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The Rules

1. Develop a thick skin;
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
3. It's all BS until it actually happens;
4. Trust your gut instinct;
5. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
6. They should be trying to impress you
7. If it's not fun, stop

Secret a reply would have taken seconds of his time but you know it doesn't work like that, in fact I, the single most straightforward woman in the world, now have a text reply time policy which mirrors the length of time they take to reply to me.
It pains me but needs must when one's committed to The Way of The Insouciant.

New Yeah. Time to move on. Rude to not reply/keep dangling.

SS Not a definite plan. If we stay together though, its gonna happen

New come and join me in the SAFTP (step away from the phone) club!

I'm not sure I can be bothered to go hunt down an alternative - if SJ doesn't come thru I think I'll take to the sofa for a while, paint over another layer of veneer over my much chipped insouciance!

Newstart I'd leave it. You asked him for a fourth date and he didn't reply. Unfortunately, odds are you have your answer there.

It is a shame. Sometimes OD can feel like wading through dross so you think that there's still a lot to come together even if you do like the person.

Secret I wouldn't continue to send texts without a response. Often if I'm tired and busy I will take a long time to respond especially if I want to impress. If he's lost interest for whatever reason then chasing isn't going to help either.

I had a small moment yesterday where I missed logging in to emails and seeing a like/message alert. Despite the dross possibilities are always enticing aren't they? My profile has been hidden for quite a while now as I appear to be in an exclusive relationship.

Thanks chapesses!

He's always done exactly what he said he would before! What's liked.

Oh well. Can only assume he has moved on.

Sofa looks comfy

Morning all. Hope you all had a lively saturday. Sorry haven't caught up, feeling a tad delicate after that 12 hour session at ladies day and after! Brilliant day.

Well django he is actually still on hol at the min, he comes back thus afternoon. It's all very odd. Anyway I'm seeing him tomorrow I think so we can 'have a chat about it' whatever that means :-s

Hello all :o

My slow burner is still getting better... finding this all very exciting because I've never known anything happen like this before! It all feels quite solid having been friends first and having had it keep stepping up the gears since about April. I have constant butterflies now, butterflies only made an appearance in the last few weeks or so which is so strange to me because I'm used to that bit happening quite quickly, but instead it's been something that's happened the more we get to know each other... It's lovely because I had just accepted there were not going to be any having known each other ages and all that :o

Also we have various plans right up to Novemberish :o

and my face genuinely actually hurts from all the grinning :o :o

Awww Lubey for you xx

T paracetemol, crisps and lemonade = hangover cure (ish)

New the sofa is plump, velvet and has secret side pockets containing booze and chocolate, joinnnn ussssssss.

Stranger exclusive relationship, eh ? and are you happy about that ?

Kin I am happy, but I'm not going to claim that that is because of the security of exclusiveness etc. I decided I did in fact did boundaries to avoid being cavalier with other people's feelings. Im sure I'm shoring up all kinds of trouble for the future, but the present is making me smile.

"Need" boundaries, not "did" boundaries.

Yeah but the future can take care of itself Stranger, i always think that life is full of so much tedium and shite that it's important to enjoy happiness to the fullest extent no matter how fleeting it might be.

Thanks again all. Sofa sounds great kin thanksssss

It's a bummer as he's been soo consistent and not over keen but very bappy to meet up etc (totally postponed his golf last week In favour of coming with me to something) seems weird tbh. Maybe I put him off with my holiday text which was postcard esque including a pic of me and kids on beach.. Hmmm note to self... Was very tongue In cheek and we discussed a lot how we are mum and dad first b4 anything else.. anyway...

Am hungover from last night too...

Kin :o "life is full of so much tedium and shite that it's important to enjoy happiness to the fullest extent no matter how fleeting it might be"

Agreed! I have a tendency to do this. Can I steal your quote please and use it as often as I can? I'll promise to refer to a very beautiful and wise friend, when I say it :o

very profound Kin and in a general sense I agree

however when the happiness is due to love/romance it has mostly been my experience that the highs are brief and the lows are long and deep.
I wonder if the pleasure is really worth the pain.....

morning all,

big big at 48 and Lubey all sounding luuvverrrly

OWW hope you are okay? I have a feeling in my water (tmi) that all will be well with Alpha, weird weird co-incidence with the LM thing, but as someone else pointed out it is the only co-incidence and they are poles apart in so many other ways. Alpha sounds a real gentleman and that is always a good thing except for when you make it clear you don't want them to be

Kin morning, what the story with talent show? are you still texting?

New sounds odd to be honest and sometimes it the just not knowing what has happened that's the biggest bugbear, hope you get a reply and an answer, if a picture of you and the kids on the beach puts him off then he was never worthy of you anyway!

Kirsty love? is he a broken man?

just been thinking of some old posters, grinchie hope all is well with ironman? poppy are you still with sugardaddy? and to everyone else happy sunny sunday!

oh and for the record, peanut butter beats nutella hands down, and apparently ben and jerrys now do a peanut butter ice cream, I've been sitting on my hands and trying to resist the temptation to buy some as I fear I will be a goner the moment it passes my lips

Aw Lubey That all sounds lovely

Agreed Kin When your cup is full, drink.

Oh aye, I'm dead profound me ...

Your point is entirely right Mercury and to some extent it's something I tell myself as a sticking plaster over the vast gaping wounds I have as a result of various men Spud but then I think about the absolute and utter joy I experienced just sitting at his kitchen table, having him fuss about cooking my bacon exactly as I like it and making me the perfect cup of coffee while I looked out at the view of the castle on the hill, one of those perfect moments that you recognise at the time and squirrel away in your mind. It was pretty much worth the pain.

And who's she then Lubes ?

Quick update .. Absolutely brilliant .. Got a row for snogging in the pub .. He came back to mine and we've just arrived at his .. Going for lunch and I m staying over here tonight .. He is a very sensual man (nuff said)

Tygsy we're texting but it's getting me fricking nowhere , I have no idea why he got back in touch if he doesn't want to shag me senseless have a relationship. I have needs and they're not being met.

peanut butter ice cream?
hmm, I dunno, peanut butter is sacred ( I will only eat the whole earth or meridian brands) and should not be tainted with sugary-ness

or is it that ice cream is sacred and should not be tainted with peanut butter

as for putting salt & chilli powder in chocolate
ooh no

I guess I must think the pleasure is worth the pain since I am still exposing myself to it

Hurrah for Kirsty and FoF !

Thanks tigsy yes it wasn't an overt pic just happy and friendly and no reply is just rude!

I need a sleep. hmmn what to do with 2 small children...

kirsty that sounds bloody lovely!

Love peanut butter with jam.. YUM. In fact am addicted to peanuts full stop...

mercury you know you want to .....

kin hmmm not very satisfactory! Are you actively looking elsewhere?

And go kirsty! Except she has gone and sounds like she's going again!!!

Peanut butter ice cream is amazing! :)

lubey very happy for you!

oww been thinking about you and hoping everything turns out ok.

Still really smiley about ex flatmates engagement, nameless who hasn't met any of my friends yet (just family) has passed on his well-wishes and is currently making 'jokes' about us eloping.

Off for ice-cream.

Oh and I forgot to say he met my mum!! We went out for a walk and she was outside her house so he's met my parent already ..