The Dating Thread - episode 60

[Djangounhinged]

If I may?

I got a nice reply back from Aruba saying she understood, she'd thought maybe there was someone I was hung up on, and she'd like to be friends (I made the offer but said I'd understand if she didn't)

So now I'm back in Hungaria, last time I was here in my flat I was with Mermaid, and its odd. I don't particularly want to go on a date with anyone and that's been a big part of my social life for the last few months - if not actually dating then trawling the sites and seeing if anyone looked ok to message.

Hmm. What to do.. What to do...

Ah yes. I just bought the first two seasons of breaking bad on DVD. Time to see what all the fuss is about

EEEK if I add three inches I'd be 6' 7" (nearer 6'8" actually) then I'd be worried I'm straying into freakishly tall. Not sure about the age thing - the thing is I'd be happier with a woman who is 55 and says so than one who says she's 45 but turns out to be 55 - why would it be OK to lie?
Nora I don't doubt that all posters on here are genuinely gorgeous.
Bant very kind offer (which I'll gladly accept) it certainly can't do any harm eh?

Yay aruba!

Bant I have watched all of S1 and almost all of S2 of Breaking Bad - I enjoyed it, but I'm a bit dischuffed to find there are (I think) another 5 seasons (sorry off topic).
If anyone on POF would take a min to look at my profile, I'd be grateful - I'll PM you my "fishy-name" to facilitate.

I have had someone say today I look younger than my pics ( implying they were not recent) they are recent : took them for the profile!! But also had him tell me someone had turned up for a date and was 10 years older than she'd said ( or maybe she just had a tough life !! )

Fwiw Woody's pic must have been taken a few years ago ( which when I met him I knew instantly) I never mentioned it is it didn't seem to matter but would have probably brought it up if things had progressed further.

I've never lied about my age on my profile. In fact, I changed my DOB for the blank one which would make me a few months older than I am. Dad it it's any consolation I am 50+ so I would guess around your age. I was very delighted surprised that the guy I met was his age as he looked so good for it but then he admitted he had shaved 2 years off which is fine as I am that big younger than him than I thought.

I've never altered my height either and although I'm small have men of all heights email me, some have exaggerated their heights though.

Old bloke has just messaged me again with major hints about a meet up.... How do I get out of this one ???

Friday he told me where he was going with his mates( time and place ) then sat said he was sorry I didn't turn up !! Like I was going to .... Err bit tricky without being rude ( he's 10 years older than me 55 my limit is 52 , am I being too picky
again

Sorry DFU in my efforts to be diplomatic I may not have been entirely clear, I was actually saying that all the women on here are intelligent, rational, independent, original thinkers and amusing - I think those are the qualities which may not be equally distributed amongst the population of the various sites.

Nora Yes I got that (I think)

I did have a message from a bloke who asked me how old my photos were as he refused to believe I was 46 and then interrogated me on the subject - knob.

Rae Showbiz was 57 at least and it didn't put me off, there were thins about his behaviour towards me that made him a refreshing change.

Hmmm just a thought - should I make myself shorter? Like say 6' - maybe I'm being filtered as too tall?

Yeah, sorry DFU, I've had a lot of criticism through the years at my 'straightforward-opening-my-gob-without-thinking' tendencies so I sometimes over compensate in an effort not to offend anyone. It's a burden.

Can't speak for anyone else (and I'm 5'2") but I don't filter out on the basis of excessive height

I'm the same height as kin and new guy is 6ft 3, bit tall but an ex was the same height and I quite like it.

Hot Tub is 6' 2", I've had taller boyfriends and I'm with me old mucker, Scrazy, it's quite nice.

Ooh look, we've got a 5'2" club going on, not very high fives Wine and Scrazy

Me too !! 5'2 is the new 5'7 as 45 is the new 35. ( apparently she tells everyone hopefully )
I don't filter out on height dad! Or at least not in a conscious way , I've dated guys who are 6' plus and one guy shorter than me but spent a lot of time walking in gutters [ grin]
Most women prefer a taller man ( I thinks ).

DFU I never lied on my profile, and of all the guys I went out with, none of them lied (except one that lied about his job, and almost everything else, but not his appearance bizarrely), and one of them was in fact 6ft7. I am 5ft7, so I prefer taller than me, but I didn't filter out on that basis, was happy to meet any height, as I was after someone who was decent and solvent, height is no indicator of that.

I was surprised to learn people lie about their age/weight/height. But then one of my faults is that I am honest. I believe in integrity, and if you are going to be lying about the small stuff... Maybe my standards are too high, not sure.

If you pm me your details would be happy to go have a look on POF as a guest.

I think KinNora is right we are all lovely people on here, it is a place where we can be real (ooh, feeling a song coming on...think it might be by Katy Perry, the one about being an old bag flying about, ooh,

Cause, baby, you're a firework
Come on, show 'em what you're worth
Make 'em go "Oh, oh, oh"
As you shoot across the sky-y-y

wanders off singing about being crackers....or a firecracker

We're taking over the world...

Kin But I do think I may be ageist !
I just keep thinking if he lied about his age he could be nearer 60 ( my dads not much older) !! My mums partner is 17 years older than her and there are some advantages I'm sure ( not the sugar daddy type but respect / manners etc ) but just not sure i want someone who is that much older than me when I still feel 21 and not properly grown up!)

Evening!
Another 5 2er here! And counting down the weeks to being 49 and still as much as a gobbin as ever. Always assumed that around 40 I would transform into a worldly wise elegant woman who knew how to dress and would a regular in fine eateries! Maybe 50 is the mark!

DFU I'm afraid I think I have filtered you out, a ft taller has always been my limit which is daft really, what's another couple of inches - (waits for Nora or Juliette to put me right )

On the home front all bets are off on jazz lunger - no contact yet. Spose it saves me the trouble!

Been in touch with the Mr Compliance - oh, he was talking about his job, so not sure there was any hidden sub message! Arranged to meet Thursday, but since I've had an Paradise List worth of doggerel, so I can 'understand his philosophy of live' and a voicemail of nothing but a song, bearing my name, from a still touring 80s star!

Jo my first OD date was a man who said he had a Phd, I wasn't arsed, he was interesting to talk to and pleasingly nerdy but when I asked mid-date what his Phd was on, he said that actually he had no qualifications but thought that because he'd read so much on the Internet, it effectively meant he had a doctorate. shortly afterwards he told me about his fetishes, I made my excuses and left

I agree jo if you are basically an honest person you expect others to be honest. Perhaps we are able to filter out the sociopaths before the dating stage.
DFU I think if you start with a ' hey sexy ' or some other benile comment you won't get past that. If you tell me what I should put in a profile as one guys did that's a no! If you recommend a good local osteopath (???) nope.
If you are honest and genuine and not trying to sound like a 'crazy guy' but made me laugh then I'm more likely to chat and find out more.