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Another Thread (LoserNoMore...again)

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LoserNoMore · 10/07/2013 16:58

Hi, so on another thread but not really much further forward, in fact I feel worse. Anyway I've been to the doctors and have Anti D's and referred to a counsellor. Hopefully these will work.

Thanks to everyone for their support on previous threads and PMs too, it is all very much appreciated.

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cjel · 29/07/2013 14:11

Nothing wrong with you LNM, its all the othersSmile

imtheonlyone · 29/07/2013 15:58

Hello everyone Grin

Yeap, nothing wrong with you LNM, it all the others! And probably a settling down of the ads too I would bet. Possibly with a combination of being shattered also - a little cry is probably the best thing. Best to let it out rather than let it build up inside. Try not to worry about it Wink

Just had my first cup of tea of the day! Was bloody gorgeous!!! Brew

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LoserNoMore · 29/07/2013 17:26

Hi,

That's me just finishing up for the day. Don't know how I managed to get through it without falling asleep. I just want to go home straight to bed. I have no interest in doing anything else. Crap mother as well as everything else.

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JaxTellerIsAllMine · 29/07/2013 17:29

The ads will be settling in now. I've had a shocker of an afternoon. Dd had complained of itchy scalp. I checked thoroughly, combed through her hair which is bum length, curly & thick. Nothing there... This was 2 weeks ago. Went to put a necklace on her today & saw nits! She totally freaked out. So had to dash to local chemist for nitty gritty, hedrin & some new brushes, hair ties etc.

Have spent last 2.5 hrs combing etc. have stripped bed got everything on boil wash! Who said our holiday wasn't full of drama?

Our planned afternoon out didn't go ahead.

Oh well I shall be with WineWineWineWineWineWineWine in half an hour.

lazarusb · 29/07/2013 17:55

Jax you have my sympathy. I hate hate hate nits!

LNM, you aren't a crap mum and you know it. You're tired, it is allowed. We've spent today half watching dvds and I have fallen asleep more than once on my chair! It isn't your fault that you work in a shit environment - I think most people have at some time or other. I had to stop myself walking out more than once at one particular place. My mother was the Manager too - she was an absolute cow to me.

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LoserNoMore · 29/07/2013 19:46

Oh Jax, I've been so lucky with nits. None of mine have had them ever. I'd run screaming from the house I think if I ever spotted one. Hope the rest of your holiday is drama free. How long have you got left?

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LoserNoMore · 29/07/2013 19:49

Lazarus, I bought Wreck It Ralph on the way home so the girls are sitting quietly watching it now.

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lazarusb · 29/07/2013 20:25

Ah..I like Wreck It Ralph, well, the first bit - PacMan & Street Fighter brings back many memories. But it did get a bit over girly/pink after about 20 minutes for my taste!

lazarusb · 29/07/2013 20:28

Dd broke her arm when she was 6 and it her first bout of nits then, typically. So plastered arm in a bin bag to keep it dry, washing head over the side of the bath and endless, endless combing. How I didn't strangle her friend with constant nits I will never know!

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LoserNoMore · 29/07/2013 21:58

Oh what a nightmare, Lazarus.

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JaxTellerIsAllMine · 29/07/2013 22:19

I've still got 2 weeks hols left. We have a total of 5 adults and 8 kids here, huge family holiday. All of us looked like monkeys in a line checking hair earlier, then I brought dd back to our place.

I hate nits too & so cross as she must have got them in school, just before holidays. This is her first time, so probably lucky!

Hope it's last time too

I feel like shit mum of the year. 3 loads of laundry I've done. Going to wash, condition & re comb tomorrow. Hoping I've suffocated them and combed all out. Between nitty gritty comb, loads of conditioner & then hedrin surely they'll be dead?

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LoserNoMore · 29/07/2013 22:27

Yeah that should do the trick.

I'm very jealous of your holiday, I'd kill to get away right now.

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cjel · 29/07/2013 22:29

LNM I was just thinking how lovely jaxs' holiday sounded - without nits of courseSad

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LoserNoMore · 29/07/2013 22:40

Yeah nits not invited, Cjel. Little buggers.

How are you?

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cjel · 30/07/2013 09:28

Morning LNM. Thanks for asking , I find it weird when you ask for some reason I don't think this is a two way conversation!!!!
I am ok, feeling better every day, but as I have been unwell find I feel sad about ex. It'll fade again as I recover. Onwards and upwards!! How are you today?

swallowedAfly · 30/07/2013 09:50

nits - best bet is not even to bother with the nasty chemical stuff which does bugger all in my opinion. if you do the hair plastered in conditioner and comb, comb, comb every other day for a week or so they HAVE to be gone as even though you miss eggs you are taking them out as soon as they hatch so they cannot reproduce if that makes sense? it's just interrupting the breeding cycle. i had nits once from 2 little girls i used to look after and ds has had them once.

glad work is 'ok' lnm and sorry to hear you're not sleeping. don't know about others but when on ads before i've fiddled around with the time of day i take them - re: if i was taking them at night and finding i was wide awake/couldn't sleep i'd take them in the mornings instead or if i was taking them in the morning and was really tired before the day was out i'd take them in the evenings instead. however if you were having sleeping problems before taking them and it's just not got better then it might be you need a higher dose before they help.

lnm don't want to laden your thread with me, me, me but in answer to tell us more just as it was becoming apparent vguy was actually up for messing me about a bit as his life is so messy i went out with friends and ended up meeting someone else Confused i literally usually only meet someone i like and have a spark with every few years so was a bit of a surprise to me. we've gotten together a couple of times and he is actually seeming really nice and sorted yet seems to like me for some reason Grin i guess even if it turns out to be nothing it has given me the incentive to stop playing with fire with vboy and his messy life. however my familiarity with nice guys with good jobs and tidy bedrooms and grown up cars is sketchy to say the least so am feeling a little out of my comfort zone.

swallowedAfly · 30/07/2013 09:51

i think you would approve of his teeth and shoes btw.

cjel · 30/07/2013 10:09

SAF if vboy and your experience includes messy lifestyle sounds like nice guy stretching comfort zone may not be a bad thing!!! Especially if shoes and teeth are good.

swallowedAfly · 30/07/2013 10:21

yeah. when 'comfort zone' is self destruct and not feeling you deserve a nice guy then it definitely needs stretching. i'm reading that book someone on here (sorry memory of a sieve) recommended and it's very timely.

how are you doing cjel?

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LoserNoMore · 30/07/2013 11:03

Oh Cjel, sorry to hear you're feeling a bit sad. Also, of course it's 2 way, although I do probably come across as too self involved to notice.

SAF, I'm glad you found this out about vboy sooner rather than later. New guy sounds good, teeth and shoe approved too.

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lazarusb · 30/07/2013 12:54

I met a man 18 years ago who wasn't at all what I was used to SAF. He was nice, kind and thoughtful. Despite doing my best to scupper it, we're still together and have added 2 dcs to my ds!

cjel · 30/07/2013 15:19

Ha Ha Laz, some men are just useless aren't they? won't even let you scupper a perfectly good relationship Huh I don't knowSmile

Am feeling very loved, all this concern. thankyou. LNM yuou don't come across like that, Its me not youSmile I suppose I find it hard to accept nice people!! Have had lovely morning coffee with friends then haircut. Alls right with the worldxx

swallowedAfly · 30/07/2013 16:47

Grin cjel they just really are so objectionable. this one should definitely target himself at some cath kidston type flower arranging cupcake baker but he has to go and subject his niceness and sorted life onto me ffs Hmm

glad you have had a lovely morning cjel.

i've repatriated my chickens, been to the park with friend and children and am now home for a bit of an mn doss and a rest before tackling whatever is next on the sort the house/pigsty out agenda.

lazarusb · 30/07/2013 16:56

cjel - that's the trouble, dh is a genuinely nice person. I'm not and didn't feel that I deserved someone who would actually treat me well....having being told how bloody awful I was for many years by more than one person, I believed it.

I am getting over it though! As will you, SAF Smile It really is quite...nice!

cjel · 30/07/2013 17:08

my laptop won't get put down and I want to do some weeding but my legs won't move!!
I think i secretly wish I'd be given the chance to see if I could get over it too.