Dating - The Thread. Come and Share Care and Cheer!

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The Rules

1. Develop a thick skin;
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
3. It's all BS until it actually happens;
4. Trust your gut instinct;
5. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
6. They should be trying to impress you
7. If it's not fun, stop

Lorna seize the six pack

No, sorry T , mine are teenagers.

My youngest is 4, T

Sorry T mine are 18 and 24. I'm growing old disgracefully

My youngest is 10, T.

Lorna I always have a look at the shirtless ones!! Sometimes it's not all about personality

Alice traffic is greater on POF where I live, but when I've been round them all I fancy a change to the usual faces, I check on OKC. Have even been known to lurk on Match, but I find it too earnest.

Lorna could I ask what sort of European he was? I'm not sure why I even want to know taking notes

Just booked flight back to Lakelandia. Had to wait until I knew my hair would be sorted as for the uninitiated, black hair problems = show stopper of epic proportions. Dutchie's had his entire family there this week in rotation and they'll be done by then. I can't wait, I fully intend to break him.

T mine was 19 yesterday

sorry T older here

I guess I'm just thinking its guna be difficult to meet anyone. My son is still very much dependent on me. Feeling very disheartened after last night. I make clear I have a child but it seems to take a while for guys to realise what that means

I'll PM you in a sec Juliette

I don't want to generalise by nationality though - he worked for an international firm and I think he had that male "I am SO important" vibe which you get in all cultures?

I might have picked up on little red flags earlier if I wasn't thinking "oh he's just a stoic pragmatic foreigner who says it like it is and that's his "way"". Gah. Still, seem to be having POF bonanza time today. I think maybe thats the trick with sites, you do ok when you're technically "new", then you should retreat for a bit, then come back new.

"..you BOX do you, young shirtless man...".

(I am going to hell and staying there)

Nameless has changed his mobile wallpaper to me. This is prompting me to bring take away pizza to his on Friday (after i have had post-work drinks with a female friend and will therefore be a bit squiffy...) with 'I love you' written in red peppers. You all know how I like an overblown gesture and what better way than via the medium of pizza?

snapespeare you FOX

Snape that is a beautiful gesture. Do the pizza people write it for you or do you have to rearrange the red peppers yourself?

bonanza time on POF, you say, Lorna? Slopes off to have another look

Lorna you are incorrigible

Juliette hopefully Dutchie has been indulging in a healthy, stamina-friendly diet, all the better to cope with your outrageous sexual demands.

T I think SP has a young child/children, might be worth asking her.

Snape pizza = the language of lurrrrve.

Hot Tub has spontaneously texted a couple of photos of himself, the man looks like a spiv. He is also wearing a necklace. Meeeeehhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.

django Well i feel optimistic about POF right now, but maybe I'll just end up catching me another twitchy angry one (anyone know Malcolm tucker from the Thick Of It - that was my dream date last night. i had my best knickers on to seduce malcolm tucker with an accent).

But I think in terms of just "seeing fresh faces, being a fresh face" its nice having had a break? after a couple weeks, or even a week i think its becomes a bit depressing looking at the same old faces, and BEING a same old face too.

Break up at 10pm, new profile at midnight - I did bite my lip and avoided the temptation to make a "side swipe" profile, you know the ones, with some mysterious angry comment about "no men with bad tempers" subtext you know who you are are you bastard i'm not bitter no

KinNora hot tub

It's been six months (today!) no-one has said the L word he's been a bit low over the last couple of weeks, I want to level-up. I think pizza wins. I mentioned I might bring a takeaway on Friday as I spend a lot of time at his and he always assembles stuff on a plate cooks...and that's generous of him, because he's not always well enough to cook... So my thinking is two birds, one pizza...

What would the thread think, when confronted with emotional pizza?

Snape I made an 18th birthday pizza for my sister, with the '18' picked out in peppers so I'm biased. He pretty obviously loves you and must know you love him, if you want to do it, I'd go for it. (I'd be touched and I don't particularly like pizza )

I would be very impressed with emotional pizza. You may want to use olives to dot the 'i'

Juliette how long until you get to break him? and

Well my foray into POF was fruitless except to check that the handsome postie who doesn't seem too keen to initiate chat hasn't been on, which is a boost but I had a message from a shirtless 21 yo on OKC. Damn shame he's 200 miles away

T I do think a lot of men (and women, for that matter) without children are completely oblivious to the complications of children, childcare etc, but because of that they don't necessarily see parenthood as a barrier to starting a relationship. If they do see it as a barrier, then they're no use to you anyway.

'T' as far as dating with young'uns goes, there are men who will be scared off immediately, men who will shy away later, ones who will think of you as a short term thing only, and others who have DC themselves who would prefer someone who understands the pressures they have themselves.

I would recommend making sure you have regular childcare though - I started dating someone months ago who had a 6 month old and we really liked each other but her childcare was iffy so she kept having to rearrange things at the last minute, after a couple of snatched evenings over the space of a month it just became silly. I kind of wish I'd kept on with it, apart from my relocation, as she was very sweet and attractive but it was just impossible to plan anything.

So- try and find a sitter who you can trust, a sitting circle or something, and take it slow. Weed out the milfhunters and there are decent blokes out there.

I'd love a bit of emotional pizza

A lovely idea Snape Go for it

Thanks juliette and bant (almost called you baby again then!). My lo sleeps at his dads twice a week and I also have a Sunday through the day to myself. If I need extra, my dad can usually babysit, so there's no issue there. It's just frustrating that people seem to have a change of heart halfway through.