Going to be a Grandma, don't know whether to weep for joy or regret

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Have NC for this.
It's a bolt from the blue.

DS (23) announced yesterday to his Father that his Girlfriend (of 3 years) is pregnant.
DH gave me this news this morning at breakfast.

Both of them are at Uni therefore not financially independant and DH has decided that we will fund them both for next 2 years until DS has qualified.

They've got it all sorted.

It's like history repeating itself only we were financially stable when our happy accident (DS) happened.

I've spoken to DS who said it was an accident. In this day and age accidents don't happen do they?

I don't know whether to jump for joy or cry my eyes out.
They had all the time in the world to have kids.
This is life changing stuff.

Can't help but think they've left it this long (3 months) to tell us because over here that's the cut off for abortion.

My beautiful boy is going to be a father before he's had time to really enjoy life and girlfriend will be a mother at 23 (i find 23 year olds in general lacking the maturity my generation had)

I sound like an awful person i know. I'm sure once the baby's here i'll be overjoyed, but for the moment feel raw and sad.

Please give me reassurance.

I think you were wrong to stay silent while the father made digs at your son. Really horrible for him to listen to them and have no one stick up for him.

Okaaaay. I think we'll just leave it there then.

Grandma - Hope your afternoon with DIL is going well and that she has opened up. Putting your feet in a bucket of cold water has magical properties for pregnancy overheating I found!

I got the same feeling, Miss Strawberry, but at the same time, he is a grown man, about to have a baby and all.
I'm sure he can take it. :)

mumto, just stop commenting. Seriously.

Hi OP, congrats on your impending grandchild and well done on being a support to your DS and future DIL.

if i have read between the lines correctly, they are both at medical school and your DS will join his father's GP practice. Well if so it is a great set-up for them.

i had a friend who married at 17, went to medical school, had a baby at 21, took a year off and qualified. (she went on to have 3 more kids with her husband). She couldn't have done it without her inlaw's help, looking after the 1st DC etc.

your DS and DIL are very lucky to have young, supportive GPs like you & your DH behind them. have no doubt it will all turn out fine

He's training to be a vet, Squidgy; his girlfriend is training to be a doctor.

Just my opinion! Deal with it!

thanks ImperialBlether sorry hadn't read whole thread.

Imperial

Totally Imperial

We also have an opinion. Deal with it. :)

after wading through all that, glad that the news is out without bloodshed.

I am still staggered that these two are doing lengthy hard science degrees (and she is going to be a DOCTOR) and thought that the rhythm method was reliable. Let's hope they pay more attention to the rest of the course...

anyway, they now both have to step up to the plate and get on with it. Although I stand by my position that they should be independent before getting pregnant again.

good luck to you all.

mumtolilh
posters were trying to point out to you that your post was already outdated, as the OP had accepted this pregnancy, despite her initial misgivings and natural shock.
They were just trying to prevent you looking like a knob in bashing the OP.
She is not your future MIL.

Most posters, when pointed out that there's a development in the thread, just apologise and read the latest updates, and answer accordingly.

Special, my SIL had two babies through her specialisation (what's it called in the UK?).
It was hard, but she did it with support.
I also know a few people who had babies through their PhDs.

It's hard, but it's possible.

As stated already no I didn't read all nearly 300 posts but I gave an opinion based on my experiences! What will be will be that's all I was saying! People need to find better things to do seriously! I Would never look like a 'knob' for giving an opinion! People using mumsnet to bash other people's opinions look like 'knobs'!!!

I wasn't bashing anyone I was just saying whats done is done try & enjoy it! How is that bashing???

Feel sorry for her that's lovely ;-)

And btw it's www.NETMUMS.com not www.MUMSNET.com.

Little error there i think!

Believe me, there isn't.

Shall just ignore most of the above

miss strawberry we very much wanted to interject yesterday but DS would not have welcomed that
(In my head i was ripping the fathers sanctimônious little head off, DH was aimîng somewhere lower!)

This afternoon has been brilliant.
We went to a friend's pool (friend not there) and talked and talked.

In some areas i have TMI, but i suppose thats to be expected.

She has enormous faith in the catholic church, quite humblîng for me.

I hope i said the right things. She seemed alot happier.

DS turned up and I've left them to it.

Now home and shall be debriefing with DH (not a euphamism!)

Then shall prepare another gourmet
extravaganza

Thanks really so very much for all your support, congrats and shared experiences.
You are a lovely bunch of ladies