Well, I think I have soundly fucked everything up with Mr Lovely. Though, with the arsiness displayed this evening I'm not sure whether he is lovely or not... Perhaps you could all give me some feedback but be prepared - it's long and very he said she said!
On Monday I asked if we could see each other Fri night, that I had no plans other than leaving early Sun am. He asked what was wrong with Sat as he was busy Fri and suggested Thurs and Sat. He said something that night about not seeing me and I said I had been wanting to on Fri but he's busy. I reassured him that life becomes a bit less frantic in September as I'm aware that I've not been able to see much of him. After a bit of argy bargy I said that I had anticipated him coming round here on Friday and then staying here til I left on Sunday. No firm commitment either way.
On Tuesday I said that I would buy dinner this w/e - he insists on paying an awful lot so I wanted to make a stand. He said ok. When I asked what his plans were he was noncommittal again. When I asked which night he wanted to go out he didn't say. I tried to press later on whether we'd see each other Friday night or not and he didn't commit - again.
On Thursday he asked if one of my dcs would be there on Fri. I said no, so company would be good - nudge nudge... Nothing.
This morning I told him where I was hoping to eat tomorrow night. Then later he said that he was tired, that eating out might be better Saturday rather than Friday. So I said that was ok, that I could make arrangements to see a friend on Friday if he was tired and we could spend all day Saturday together and he could stay on Sat night. Half an hour later I checked to see what he thought and he said he was thinking why bother? So I explained that I thought he'd meant he didn't want to see me on Friday, but perhaps I'd got the wrong end of the stick - I could see this friend another time easily. So he quoted what I'd said on Monday about seeing him all w/e and then asked 'or was that until a better offer came along?'
Aaargh. I said I didn't know if that was what he'd wanted as he's always so non-committal, that I've not had a better offer, that I wanted to spend time with him but that he always seems to leave arrangements hanging and then I can't read him.
I really like him but I'm wondering if this tendency to leave things hanging was attractive because it is the complete antithesis of ex who had everything nailed down years ahead of time? I can't do that though. I don't mind being spontaneous - but I have a family, I have to plan things. I don't mean that every detail has to be planned but I at least have to know when I might be seeing someone.
I sent that last message at half 8 - no response. He could well be asleep as he's knackered through early mornings at the moment but he'd sent his snipey comment about better offers less than 10 mins previously.
He's being an arse isn't he? In which case I'm done. I do not have the time or energy or desire to play games. He was so promising in many ways though