Dating - The Thread. Come and Share Care and Cheer!

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The Rules

1. Develop a thick skin;
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
3. It's all BS until it actually happens;
4. Trust your gut instinct;
5. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
6. They should be trying to impress you
7. If it's not fun, stop

Wow! ForJuliette, Lorna, Lubey, Kirst, Spangled & if I left any other loved up ones out, I apologise.
Bant you go! Maybe you have not met the next Mrs Bant yet, but the action you're getting is not bad, no? Good for the self-esteem, methinks.
For all you sofa-dwellers, can I yet again put in a good word for Meet Ups?
So far this Sring-Summer there are 5 couplings in our not very large cohort of Meet-Uppers - maybe it's the weather?
All I know is that now that I am in love, I want everyone else to be in love too!

Thank you lovely people , having seen a few loved up folks on here commenting about how "right" things feel, I can see it's definitely not worth accepting anything less.... And to be honest, I probably still need to do a bit of work on my self esteem so I can get to the "right" stage anyway....

Moan, for you! I've tried a meet up in my local area and can see it has promise, will maybe go along again once the school hols are over.

Lubey for you too! Sounds like you're having a fab time!

Happy birthday Spangled I hope you're having a spectacular day.

A giant, humongous 'awwwww' Lubey

Moan lovely to see you and I'm glad things are going well.

Kirsty FoF sounds fantastic but is 'kayaking' some term I should be looking up (very carefully) on Urban Dictionary ?

Flipper I've been meaning to ask how you've been getting on recently, is work any less stressful ?

Big mwwwahhhh to everyone else.

My contribution is sadly devoid of hot sex/loved upness.
Not heard from Talent Show since Saturday.
Talking to a man on okc who supposedly is a sitcom writer ( yeah, breaking news, mate, it's not 'would of ' ) and who referred to me as 'cute'. Borrowed time is all I'm saying.
Aaaaaaand just had a text out of the blue from Spud, he's fed up and quoting Sartre.

It's like a romantic dream.

"he's fed up and quoting Sartre.

It's like a romantic dream."

Nora

Ranger, you're right, it's fun at least, and I'm not sure if there will be a future mrs bant. Maybe.

Mermaid said something when she was at mine, I'd heard on this thread and before- that we all have our own quirks and peculiarities, but sometimes we meet someone whose quirks match our own, and they make us happy. I've horribly misremembered but the message gets across.

Aruba just mailed me and said she missed me a bit. Which is nice to hear but not really reciprocated. I'll see her again when I get back and if she's more normal we'll see how we go.

But I know if I met someone like FrenchGirl or Mermaid while dating in Hungaria I'd be happy. Aruba isn't like that, nor was Cheshirecat, Pinkhat or Yogagirl. I want someone passionate about stuff. Music, books, art, jokes, movies- just something other than their work. And people like that seem few and far between. Big smile, a lust for life and for me :)

L'enfer, c'est les pommes de terre ...

Which particular sitcom(s), Nora? At least 95% of them should result in instant excommunication for reasons of shiteness.

Bant I have to say the dating outlook in Hungaria would be enough to tempt me to the Paris job. Sometimes you have to think about how career choices impact on your whole life...

I'm feeling the anti-exclusivity backlash. I think prompted by jealousy of all the loved upness on here. Things do not feel "right". Not due to any red flags, more because that elusive smitten box isn't being ticked. Hmm at what point just to end it especially when the sex is good?

Now you see what you've done there is quite spooky OWW - combined his love of French philosophy (yes, really, it's easy to see why I fell for him) and his passion for potatoes.

No idea what the Comedy King has actually written but he's obviously very proud of himself as he keeps mentioning it.

How are you feeling ?

Bant your comment about people whose quirks match our own just struck me as very true, it's someone who gets you, isn't it ? No tedious explaining that you were just joking when you made a flippant remark, or why standing looking at the Millennium Bridge in Newcastle and marvelling at its engineering is an entirely reasonable thing to do or that you're hysterical because the man you walked past had a dog that was the image of Spit the Dog, just easy.

Nora we were actually going to go out in kayaks on the Clyde .. We're not now though .. Decided just to stay in ;)

I totally get the quirk thing too .. It just seems so straightforward and comfortable and right

(I do really know what kayaking is, I was just making a silly joke ).

I think you have made entirely the right choice, sexy time vs paddling up a river = no contest. Not at all oh no, not me, no sirrreeee.

Thanks all for the birthday wishes - just in from work and shattered! Not heard from Hillman yet today but we don't normally text until later in the evenings anyway. Date is set for Friday apparently!

There's this other guy...I think I mentioned him previously. We met on Okcupid...let's call him GingerScot. We met up once and it was pretty good but neither of us wanted anything serious and he felt guilty about that so we didn't see each other again but we've kept in touch and he's been in touch almost every day for the last three weeks. He uses a couple of other dating sites and I keep having him suggested as a perfect match for me. Ha! Don't know why I'm mentioning that as I'm not really sure what it is - just flirting, I reckon?

Gran is home from the hospital today :) tonight I'm wiped out so having a quiet one. Celebration cake and wine is due on Wednesday!

Now I need to go and read the last seven or eight pages of this thread!

Is anyone else not seeing the thread come up under relationships any more?...

I couldn't find it there either Bant!

Hi there, have been lurking on the thread a bit, can I jump in?

I've recently come out of a long relationship and have been feeling pretty devastated, but at the same time I'm trying to look on the bright side and am getting semi-excited about the prospect of meeting men, flirting and going on dates again. It still feels a bit too soon, but when I do get back out there can you recommend the best (free?) OD site to try to dip my toe in the water again? I live in a big city, 20s, no kids. Has anyone had much experience of PoF or OKC (or another one I haven't thought of)? Thanks :)

Hi MsApp

Personally I've had no dates from POF. You have to do a lot of screening out the dross and I think people just put more effort into OKC. That's worked best for me - the 'matching' percentage thing seems to be fairly accurate, someone with a 40% match to me seems completely wrong when I read their profile, whereas someone who's 90% seems like my type.

Out of sheer boredom, I put a fairly blank profile up on POF. Went through 30 pages of users around my age requirements and reasonably local and haven't seen one guy that I like the look and sound of :(.

Sent one message out just because he was near and looked OK, but without a photo doubt I will get a reply. Big fail and I might take my profile down soon.

Tell a lie, one guy looked quite nice but he was married to a f-ing bch and doesn't like shaven pubes, so I thought it best not to get involved , jeeze I despair.

Slide up the sofa ladies, SOMEONE got the red card tonight for "giggling too much"....

(giggles)

lorna spill!!

Well I went back to FoF's last night .. We had dinner and a couple of glasses of wine and then we ended up staying up till 2am chatting and it was a while later before we got to sleep .. We were then awake by 5:30 .. Someone going to give me a nudge later please??

Oi!! Kirsty Wakey Wakey!!!

It's not like you to be coy Lorna - share!

Waves to all - old and new - OD miners and sofa surfers

I know you've all been on tenterhooks since Sunday and it was very rude of me to not get back sooner, but RL just keeps getting in the way.

Anyways up - he texted, a 'good day?' sort of text. I replied, nothing back for another 8 hrs or so. A pattern repeated yesterday. Nothing yet today. It's so frustrating, but I suspect it's not game playing - just not as fixated on his phone as I am.

And we are meeting again Wednesday, so that's got to be good. Yes?

Yes

Secret that sounds fine to me to

Phew! I was worried I was minimising again! But if you two agree it must be OK. Yay!

I don't think I've crossed paths with you in a while Juliette but I'm really thrilled for you and Dutchie. Long may it continue

And Bant I think you should tell Aruba there's only room for one undercover operative in your life and it's not her!

Hey all! Things are looking good in general for the group right now from what I've seen?

I saw ' Lads hol' last night-it transpires he's suddenly concerned that I have a child. Would like to date other people as he's not sure what to do and needs to think. He really likes me and wants to see me still. Grr. So he can crack on, it's clearly going nowhere, but I shall accept the sex for now whilst on the search for someone more suitable long term. Currently I'm the process if arranging a date with someone else.