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[AWarmFuzzyFuture]

The Rules

1. Develop a thick skin;
   
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
   
3. It's all BS until it actually happens;
   
4. Trust your gut instinct;
   
5. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
   
6. They should be trying to impress you
   
7. If it's not fun, stop

[Snapespeare]

bant I'm putting a wee bit of your post down to post-sex hormones, but I do think you're a little premature with relation to a LTR, especially as you seem to be contemplating a move en France. it's way too early for that kind of discussion. Just not now, glory in your non-family status, your decree is very absolute. Have a lovely, fun time in the now, leave the conte,platoons for another time.

Friday night nameless substitute is a bottle of M&S intalian white, salmon and peas n rice and Olivia Colman. Not too shabby, but had grr-day at work and could do with a cuddle. Meh.

[OhWesternWind]

Scrazy am currently stricken by pangs of longing too. Incredibly pissed off with myself for being so weak willed. I know his faults and that he's no good, but I miss him. Been texting back and forth a bit this afternoon, so bittersweet and I just miss him. All self-inflicted so no need to sympathise, could probably do with a kick up the fundament instead. I think you're doing the right thing not meeting up, I don't think they really change.

Hostess hope you're feeling a bit better. Did you cancel? I understand the body stuff and it's difficult.

Bant what's happened since breakfast?

48 just have a fabulous time.

Rose hope you're ok. Not long now!

New you're worth it and more.

[Snapespeare]

oww do you miss him, or the idea of him? From what you have said, I see him as interchangeable; it's the 'comfort' of knowing what you are getting and the familiarity Vs. the shit-mire of OD. don't do anything (doing nothing is also a conscious choice)

[OhWesternWind]

Oh Snape I don't know. The thought of someone who knows me, knows the dc, who I have shared history and private jokes with is just so very seductive. And he honestly was the best shag I've ever had, exactly on my wavelength and I miss that a lot. But he's horribly bad news, nothing good will come of this but I'm just so tempted to see where this goes.

[lurkinglorna]

Hello everyone! hot as hell here!

The european and I became lovers last night, nothing earth-shattering but pleasant enough - so I'm in the "had sex, affection and contact there but gotta see what happens next" camp?

[T2710]

Hey all! Haven't been on here for a few weeks so couldn't possibly recap on all that's gone on but I thought I'd pop over and say hello and see what's going on.

I've been dating someone for about a month, seen rather a lot of him and it seems to be going well. He's stayed here, I've stayed there. Saw him today as he's off on hol for a week tomorrow but it actually felt a bit odd. Got strange vibes when we 'departed'. Hoping I'm just worrying as I genuinely do like him. Had to throw in the bloody 'are we dating other people' line via text earlier though didnt I. Doh. Hope I don't appear needy, would just be good to know.

[OhWesternWind]

What sort of odd T? Could he just have been a bit preoccupied about his hols?

[T2710]

Hi OWW.
I'm not sure i can't really label it. I think what cemented the thoughts is that when he dropped me off he didn't come in, which is odd for him. I did text to see if everything was ok and he said he had stuff to do etc and he did feel a little diff but though that was just coz he was looking forward to his hol :-s

Hmm. Will see if/what he says in a text later. Was all going great up to that point. Perhaps I'm being ridiculous. Just odd he effectively ignored my dating other people thing. I did say though, that didnt include his hol.

[KinNora]

A brief, in-transit post from me as I'm heading back up north for the weekend.

OWW don't be feeling fed up with yourself, the good memories you have of LM will seem so much more real and technicolour than all the crappy ones, they push themselves to the forefront of the mind and they're so seductive. I'm in no position to preach about the dangers of going back so I won't, but I understand completely.

I hope your day's been better Wine - it'll be the fact that your job is capable of getting to you in quite that way that makes you good at it.

Bant - really, really happy for you now don't let her muck you about.

48 you lucky, lucky, lucky woman, have a fabulous time ( and it's great to hear your mum's doing so well ) .

Chatting to a few possibilities, some vaguely interesting, would still like to deflower Talent Show but I suspect I'm never going to get to Nadger Base Camp there.

Keeping very quiet about daily correspondence with Spud, it's wrong - I know it, you know it

[OhWesternWind]

Oh Wine that doesn't sound good at all. Fingers crossed for the healing power of the sun. Texting with LM started well, couple of references to stuff we'd done, private jokes but then there's more angsty drama stuff aaaarghh!!! No. Actually I think it's a lot to do with the sex and currently not getting any yes, Alpha, I'm looking at you so have just texted Alpha to say it would be good to spend some private time together before too long. He's away on holiday soon though for a week so it's going to be sodding August!!!

Nora thank you for being so kind, love. Maybe you ahould stop off at Talent's on the way home and give him a good seeing to ...

[mercury7]

Lurking
pleasant?
are you sure thats the right word?
I know first times can be awkward but that kinda has an air of damning with faint praise

[OhWesternWind]

Sorry missed your post Lorna - what do you want to happen next? How did you leave it?

T sounds a little odd but I bet he was just preoccupied with holiday stuff and had his mind a bit too much on that. Hope it will all be fine when he's back.

[OhWesternWind]

Just had a reply from Alpha - he is sure we will get some private time soon! Oo-er, maybe we will see some action before too long.

He's not replied to anything else in my message which was quite a long, chatty one, just the bit about private time, so i think hes got the message! Maybe he was waiting for me to give the green light and was just being slow/polite/clueless ...

[KinNora]

Hoo-bloody-rah , lightbulb switches on over Alpha's head - women have needs Alpha, get your keks off.

I would stop off and ravish Talent OWW but I fear he is a gentle soul and would not respond well to a rampaging sex maniac.

[OhWesternWind]

You could do it very gently and politely Nora but that wouldn't be much fun

[KinNora]

It'd be like corrupting a dormouse.

[KinNora]

Although he has just told me that he's a big believer in cunnilingus so you never know actually I do, I publicly guarantee that we will never make the beast with two backs

[TheTitleSaysItAllReally]

Ahem... pof profile got forgotten tonight. I ended up going to Mr RL's house for takeaway. It was great, lots of laughter and mutual flirting but then just a chaste kiss on the cheek and goodnight. He did rest his hand on my back as I kissed him but I dont know.

The signals are a bit mixed but then its very close to home for both of us so maybe he's a bit wary in the same way I am. Who knows!

[T2710]

Great news on alpha OWW. Exciting times ahead.

Still waiting on my text which was apparently coming 'later'. Grr. Possibly another one biting the dust here, and I have absolutely no idea what I've done wrong this time. It was going great.

[KinNora]

T I doubt you have done anything wrong, sometimes, for some unfathomable reason, they just decide to do a disappearing act - there's no rhyme or reason to it.

[ALittleStranger]

T you've done nothing wrong, but I think the fact he ignored the question probably gives you your answer. And once the answer is out there and you're officially on a different page it can be difficult to sustain things. For that reason I wouldn't ask such things after a month normally because I'm the one trying not to formalise things, or it's just obvious that you are exclusive, but if that sort of thing matters to you there is a dollop of nothing ventured nothing gained. If you want something he won't give better to know and get out sooner.