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Going to be a Grandma, don't know whether to weep for joy or regret

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GrandmaWeLoveYou · 11/07/2013 19:00

Have NC for this.
It's a bolt from the blue.

DS (23) announced yesterday to his Father that his Girlfriend (of 3 years) is pregnant.
DH gave me this news this morning at breakfast.

Both of them are at Uni therefore not financially independant and DH has decided that we will fund them both for next 2 years until DS has qualified.

They've got it all sorted.

It's like history repeating itself only we were financially stable when our happy accident (DS) happened.

I've spoken to DS who said it was an accident. In this day and age accidents don't happen do they?

I don't know whether to jump for joy or cry my eyes out.
They had all the time in the world to have kids.
This is life changing stuff.

Can't help but think they've left it this long (3 months) to tell us because over here that's the cut off for abortion.

My beautiful boy is going to be a father before he's had time to really enjoy life and girlfriend will be a mother at 23 (i find 23 year olds in general lacking the maturity my generation had)

I sound like an awful person i know. I'm sure once the baby's here i'll be overjoyed, but for the moment feel raw and sad.

Please give me reassurance.

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5madthings · 14/07/2013 17:07

I am sat in the garden watching the little three play with the water table, my eldest has put the oven on and is starting to get dinner ready. With four boys I am making sure they are raised to know how to cook/clean etc so they make good partners and can loom after themselves as adults.

Lol at how you are so concerned by my children when it sounds like you don't even let your child have a relationship with their grandmother.

Don't know about anyone else but I can multi task, and children are quite capable as they get older, so I can spend time on here and get stuff done in RL, like most posters I imagine.

mumtolilh · 14/07/2013 17:08

I've said bye several times! But people keep responding because they are so bothered by my comments!

mumtolilh · 14/07/2013 17:09

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5madthings · 14/07/2013 17:10

Lol imperial is it not fun to play sometimes.

You don't have to respond mumto no one is forcing you to.

mumtolilh · 14/07/2013 17:10

I'm not concerned about anyone's kids but my own!

mumtolilh · 14/07/2013 17:11

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TheRealFellatio · 14/07/2013 17:14

God, my eyes are hurting from all these exclamation marks!!!

5madthings · 14/07/2013 17:15

Somehow I imagine your ds will pick up on your venom towards your mil, as I said think what example you are setting.

Well my 13 and 11 yr old don't need much playing with and the little ones are happily playing together about two meters from me, we are chatting etc, as I said I can multi task,

You have spouted crap about Mil's having not read the thread and been pulled up on it, its rather petty now.

skylerwhite · 14/07/2013 17:15

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missbopeep · 14/07/2013 17:19

Maybe it's time for these two ladies to start a thread of their own 'cos they are way off beam with the topic started by the OP.

mumtolilh · 14/07/2013 17:21

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5madthings · 14/07/2013 17:24

Lol its alright missbopeep have already said to op that dp and I had ds1 in very similar circumstances whilst at uni, all worked out fine. She sounds lovely and only concerned for her ds and dil, also as though she will be lovely and supportive.

As I said fingers crossed all goes well for your dil grandma and congrats :)

GampyWabbit · 14/07/2013 17:28

THIS WAS WHAT HAPPENED TO US!!!

This is exactly what happened to my dh & I. I fell pregnant in the middle of our last yr at uni, aged 22.

We finished uni in June 2003, dh (dp then) managed to get a good graduate position and then Dd1 was born in the autumn.

It was hard, but we have loved having her (and her siblings that followed) and I wouldn't have changed anything.

The parents (grandparents) were all shocked and upset at the time, but over the moon once dd arrived and that was that!!!

It is exactly 10 years on. We are married and financially secure with a mortgage and three happy and very talented children.

It will be fine.

mumtolilh · 14/07/2013 17:34

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5madthings · 14/07/2013 17:37

Anger issues ha ha Grin

ImperialBlether · 14/07/2013 17:39

Ignore her, 5madthings.

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ImAfool · 14/07/2013 17:39

The bun fight has gone into most active. Grin

I'm sure 5madthings can MN without her dc picking up venomous vibes.

mumtolilh · 14/07/2013 17:40

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mumtolilh · 14/07/2013 17:41

Meaning I would love her to calm down & ignore!

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Lweji · 14/07/2013 17:44

has to stop reading and get on with work
Blush

ImAfool · 14/07/2013 17:44

Snort !!

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