Dating - The Thread. Come and Share Care and Cheer!

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The Rules

1. Develop a thick skin;
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
3. It's all BS until it actually happens;
4. Trust your gut instinct;
5. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
6. They should be trying to impress you
7. If it's not fun, stop

If he's new, get him quick Boots before he gets corrupted!

Thirty-two minutes Pony - oh dear. This is just too much hard work. Imagine this every time you want to meet up. If he doesn't reply, I don't think I'd bother with him any more. Disappointing, though.

He's just texted asking if I'm still free tomorrow, or have I planned to do stuff with my kids. Arrrrrgh! I told him I had completely freed up the day!

Wow in the nick of time. What you guna do?

Argh!!! I've only bloody text him. I am an arse.

I hope so OWW! I am probably at my most disheartened with it all. It's just so tedious having the same small talk conversations over and over again!

Doesn't help that like of few other threadees, there's a ghost of an ex hovering that I can't seem to exorcise, through which I seem to be filtering everything .

End of a long day for me. Sure I'll feel better after a good night's sleep!

Will try and catch up with the ins and outs of everone's lives before I post again!

Secret-feeling your pain with the small talk. Hate going back to the drawing board every time (which is where I'm headed I think). I flipping hate dating. Where are all of the nice men???

Well, he's saying he wants to spend time with me, more than an hour (which is all he'd have tomorrow), he already has future dates planned. But it's still all talk. I accept that his other son is there for the weekend unexpectedly. But he was being rubbish about planning for this weekend before that, and he's leaving it very late to confirm all this with me, it's not very thoughtful. Kinda want to meet him, meet up, have plans to speak about all this to his face. Although that might put my plans to get a snog out the window...

Anyway, am going to bed whatever. Night all, hopes for a peaceful night for all.

Well.. Moon girl didn't cancel so I went over and we had our picnic in the park. Very nice time it was too. The. When it got a bit colder we went to the pub and the conversation got a bit more heart to heart.

I think bant inspired me as I seem to have made it clear I'm not being messed around and she either sorts it out and we date, or we don't bother keeping in touch.

No kiss at the end of the night, no real response from her other than "I don't like ultimatums" and that would appear to be that.

Probably for the best. No, definitely for the best.

She may not like 'ultimatums' but she has to realise that it's completely unfair to blithely assume that she can just pick you up when ever the mood takes her and drop you at a moment's notice, you did the right thing, Bill.

Morning all!
Bill sounds like you've fine the right thing, she wasnt playing fair and at least you've been clear.
Pony, is there anyone else on the horizon other than this guy? Maybe see if anyone else takes your fancy to take the pressure off (and for what it's worth, I've never had a guy go in for a snog on the 1st date).
So as I explained I text 'him' last night (late but I knew he was up as on fb and pof) saying only 'right. What is going on here?' He read it immediately and promptly ignored. What an utter dick. There we go then. I am done with him. Hope he has a really really shit holiday.

kin i macbethed as well with DS1 who played a macduffling 3 years ago. loved it! very scary!

bant hope youre feeling a bit better this morning...you too bill this is exactly the right thing to do, seize the day! grasp the nettle etc. things may not go all slow-motion-fairy-tale, but they're done & you can move on. i like to think of it as after a thunder-storm when the sun comes out...everything looks brighter & smells better!

oww i demand you have a bunch of filthy sex as soon as possible!

Hello everyone. I've been lurking for a while, trying to pick up some hints as planning to do OD for the first time.

I'm in my 50s and don't have anyone else to discuss this with, but wondering if any of you might be prepared to take a look at the blurb I've written about myself. Not sure if I've got it completely wrong or whether I've written a brilliant few lines that'll have that'll have men falling at my feet .

Oh and I'm really looking forward to joining you properly when I've got some dates and general goings on to report excited about possibility of loo updates

T that's so disappointing. He's a shit. Be strong, stay done, it's not worth it.

Bill that's a shame, but sounds good that you are being honest about what you do and don't want. If that's not for her, then it would never work anyway. I need to remember that too!

There's no other real prospects - one nice bloke that I'm idly messaging, but he lives too far for it to be feasible. TBH the bloke I'm supposed to be meeting today isn't a prospect on paper - he's 6 years younger than me and doesn't drive. But if nothing comes of it, I'm philosophical - I'm practicing having boundaries and keeping them up, if nothing else.

My snog has gone anyway - he told me last night he has a cold sore...

Bill definitely for the best, Nora has hit it on the head.

Snape I shall do my very level best to comply with your demand Now if only it were Alpha saying that to me

Bill fantastic stuff. I know this might sound a bit soppy, but you and Bant are really helping me stay strong about LM. I think you've absolutely done the right thing.

Hello Pick and welcome to the thread! If you'd like to pm me your blurb I'm happy to take a look, not that mine was any cop to be honest.

T sorry to hear it's not going well. Are you sure he knows what's going on as your text might have come out of the blue a little bit? A lot of people have a default setting of doing nothing (ignoring) if a potentially difficult situation is developing. Do you think you're going to bother with him after his holidays?

So Pony this is getting very frustrating! Is he meeting up or not?

OWW we do appear to be meeting this afternoon, but trying to pin down a place and time is like getting blood from a stone! I have ended up trying to suggest a few places again, after promising myself I'd back off and let him sort it.

pony - this is ridiculous. It sounds like he's either terminally indecisive or playing some stupid game. He's meant to be showing he's an alpha male at this point, can make decisions and follow through, is attractive, intelligent, charming, decisive, funny, sexy. I think the basic ability to choose a place and time and stick with it indicates a lack of all of those things.

Just let him try to sort it out and if he can't, tell him you've got other plans to go to a pissup in a brewery.

basic inability, I meant..

Morning everyone,

OWW ' I shall do my very best to comply with your demand now if only it was Alpha saying that to me ' that made me positively arf.

Snape yes, that was exactly it, it was scary and I didn't expect it to be at all. Although I have to say that I'm possibly getting on a bit to sit on the ground in a car park for several hours. I'm going to see the Othello relay (my favourite) in September in a comfy cinema seat

Hello Pickfords come on in, there are lots of people on here who are very good at checking profiles.

T he sounds like an arse

Pony I think even the slightly fruitless dates can be a useful exercise in working out precisely what you absolutely need, I've found it's almost like getting to know myself again after years of shuffling what I want into the background.

Hello Secret - hope you're ok, the haunting ex is a bastard to deal with.

Boots not a vulture, you're a guardian angel swooping in to save Postie from the rigours of OD.

Wine what's not classy about that ? Hope you're feeling better.

Hope everyone's ok this morning, especially Bill and Bant.

Brief update on the train wreck which passes for my love life, been asked out by a vair keen man from okc who apparently does something called 'Angelic Massage' - hmmmm, seems otherwise normal so I'm tempted to risk the potential fruitloopness. I know, he's barking, isn't he ?

Talent sent me a photo of his injured ankle to diagnose, I slipped, as I do, into my professional bossy alter ego and asked him relevant questions about his injury, apparently this turned him on, which was weird as I wasn't actually trying to effect any tumescence at the time.
Licks pencil, makes note ' get uniform sex dress out of storage' .

Chatting to various others, including a man on okc whose profile gave me shivers ( in a good way, it wasn't like he sounded like a psychopath or anything ).

Bant I like your direct approach!

We appear to have a plan. However, it's not much of a plan. We are meeting up (at a time that could still change, and a place that is still to be confirmed nearer that aforementioned possibly changeable time) and then deciding where to go (in a town that neither of us really knows for places to go).

So I will get ready and go to the town, and await my rendezvous and hope I don't end up waiting for ages because the time has changed! Ye gods.

Kin that's how I'm looking at the whole POF experience. I have been practicing feeling ok saying 'no thank you' to people, or even 'that isn't suitable for me'. And now if needs be, I can practice saying that face-to-face as well as online.