follow

OWW cheers , have high hopes for you and Alpha

Morning!
Lubes I think you should be grateful BC didn't tell you of his plans, had you known he was going to reappear I bet you would have been less willing to give Mr Flirt the time you did to shape up at the beginning. BC had his chance - he's blown it

Juliette either it was a lunge or he tripped over something by the bed and somehow landed with his hand up my dress and his tongue in my mouth!!

Still no contact. Meh!

Flipper that sort of arrangement's definitely not for me. Twenty years ago (how can that be?) I hooked up with STBX who was in process of leaving his live-in girlfriend, so after a month or so of sofa-surfing friends he just sort-of moved in. So missed all the courting, getting to know him properly from a safe distance - within two years we were married and had DD1 without me ever really having the space to stop and think about what I was doing. If only MN had been around then!

Good luck Snape hope the pizza of passion has the desired affect!

Checking out for a few days, off to get howling drunk in a field :)

Have a great weekend, all!

SS sorry, didn't reply to you earlier. Your man sounds very odd. I don't get the not touching thing at all, but I'm one of those that loves all the holding hands and touching arms and that kind of thing. I would not be able to carry on with someone who just wouldn't touch me apart from shagging. Not nice. Would you actually like to see him again as it sounds to me that this could be one to chalk up to experience and leave well alone?

OWW happy anniversary great that the first year is ending on an Alpha high. A whole weekend? Is it possible he's decided on a carpe diem approach?

Django Have a great time - raise a beer/Bucky/twinkle to us.

Don't be daft OWW no sorry needed!
I'm not sure if I want to see him again or not. I'm just going to leave it up to him. If he does deign to get in touch I probably will see him, and see how he responds if I go for tactical tactility!
He didn't move away from me, when, for example I held his hand, but nor did he respond just left it there until I moved mine! So the nice sucker part of me wants to give him the benefit of the doubt - the rational, which oddly is probably the most instinctive me, says nah, leave him be - I'm fed up of having to coach men on how to fulfil my needs

OK - just messaged POF woman who ticks all boxes and doesn't appear single-celled (on the face of it) - wish me luck.

Secret it depresses me to hear you say things like "if he does deign to get in touch". It sounds like you don't actually want to see him but will do so if he chucks a crumb your way. There really are plenty more fish, if you're not keen enough and he's not keen enough, move on.