Going to be a Grandma, don't know whether to weep for joy or regret

[GrandmaWeLoveYou]

Have NC for this.
It's a bolt from the blue.

DS (23) announced yesterday to his Father that his Girlfriend (of 3 years) is pregnant.
DH gave me this news this morning at breakfast.

Both of them are at Uni therefore not financially independant and DH has decided that we will fund them both for next 2 years until DS has qualified.

They've got it all sorted.

It's like history repeating itself only we were financially stable when our happy accident (DS) happened.

I've spoken to DS who said it was an accident. In this day and age accidents don't happen do they?

I don't know whether to jump for joy or cry my eyes out.
They had all the time in the world to have kids.
This is life changing stuff.

Can't help but think they've left it this long (3 months) to tell us because over here that's the cut off for abortion.

My beautiful boy is going to be a father before he's had time to really enjoy life and girlfriend will be a mother at 23 (i find 23 year olds in general lacking the maturity my generation had)

I sound like an awful person i know. I'm sure once the baby's here i'll be overjoyed, but for the moment feel raw and sad.

Please give me reassurance.

ImperialBlether

Please stop it ladies, my dc are getting seriously neglected here. Its a school night they are loving that I seem to have forgotten about them while I snort at the shenanigans on here.

Something you should learn if you're stopping here, mumtolilh. We're all behind screens. You have absolutely no idea what's going on in anyone else's house, so you have no right to tell them to go and mind their children.

Just as when you say your child is with his grandmother, none of us say "But she's a stoner, why are you letting him go there?"

What a weekend!

Glad the worst is over, I think you have handled this brilliantly grandma!

This is cheering me up no end.

Shamelessly place marking to read when Dcs asleep (wouldn't want to be accused of ignoring them)

Ahem. Can we cool it with the personal attacks, please, folks?

Sorry, Helen!

My first warning!

@ImperialBlether

Sorry, Helen!

My first warning!

Thanks, Imperial.

Right, peace and love please everyone - to quote OliviaMN. Or our delete button might just explode under the strain.

Oh Christ, I'm getting the exclamation mark habit.

Oh, and congratulations, OP

Thank God for that

Rather a lot of deletions.

Yes from everyone! Hope that's your last comment! I will make sure I stay away from any conversations involving you as you have admitted you enjoy winding people up.

I think most of the deletions were yours. Quite happy to hear you will avoid conversing with me in future :)

xXx

What's the record for most deletions in one thread?

I think now is the perfect time for the OP to get rid of the title of this discussion and start a new one along the lines of "I'm so happy about becoming a grandma - tips for a new granny please!".

mumtolilh: given Relationships threads tend to be about sensitive issues, it's seen as really rude (and potentially even cruel) on MN to post on one without reading the whole thing - I've done it before when not noticing a second or further page, and instantly apologised as you can really hurt people by an inappropriate reaction. Basically if you don't have time to read the whole thread, you have nothing useful to contribute, may even contribute something harmful, and shouldn't post at all. As an extreme example, sometimes women post about a row and people initially side with their partner, and as the thread develops you learn the relationship is horribly abusive. Someone posting "fgs give the man a hug and get over yourself!" when we've just learned she isn't allowed a phone, bank account, friends, outings or choice of any aspect of her life is not helpful, to put it mildly. That's why there is such strong resentment of people who post blind and then say airily that they're "too busy". You can really upset someone very vulnerable.

And the reality is that your posting style is in every way one that is more familiar on netmums than mumsnet. That was the joke, and I'm afraid it was apparent to everyone but you. I'm not sure why you're so angry - all online boards have their own traditions and cultures and you've trodden all over Mumsnet's, then been pretty astonishingly rude in posting to people trying to explain that to you. It's rather like being new in a village and trying to tell all the locals they're doing everything wrong and you know better. You just don't. Only using exclamation marks to punctuate sentences also makes you sound like you're shouting, which doesn't help matters.

(OP, I think you sound fab, and so do your parents-to-be. I'm also really impressed at your restraint on the money side, because the reality is that this will seriously impact your own finances at least in the short term, and your absolute disregard for that aspect is touching. I wish my MIL were like you. And I hope the DIL's family come round and offer the support she needs, too.)

Right wtf has been going on here.

I cannot make head nor tail of this.

So ignoring all of the crap. Lets get to the nitty gritty.

When is the baby due?

Has she had a scan?

Names?

Perfect storm calm down
As you can see I moved away from this thread ages ago as I'm busy
I just gave my opinion & people got personal that's all so butt out
I can put what I want on this site it was not rude until others insulted me
Now get over it

As you can see I moved away from this thread ages ago as I'm busy