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The Rules

1. Develop a thick skin;
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
3. It's all BS until it actually happens;
4. Trust your gut instinct;
5. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
6. They should be trying to impress you
7. If it's not fun, stop

I am not keen keen - don't feel much at the moment, other than I know he's nice and I like him as a person. But no tummy flutters. And the faffing is starting to really annoy!

Sorry, posting and running, got a friend coming for a cuppa!

A bit of rain? A BIT OF RAIN HAS STOPPED HIM FROM SEEING YOU?! What? Will he melt? He should be wading chest-deep through snow drifts to spend time with you.

^^This.

Superstar no reason why it has to be just sex. In my experience men who do want just sex tend to disappear anyway because they prefer ONS. If you do think you want something more though I'd make sure you go on a proper date even if you end up naked at the end and not takeaway/TV around his.

That's a shame OWW. Glad you're not too disheartened by it though. What have you got arranged for Friday? Is that the potential VIP visit?

And from my very limited knowledge of motorbiking, the roads are very greasy if there's rain after a long dry spell.... Most bikers would bail on a run in that case.

Yes that's what he said Django, glad it's not an excuse!

Friday is a meal out, nowhere near his house so not going to be VIP-ing it with him any time soon.

Might have a chat about things on Friday, but might not.

So what happens if they're out on their bike and it suddenly rains? Do they get off and push it home?

I dunno Snape I think you go in the car if it looks like rain!

oww maybe it's a Northwest thing ( I'm also there) ... Hope it's not the same man...

I think what we can safely say OWW is that Alpha is a very, very cautious person!

Stranger it's odd because he's not got where he has professionally by being cautious. Maybe it's just me...

Raen if Woody is Scottish I think he's two-timing us!!

Mention of motor bikes and the North West sent a shiver down my spine, hope we aren't seeing the same guy, of except I'm not seeing mine now, I forgot .

So how old are these bikers of which we speak?

Phew not Scottish

Snape, they crawl home and are very, very grumpy for the rest of the evening, because their leathers might all dry out and crack

Phew not Scottish either!!
But maybe scrazy ....??
2 DS's ??
Or maybe the NW is full of reticent 50 year old bikers- oh great!!

No, not the same one .

Wot no updates?

Hello everyone!

i'm back, after a very brief meet, european and I had a massive comedy argument about Imperial vs Metric system, he got in a few compliments about me being "below average weight" then....

....saying good-bye picked me up, put me over his shoulder, and whispered in my ear "yes, well below average".

he's about 6'1 and twice my size. ooh, shivers!

(not sure if peace in europe has been restored just yet, but was lovely!)

The scandinavian has e-mailed me to invite me to be his plus one for his brothers wedding

we met once, had bad sex. those crazy scandinavians!

Oh I'd take a fireman's lift over an invite to a stranger's wedding any day, Lorna . When are you seeing European again? Did yo sort out the transport etiquette??!

actually oww might NOT what you want to hear so please feel free to say "fuck off" at this post but was thinking on the way back how actually lack of sex can be quite naice in progressing a courtship?

(tonight was just two soft drinks and he gave me the lift and i got a peck in)

the european and i became lovers quite quickly, which must say is my Standard Operating Procedure. i like sex and i like to try out the goods.

but it does make everything a bit too loaded too soon? like once you've started shagging, "the expectation" is there that the dates will all be overnights or long ones?

like this week i've been thinking "oh shit, he's going to want to meet up last minute, drink a few units. before we meet need to Skype the rugrats and do work for my part-time course AND THEN cycle/walk home after energetic fucking. and then get up bright and early. do i really want to be doing this?".

whereas if we hadn't "done the deed" last week it would have been ok to keep it at the "coffee and drinks and then go home" level.

Sorry to have kept you OWW !

That is all

djangounhinged gotta say the scandinavian guys got some balls, pity i'm not interested in seeing them again!

i think i might "leave the transport etiquette" until we see what's happening? i'd like to see him again - feeling a bit less stifled - but will leave the texting in his court as he's away for work again for a few days. not so meh now, which is actually nice! bit of an argument for passion!

also he went back on pof on Monday. this was BEFORE the transport discussion/argument, just when I said nicely I was doing stuff so couldn't see him that evening? i've deleted my profile but have a...erm...spying one

of course this is perfectly within his rights as we haven't had an exclusivity discussion and as long as i'm taking care of my sexual health not a problem, but he wasn't online before?

he might get a woman with a CAR, who knows? may the best woman win!

ps he did sort of try to give me money back for the round i got in.

but i budget so i can get my round but not for public transport, THIS HAS BEEN EXPLAINED to him

Ooh yay Secret! So height wasn't an issue?

Lorna you are so insouciant, you're bound to win . Let him look! You're the prize!