The Dating Thread - episode 60

[Djangounhinged]

If I may?

I have the opposite filter problem. I don't filter out enough. In rl as well as od. I am much too looks orientated. And height. There is a bank manager in the bank next to my office who is freakishly tall. I have dallied with him a few times over the years. He is a complete tosser but I see him wandering around the shops towering over people and I want to start flinging myself at him. It's quite unhealthy!
Hot and cold man is really tall too.

I feel quite left out now. Too tall for the shortass group. no boomerang man, and definitely no fabulous love tales.

But still to all those loved up ladies and Bant.

Starting to make me feel like I should have another look at OD.

Nope, don't go there Jo, just don't.

Really wish I had come on this thread earlier.

Mermaid sounds cool. She prob lold because she's with teens all the time.

OWW

Hamwidgeandcheps I feel you on the bank manager!

Don't know if you read my posts on my "shouty European" fling that finished last week, but I have been thinking "ooh, maybe he could tell me off in the bedroom, that would be fun!" like a sort of Malcom Tucker fantasy in a Flemish accent don't even go there Lorna it would be so right but SO wrong

Jo I think people on this thread (myself included) always seem to be sliding on and off the subs bench/sofa...

personally I feel there is often risk of dating burn out or overlooking red flags if I'm not dating from a good strong emotional/life position.

But then I reckon if I wait till I'm 100% sorted in other areas I might miss out on some good chances (and I don't mind the dating process so much). And sometimes romantic encounters can help me get to that strong emotional position. It's all a mystery to me! this thread is ace, I agree

Hi Grinchie Great news about Ironman. How long have you been together now?

Sounding good for so many at the moment. Bloody fantastic

Just looked at someone's profile

"drama queens, drunks, and tarts need not apply"

Why did he e-mail me?

My contributions are starting to look a bit "me me me" - but thanks for all of your help. I have done an update to my POF profile, much of it stolen from Lorna with thanks although I did have to add/change a little to make it feel authentic.

I have a residual question on pics (sorry doing it again). I have few pics of me doing stuff (skiing, scuba diving in the Bay of Pigs, jetboating in New Zealand) but not sure whether to post 'em - on the one hand they might make me look like an international man of action pretentious tosser on the other hand, I am not in a position to do any any of these again in the near future....
Oh and one bit of feedback was to change my POF user name as it has a touch of the John Major to it - so that's next.

I have had dating burn out in the past. I went on a bit if a dating binge once after a relationship breakdown. The last date was with this fabulous travel agent (absurdly tall!) who thought I was fascinating but I was knackered and disinterested in anyone. He wanted to go out again and I mumbled something. He texted and I ignored it until he emailed me and asked what he did wrong (in an acceptable non stalker way). I write a half arsed reply I think. I saw a picture of him of twitter recently (friend of a friend) with a baby and a partner. I'm glad he found someone but I did sort of think if I'd been in a better place that would have been me. Oh well

Oh......and I think I've just tumbled to what JoAlone (as a user name) is about (slaps forehead).

Lorna Is it because it doesn't count if her mails you? I'll get my coat.

Dad - pics are good but loads and loads are a bit show off. That's my opinion

Dad I think a max of one cliched travelling picture, and then only if you look atypically good in it.

Why is it that no-one ever posts pics of those DVD boxsets and bottle of red that everyone claims to love so much too?

Also really curious as to what "DFU's" username is, I think I need to get involved in the vetting gang.

Blimey ... I am now engaged in chatting to my third victim of the day on PoF. You vipers certainly know a thing or two about profiles, don't you?

Lorna nooooooooo ... what an arse. Glad to hear you binned his pathetic arse.

Must say that Mermaid sounds better & better Bant ... no wonder you sound so smitten

Everything crossed for risotto night then OWW. Well, we'll be doing the crossing obviously, not you. It may feel likes ages away, but I'm sure time will rush by ...

am too gobsmacked to be paying too much attention

I am feeling a tad nosey too Stranger

I was never keen on those sort of pics DFU Always thought they may turn out to be a 'when I was in type'.

Thanks Ham basically what I thought.

Hamwidge snap, and the wife to be is GORGEOUS Amazing guy, not needy or desperate but "ready", and I was in the wrong emotional position to appreciate him. But I met someone "as nice" after a year of being "out there", going full blast with the OD, etc.

I am with Hamwidgeandcheps too many pics do look like a show off. Whenever I saw guys who had these 'amazing' lives, I always used to wonder why they weren't meeting 'amazing' women on their jet set lives.

lurkingLorna it's good to know that it is normal to have this on/off relationship with OD. I think first time round I expected to meet someone who would be smitten, and I would be smitten and we would walk off into the sunset, then I realized I live in England, we never see the bloody sun setting for all the clouds... OK, I got a bit pessimistic. It's quite a shocker getting back into the dating game after 20 odd years, being 20 odd years older etc etc. But you are right, did learn a lot about me. At the moment feel like I want to get myself into a financially more stable place, but feels like I will be 60 by the time that happens!!! I had a comment from one of my daters saying he was 'concerned' about my financial status, it's not that bad, and I take full responsibility for myself and my daughter, but it made me think that maybe it would be a huge issue for guys as I have no not much disposable cash, and can't pay for many dinners etc, just the occasional cup of coffee.

DFU had a look, I think it's a huge improvement.

And I'm not sure what's going on - something in the air or whatever - but I received three messages today on OD sites.

They're like buses.

48 you just reminded me of a woman I had a phone convo with OD a long time ago - all she could talk about was when she was an expat in some Middle Eastern Country and how marvellous and decadent it all was ... never got in touch with her or her gold cutlery again
Joyless Did I say that's a 'kin fabulous handle by the way? Great news, hope there's someone in all that you like the look/sound of.
Stranger Will PM you my POF name - I haven't changed it yet, although I have (I say I, it was mostly plagiarised from Lorna) had a stab at rewriting the profile.

Oh that is brilliant Joy Planning on meeting up with any or all of them

We all met the type DFU Yawn

jo"Whenever I saw guys who had these 'amazing' lives, I always used to wonder why they weren't meeting 'amazing' women on their jet set lives." Well in my case I was with the mother of my daughter for some of 'em - but she doesn't dive
If it's any consolation, my finances are currently a bit tight (who's aren't) so would be happy to share stuff that wasn't super extravagant with someone.

Waves!

Hi all. Been lurking more than posting recently but pleased for all the happy loved up posters, welcome to the new ones (especially dfu. Good to have another bloke here), and hope the daters have great dates!

It's my birthday tomorrow. I'll be 40. Hmmm.

Bant No buses for me just yet, but hey - in this for the long haul and off on hols next week anyway.

Many Happy Returns for tomorrow Bill

Dadfrom when I was on the dating sites I found the profiles with a lot of exotic photos a bit intimidating, I'm well travelled but felt I wouldn't be enough for a man with a jetset life.
I imagined that a chap like that wouldn't want to sit in my local of an evening and push me home in a shopping trolley walk home with me afterwards.

48 10 months so far but it will be about a year when we move in, although he spent some of that on operations. But we get on when he's away and when he's here and the away bit is how his life is and mine too now.