Have NC for this.
It's a bolt from the blue.
DS (23) announced yesterday to his Father that his Girlfriend (of 3 years) is pregnant.
DH gave me this news this morning at breakfast.
Both of them are at Uni therefore not financially independant and DH has decided that we will fund them both for next 2 years until DS has qualified.
They've got it all sorted.
It's like history repeating itself only we were financially stable when our happy accident (DS) happened.
I've spoken to DS who said it was an accident. In this day and age accidents don't happen do they?
I don't know whether to jump for joy or cry my eyes out.
They had all the time in the world to have kids.
This is life changing stuff.
Can't help but think they've left it this long (3 months) to tell us because over here that's the cut off for abortion.
My beautiful boy is going to be a father before he's had time to really enjoy life and girlfriend will be a mother at 23 (i find 23 year olds in general lacking the maturity my generation had)
I sound like an awful person i know. I'm sure once the baby's here i'll be overjoyed, but for the moment feel raw and sad.
Please give me reassurance.
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GrandmaWeLoveYou · 11/07/2013 19:00
Fingers crossed that you carry on this sniping for no reason and that you manage to tarnish what we are celebrating as good news. 
(OH, and DH thinks you're a @#&*)
)outtolunchagain Thankyou so much.
There have been so many negative posts that one could start doubting ones comportement.
I'm lucky to have a supportive entourage but heaven knows how anyone in the slightest fragile could support such undue (In my humble opinion) critisism.
A priest should not knowingly marry a couple where the woman is pregnant. One of the questions the RC church asks in cases of annulment is whether the woman was pregnant at the time marriage plans were made or at the time of marriage. During annulment they fish very deeply to find out the circumstances in which the decision to marry came about. Both of the parties have to come absolutely freely to marriage. There can be no circumstances making it 'necessary'. (I know this as I went through annulment myself).
It is possible that a priest would marry a couple if he wasn't told of the pregnancy, or if the decision to marry had been made months before the woman became pregnant and preparations were already under way, couple had been interviewed by the priest and all the bureaucracy had been attended to, but the RC church isn't supposed to do marriages where the couple rocks up to the church on a Monday and wants to get it done the following Saturday. They priest has to be certain that the couple are coming freely to marriage and that they understand what is involved. Additionally, there is the posting of banns and investigation of whether each of the parties is in fact single. Plus the interfaith dimension would add an extra wrinkle of bureaucracy. All of this takes time. If the DIL is now at 3 months she would be showing by the time the details have been ironed out.
If the DIL's father thinks he could get everything straightened out with a quickie he is wrong. Unless he has some priest in mind who he could bully into it.
I agree with whoever said this is nobody's business but the couple themselves' though. I hope some priest gives the FIL an almighty comeuppance.
You are doing a great job of being a soft place to land for the poor DIL, and keep it up. I hope she knows there are lots of people here pulling for her 
What do her siblings think? Have any of them been told or reached out to her?
I haven't read much of this as I've just stumbled over it, but just wanted to say congratulations and THANK GOODNESS you're there to support them! My parents weren't when I got pg at 24 (also unplanned and unexpected) and ended up pushing us into termination. Turned out to be the worst day of my life. I'm glad you're more understanding and I'm sure your family will work out perfectly 
there do seem to be a number of people (fortunately, a small number) on this thread who are unable to differentiate between what it 'said' on an internet forum, and what is actually said in real life.
OP, have some for you and DH, and some for DS and DiL.
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RaRaZ Thankyou so much for your good wishes.
You've been through a tough time, it breaks my heart to imagine the choices you've had to make.
You need to grieve and then carry on with life.
Abortion is not a light decision, i can understand that.
You've done nothing wrong, circumstances dictated the choice you made.
You have many years ahead of you to make a family and be a mother.
If i could i'd come to you and hug you till it hurt!!
Life goes on, it's a cliché but true.
Live your life to the full, be independant and don't live a life of "what ifs".
Much love, Grandma xxx
cheeseandpineapple (on a cocktail stick?)
I have had a thread recently, probably the one you're thinking of.
Oh the irony!
I spoke about DIL!
Thanks for the congrats
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