Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Dating - The Thread. Come and Share Care and Cheer!

999 replies

AWarmFuzzyFuture · 18/07/2013 21:04

The Rules

  1. Develop a thick skin;
  2. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
  3. It's all BS until it actually happens;
  4. Trust your gut instinct;
  5. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
  6. They should be trying to impress you
  7. If it's not fun, stop
OP posts:
48howdidthathappen · 28/07/2013 12:58

Kirsty Grin Grin

I have stayed at Gretna Green with Mr R&R twice now. Just to break the journey up. So far Smile

lubeybooby · 28/07/2013 16:04

She is you, Kin! :o

Thanks everyone, it's all very nice indeed :o

There's still a conversation we need to have in person about what exactly we are doing and how it will all work and stuff, but that's just a formality really and the chat we had the other day about both being happy to see where it takes us and neither of us wanting to screw up or have it stop was the important one.

AWarmFuzzyFuture · 28/07/2013 16:41

Lubey GrinGrinGrin

Another one bites the dust! Grin Good for you girlfriend.

Hey 48 how you doing?Wink

I've been drinking...big kisses (yeah I am a happy/amorous drunk)

Is anymore of the vipers on OKC (OK Cupid)? I'll put you in my favourites and take a cheeky peek at ya while I'm at it. So far no Germans Sad

I shall be watching reruns of Frazier and Father Ted.

I love you all ('Are You Being Served?')

xx

OP posts:
AWarmFuzzyFuture · 28/07/2013 16:41

Carry On!

OP posts:
AWarmFuzzyFuture · 28/07/2013 16:49
Smile

While your glass is full, Kristy drink (copyright Mercury all rights reserved)

OP posts:
mercury7 · 28/07/2013 16:58

I made a new POF profile, yesterday, then hid it...I felt quite anxious at the thought of going through all that again, I'm going to stick with my current arrangements and get my kicks from swimming induced euphoria

48howdidthathappen · 28/07/2013 18:40

Hi WFF I seem to be planning a wedding in my head. New ground for me. Feck Shock Grin Love Father Ted.

JulietteMontague · 28/07/2013 18:54

48 I am saving the date and booking a milliner.

Lubey I am so, so happy for you. It all sounds wonderful, straight forward and I totally recognise that grinning so hard your face hurts thing Grin

OWW I'm sorry Alpha is going through all that, good on him for telling you too. This may sound presumptive but rather than wait to see what any outcomes are, have you let him know that seizing the current day with or without any limitations that there may be could also be a way forward. He may not of thought of it that way and it seems daft to hold off if it's not necessary.

Kin yep totally agree, we have to take our pleasure and love when we find it. I sometimes wonder whether it will all work out for Dutchie and me but if I held back then I wouldn't have had days like last week on the water, all of which were one long perfect moment. It was utter bliss, when do we ever get the chance of total privacy for days, in the sun with no clothes on (except to cook, I learnt that one fast) just reading books and having sex several times a day. It couldn't have been any better and best to grab those moments, big and small, with both hands.

I have other memories from my distant past in the bank which I know I'll take with me always and I wouldn't have missed any of them despite the pain that has sometimes followed.

Kirsty I am vair excited for you, I do hope you intend to make the most of him before tomorrow morning.

Waving to rest of thread, and a big welcome to new people.

Snapespeare · 28/07/2013 19:12

juliette thats a lovely post. i am so pleased for you. Smile

JulietteMontague · 28/07/2013 19:28

Thanks Snape, I just feel a little lucky at the moment.

KinNora · 28/07/2013 20:02

It sounds blissful, Juliette , I'm so happy for you x

AWarmFuzzyFuture · 28/07/2013 20:06

It is lovely to read the shoots of successful, relationships being established and maturing on the Thread, there is hope.

(Online) Dating after the forever relationship has crashed takes guts... and sharing, caring and cheering puts it in perspective.

I have answered 700 questions on OKCShock Had a few 'Ur sexi' and 'Hello''s etc. Still a bit half arsed about it all...until I get an interesting message from a suitable man....Grin

(Yes buoyed with G&T's)

Had the most lovely afternoon...

OP posts:
Movingforward123 · 28/07/2013 20:26

Lubey - Grin very happy for you, I havnt been on the thread for ages but wow that was very unexpected as before you were very against having a relationship! Great news

Well I just watched letters to Juliette wow so romantic Grin has anyone seen it? I know it's so fake but really makes you realise why some of us are still single. Because real life isn't like that Hmm

scrazy · 28/07/2013 20:35

Moving, I caught the tail end of the film. Loved up feeling to the thread atm. Pleased for you Juliette, Lubey, Snape and 48, long may the happiness last. I'm a firm believer in seizing the moment. Or at least I used to be.

I went on a major night out last night and had the most unromantic of liaisons. A young man tried to snog my face off in a nightclub smoking area Grin Must admit he was a good snog and I might have just responded slightly. Then he was looking for me and I asked if he liked older women to which he said no, why would I, so I told him I was 10 years older,so it was no go but in reality I was way more older than him than that. I know he had his beer goggles on but felt slightly flattered, all good, clean harmless fun as I turned down his suggestion of going somewhere more private Grin. Great night out though.

Lt and I are still on speaking terms. It's fine and he bought me something quite thoughtful and heartfelt.

Winefiend · 28/07/2013 20:49

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

JulietteMontague · 28/07/2013 20:55

Scazy excellent!

Wine anyone who puts on booze and a bouncy castle is asking for it. It would be rude not to.

scrazy · 28/07/2013 21:07

Wine, just a thought but would the bouncy castle be for the children and the booze for the adults Grin.

Bant · 28/07/2013 21:10

Hi all - lots of nice things happening, and hello to the new people..

I'm back in England for a week, which is lovely. It was 42 degrees yesterday in Hungaria which is just unpleasant.

So. As of the other day Aruba came over to mine, made food, we chatted, she stayed over and we ended up DTD. It was.. okay. Nice enough I suppose, she's very conservative - not that I was trying to swing from the chandeliers or anything, but I prefer the lights on rather than off, that kind of thing. I'll be seeing her again, but I'm not sure if we're really right for each other. That may make me seem like a cad but it was just.. not great.

However, I'm now somewhat guilt-ridden as I had an old friend, the Mermaid, come to stay for a couple of days. She's american, I've known her since I used to regularly stay in the hotel she worked in 10 years ago, where she used to greet me with a huge smile, a hug and a pint when I checked in every few weeks. We stayed in touch, met up a couple of times, compared wedding photos, that kind of thing, and we both split from our respective spouses last year so did some mutual commiseration over FB messaging. She's making a grand tour of Europe and came to see me. We went out, I showed her the sights, took her swimming in the thermal baths, and there was just suddenly a huge amount of chemistry.. So last night we almost DTD (not completely but sharing a bed and stuff happened..) and this morning I put her on a plane.. I'm going to be staying at hers in a few weeks when I'm over in the US.

Now there is no question of anything long term happening - we live 5000 miles apart, we both have careers, I have DC. But she made me laugh almost constantly when she was here. She's very attractive, it turns out she's had a crush on me for 10 years and married a guy who reminded her of me.

However, it made the situation with Aruba even less likely to succeed as it just put the somewhat strained conversations into contrast.

Winefiend · 28/07/2013 21:23

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Movingforward123 · 28/07/2013 21:32

Wine - I would defiantly get on the bouncy castle :) but this is coming from the women who couldn't walk
For 5 whole weeks due to getting drunk and falling off my heels Wink

Bant - wow sounds like a lovely time you had with the American Grin I like the sound of the chemistry!! Also having great chemistry with her is very likely to highlight the lack of chemistry with others.

KinNora · 28/07/2013 21:35

Wine I have seen many, many adults at work who've had a few drinkies and decided to have a go on the bouncy castle, a dangerous mixture...

(Get me, I'm so health & safety )

Winefiend · 28/07/2013 21:38

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Winefiend · 28/07/2013 21:39

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

48howdidthathappen · 28/07/2013 21:41

Juliette Thrilled for you, sounds idyllic Smile

Scrazy A great night out. Fab! Shall be having a few myself over the next two weeks. Gonna need em, Mr R&R is away for two whole fucking weeks!

scrazy · 28/07/2013 21:44

My bouncy castle days are over too.

Bant, oh gosh, do you think the ease of the American is because there is no chance of a ltr? Whereas if everything is in place the pressure is on more. FWIW, LT and I were old friends when we started up again now and again and it was no pressure at all then we found out how much we get along and it got more angsty, iyswim.

Swipe left for the next trending thread