Going to be a Grandma, don't know whether to weep for joy or regret

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Have NC for this.
It's a bolt from the blue.

DS (23) announced yesterday to his Father that his Girlfriend (of 3 years) is pregnant.
DH gave me this news this morning at breakfast.

Both of them are at Uni therefore not financially independant and DH has decided that we will fund them both for next 2 years until DS has qualified.

They've got it all sorted.

It's like history repeating itself only we were financially stable when our happy accident (DS) happened.

I've spoken to DS who said it was an accident. In this day and age accidents don't happen do they?

I don't know whether to jump for joy or cry my eyes out.
They had all the time in the world to have kids.
This is life changing stuff.

Can't help but think they've left it this long (3 months) to tell us because over here that's the cut off for abortion.

My beautiful boy is going to be a father before he's had time to really enjoy life and girlfriend will be a mother at 23 (i find 23 year olds in general lacking the maturity my generation had)

I sound like an awful person i know. I'm sure once the baby's here i'll be overjoyed, but for the moment feel raw and sad.

Please give me reassurance.

Are u talking to me? If so do not know wtf u r on about!
Explain then!

What's the matter? Realised your silly mistake?

NO! It's clear as day u got confused & thought u were on net mums!!!
Read your own post!!! ha ha ha BYE!!!

When dp told my mil I was preg (aged 19 and at uni) my mil reaction was rather negative, but 15yrs later and we get on fine. She dotes on the madthings and when ds1 was born she was the one person who bought me a lovely gift for his birth, I still have it and tho annoying at times she so lovely and has a heart to gold. I can totally see why she was concerned, esp as dp and I had only been together a few months. She so also very religious and was worried what people would think etc, dp and I still haven't married, I think she has got over our unmarried sins now

Its natural as a parent to worry, esp as thyr are both doing I them we courses at uni, but you sound lovely grandma :) congratulations and I hope all goes smoothly for your dil and she has an easy healthy pregnancy/birth etc xx

imperial was being sad mastic and hi ting that your posting style is perhaps more suited to other forums...

You might read English but you certainly don't write it.

That's lovely Imperial! I don't write English! wow I'm offended!...NOT!

I think your friend mad5things is the one who cannot write in English!!!...so maybe give her some tips ;-)

Grandma congratulations, so glad you have come to terms with the happy news. I became a Granny last year in similar circumstances. DD was too scared to tell me she was pregnant so wrote me a letter. I'd be lying if I said I wasn't devastated to begin with. I never had any strong desire to have grandchildren at all. DGD is 8 months old now and an absolute joy. I was at her birth and first to get a cuddle while DD was stitched after a CS.

Imperial I'd give up if I were you, she clearly doesn't get it

No kidding, ImAFool!

Sarcastic...auto correct gone mad.

I don't need to give imperial Amy tips, I am pretty sure she has been on mnet longer than me and doesn't need any help.

You posted a crap, judgmental comment and were pulled up on it mumto and are now getting all arsey. Don't post crap if you can't cope with being called on it.

And its 5madthings...

Don't post so many spelling mistakes if you don't want to be pulled up on it!

Mine are down to autocorrect which is going mad on my nexus. 5madthigns doesn't autocorrect to mad5things however you type it. That's not a typo its not reading.

Check your post again...you cannot even spell your own nickname ;-)

Congrats!

One of my colleagues has a daughter who recently had her baby during her medical degree is now a junior doc and coping fine. The good thing about both your son and his gf having profession-based degrees is that they will just be able to plough on through the studies with a clear career aim in sight - they'll cope. They will have to work hard but they'll still have a chance to do fun stuff.

Lots of graduates these days, especially in quite heavy duty careers, are putting off kids until mid 30s because it is so hard to find the right moment for career, life etc and it really doesn't get easier. The ideal 'late twenties' time to have kids doesn't feature much.

I am fairly typical of this, and am soon to have my second child when I will have turned 37. Although I am extremely lucky in that I've had no problems conceiving, many people like me (and I bet many of your son's friends will be like this) find themselves in a frightening rollercoaster of ticking clocks, IVF, infertility etc.

What I'm trying to say I suppose is that there really isn't an ideal, and your son's position may be brilliant for him!

Have a lovely evening xxx

Ps: just so you know I don't treat my mil in any sort of way! I have nothing to do with her! Best to stay away from vile people!