Waves is determined to keep winning now that Acrobat has arrived.

[wavesandsmiles]

So, Acrobat did actually arrive (only just) on the last thread. And he is here and lovely!

Links to previous threads:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/a1670597-So-DH-said

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1745551-DH-said-DH-left-waves-is-still-being-sick-but-into-the-third-timester

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/a1801734-Waves-is-winning-Here-comes-the-Acrobat

[themidwife]

Glad you're coping so well honey. I predict some brain fuckery coming your way from twunt I'm afraid. How he's been thinking. How he will consider giving things another go if you do x, y, z for him. I know I could be wrong but can't help suspecting it. I wish you could have a little protective bubble around you and Caspian & your older DCs to protect you all from any such twuntery.

[ScarletWomanoftheVillage]

I'm afraid I agree with themidwife, but you sound strong and happy now Waves, so hopefully will be able to give him short shrift if that happens. It is a special, but also vulnerable time after giving birth and I would hate him to take advantage of that. Hopefully your enormous love for caspian and your other dcs is filling you up and making you less needy of 'love' from cruel Twunt.

[kasbah72]

What an amazing birth story and such a gorgeous little man! Congratulations again and I am in awe of your sheer bravery, calm and getting-on-with-it-regardless-of-what-crap-is-thrown-at-me attitude.
I hope you get some rest.

[AgathaF]

Try to get some rest as well as being busy waves. The last thing you need is new baby exhaustion compounded by being physically low from the HG, and a dose of dive-bombing hormones too.

[Thumbwitch]

Awww Waves - so pleased for you and he's utterly delightful. Thank you for posting a pic of him wrapped in his MN blanket as well, it looks fantastic on him!

I am happy for you that Twunt behaved himself with decency around your delivery, and that his family have met Acrobat/Caspian - but I also agree with themidwife that it's likely he will descend into Twuntishness very soon. Please stay focused on the people in your life who really matter - your children - and remember that any overtures he makes to you are only in his own self-interest, not in yours or Acrobat/Caspian's.

So glad you can eat again! Such a relief - hope you get your strength back really quickly now.

How has your Mum been about it all?

[MissStrawberry]

I am so enjoying hearing all about Caspian's adventures. His future wife will be very happy you started training him to do jobs at a very young age .

[DPotter]

Congratulations on a baby brother for your lovely DS & DD - great photos !
You are truly an inspiration to us mere mortals ! Please look after yourself - sounds like you'll need to fatten up a bit.

[Ezio]

i also suspect some Twunt-fuckery, if he says what midwife says, then the response is:

"Nah, im alright thanks"

Because waves, you are alright, and if twunt is starting to see his fuck up then my suggestion to him is "Take your wife as you married her, or leave her alone".

Because the only one who needs to change his shitty attitude, if he did he might actually have a happy life.

[wordyBird]

Glad to hear you're both doing well. Your baby is such a sweetheart :)

[LucyTheValiant]

Yes, do make sure you rest Waves!

So glad you're doing so well

[PeoniesPlease]

Congratulations waves!

What a lovely little pudding Caspian is. I hope you enjoy your well-deserved cuddles and tucking in to some delicious food now!

[MissStrawberry]

I hope all is okay with you Waves.

and twunt hasn't caused problems making it so you can't chat to us.

I know babies keep you busy btw.

[wavesandsmiles]

He is beautiful isn't he. And I have a framed photo of DS aged 1 week and they could be one and the same

I'm exhausted, and feeling a bit worried now. I was feeding Caspian a while ago, and DS and DD had a row upstairs, and I couldn't intervene, and they both ended up in tears. It's hard work doing this alone. I just realised I hadn't eaten since lunchtime since TB (mum) popped round. She adores little Caspian, and saw him on Sunday morning first thing, again later on Sunday, and then this morning. Just for a few minutes each time, but she is clearly happy. She is off to hospital for 3 days tomorrow and I hope it all goes ok, that they find out what is wrong, and a treatment plan can be put in place.

I don't think twunt is going to try much on. He has been a bit weird - immediately after Caspian was born he was straight away on his phone, and when he brought his boys and later his mum and sister round, he was just on the phone again. No interaction at all. He has signed the birth registration form (father has to do it over here) so I can take that in tomorrow and make Acrobat official.

It's hard to take it easy when you share facilities with lodgers. I have to keep on top of tidiness in communal areas etc. And no real relaxing possible! My new girl lodger is a sweetheart though. She had a delivery of free little gifts at work and brought a couple home for DS1 and DD, and gave those to them on Saturday night, and today she left a card for me, and some clothes for Caspian - she remembered me saying I had very few first size clothes, and that he had long nails, so bought him some first size vests and scratch mits.

I think the "baby blues" may be just kicking in. It is really hard work doing this alone! Caspian discovered feeding properly early this morning, and DS1 and DD are being a bit more demanding too. A lovely friend called round with fennel tea for me, and chocolate, and lots of pink roses and white sweet williams for me to enjoy. (She and her husband are the ones who brought us home from hospital). She said that she will do anything she can to help, as I did so much to help her children when I used to teach them and took them further than any other music teacher would have done. It made me a bit welled up to be honest - she is a lovely, inspirational woman, and I am so delighted that she feels I made a difference to her boys' lives.

I ache, and am hoping for a good sleep.....sorry for the rambly post but I am tired

[Xales]

Congratulations!

BTW you need to update the number of children on your profile when you stop being so busy

[pointythings]

It sounds like you have some good RL support, waves - use them! It's really hard with a new baby and two DCs at home for the school holidays, no wonder you feel you have no time. New lodger sounds fab, you've done well there.

I think your DCs are old enough to be talked to about Caspian's need to feed - if they complain that he needs frequent feeding, show them this to illustrate the point about how tiny his stomach is - I'm sure they'll get it.

And of course get them involved with bath time, making funny noises at him to entertain him, helping with nappy changes and so on.

I hope your mother has a speedy recovery - not so much for her as for you.

[wavesandsmiles]

I want to cry. Twunt left his fb account open on my phone and I just found out exactly what he has been saying....and the women he is flirting with....and the lies, despite his letter and subsequent statements about loving me. I am an evil nut job apparently

Sat here with Caspian feeding (ouch to after pains and sore nipples) and feeling so confused and angry and sad.

[WingDefence]

You are NOT an evil nutjob. You are an amazing mother of three gorgeous children and nothing will ever take that away from you. You are a beautiful woman. You are a talented musican. You are not evil nor a nutjob.

He is lying to other women to justify his treatment of you. You are a wonderful woman and we all are here with you and holding your hand through this. xxx

[wavesandsmiles]

he left it open on my laptop, not phone. Stupid teary typing....

[minkembernard]

(((waves))) he is an enormous FW of the highest order of twuntage. he doies not believe a word of it. he is just saying whatever he thinks will get her onside because of course he cannot say i fucked over a totally amazing awesome woman who is far better than an arsehole like me could ever hope to deserve and not only that I did it while she was very ill from being pregnant with my child. who is beautiful and whom i also do not deserve btw.

well he could and it would be true but it wouldn't get him very far.

better of without him waves. it is horrible. he is an idiot. and you and your dcs deserve the very very best.

[MrsFrederickWentworth]

Well done, lovely birth, lovely name, lovely baby.

[Ezio]

Waves, you a beautiful, kind, loving woman, you've been abused, had a terrible pregnancy, dealt with horrid people, and you got that handsome little boy into this world.

You allowed twunt to be there, he sons and his family to see Caspian, that is not a nutjob nor evil, that is a kind, accepting woman who sees beyond what she wants.

Now im a stranger on the internet, who cried with pride at how well you've done, i speak for everyone who is so proud of you.

He is nothing but a miserable waste of space who has to lie to get sympathy from women, because he wouldnt get any without it, because hes boring, abusive, disinterest, stupid, and a waste of space.

So when your looking at Caspian and your other 2, look at them a think "Its hard, but im alright". Because you will be, Twunt is a loser, who had a great thing and lost it, well more fool him.

[Allalonenow]

Ooh sweetie, I am so sad for you that you are having to deal with this at a time which should be blissfully happy for you.
He is trying to make sure that her knickers stay around her ankles, and so he is saying anything to keep her sweet.

None of what he says about you is true or real or honest. But it tells you yet again what a lying selfish bastard he is, and how he will twist anything to his own advantage.

[bunchamunchycrunchycarrots]

waves, I second ezio. Anyone who falls for 'the ex is an evil nut job' line is on a hiding to nothing as far as any relationship goes. You know that isn't true. You have been kind, generous and dignity personified as far as the twunt is concerned and this is how he describes you to a total stranger. You know the depths of fuckwittery he will descend to, and this is just the latest in the many cruel things he's done.

You are simply the most amazing person and mother, and he never deserved the kindness, love and care you have given him. You are a special person and your 3 DC are so lucky to have someone as strong as you to be their for them. Please don't let that nasty lie bring you down. Speak to your midwife/HV and get support if you feel you are sinking into the baby blues etc. Thats just normal but you need a bit more support to try and avoid sinking lower than that. Don't hesitate to ask all those in place to support you, when dealing with this stuff.

Just enjoy that gorgeous little bundle and don't let that arsewipe taint this special time for you. You are the strongest person I've come across on MN and you can get through this. Just ask those waiting on the sideline for the help you need.

Take care x

[Ezio]

Rose, infact i'd call that a massive red flag, if right off the bat a man could his ex a bitch to me, my ex said horrid things about me.