Dating thread 58 everyone welcome

[Kirstywirsty]

The Rules

1. Develop a thick skin;
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
3. It's all BS until it actually happens;
4. Trust your gut instinct;
5. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
7. If it's not fun, stop
8. loo update is mandatory

hostess yeah it is creepy. i think it does "feel better without". so for a guy to have a preference is fine, but to actively argue for without is a bit to me.

i'm off to the clinic next week - they have a walk in near where i live MUST GET FIRST APPOINTMENT - i must remember to trim for the benefit of the nurses!

snapespeare nameless is a cutie

sorry joy not hostess

the heat, oh the heat!

joy - that's exactly how I feel! How long ago did that happen if you don't mind me asking?

I'm still wondering whether he'll try and get in touch once he gets back from his 'holiday' - he said that would be on Saturday. I'd prefer if he just never contacted me again but I've not communicated that to him yet. I emailed him at the weekend saying that I'd spotted that his photos were fake so hopefully he'll be far too ashamed to contact me. If he's not been in touch by Sunday I'll know that's the case and can breathe easy! If he does get in touch I'll have to try very hard not to tell him how much of an idiot he is. It's just not worth it, is it? Sorry, total rant!

lorna with the benefit of hindsight, he is the best-looking man I have ever been out with. He popped a horizontal selfie torso-shot on my phone when we were away, I didn't notice until I got back & I mentioned that I might get drunk on occasion and might show it to a very selective female friend audience (not you lot! It's not for interneting ) and he was all that i was all 'wow'.

He's skinny and has a tiny bit of a belly and I adore him.

Ok question. Remember the Italian? The one who cancelled a date, told me she was on another first date and then was "busy" so we never had any other chances to meet. We've been in touch, just chatting.

Do I tell her I have a date on Saturday? Just to be honest (as she was so keen on being).

No. She doesn't need the information. What would be your best possible case scenario if you told her?

Haha Bill of course you do.

snape not sure. Perhaps just her regretting missing out on me . Petty I know.

no good can come of that. cannot be casually dropped into a conversation, unless you want to look point-scorey. if she asks, be honest...if she doesnt, then i wouldnt volunteer the information.

Well have arrangements made for lovely (actually v v posh as in shit what do I wear) meal out with Alpha tomorrow, beautiful place, gorgeous food, very romantic, looking forward to it. His choice btw. Am so confused - on the one hand he spends a lot of time texting and messaging me, buys me presents, takes me out to wonderful places - brilliant. On the other, he just seems to have ground to a total halt with taking things further - not brilliant.

The weekend thing, well I think a lot of the time he's genuinely been away on business, and he told me ages ago he was doing this bike thing, so probably I was a bit overly suspicious and cynical - not 100% sure though. But it would make no sense at all for him to be playing me as he's getting nothing out of this at all except being able to take me out once or twice a week. I do not understand. Am going to have to find some way of talking about this some time soon.

He obviously sees this thing with me going on for some time as he's got all sorts of restaurant plans!!

posh restaurant sounds lovely OWW

grab his cock show him your wrists!

I did the wrist thing on date three which led to snoggage (so he seems susceptible to that kind of thing). I need a next-stage strategy but manhandling his todger needs leading up to I think

OWW How about simply asking ( preferably when some kiss age, snuggling or similar has occurred ) "shall we find out if we are sexually compatible?" Pretty unambiguous, and you should know him well enough by now to be able to say this. I am assuming you have been discussing relationship histories, personal feelings by now, not simply chatting about the weather.
Bant I am going to a Hungarian's house-warming party on Sat with Meet Up guy ( work colleague of his) Lots of Hungarian food being prepared. Is this good or bad?

OWW maybe try grabbing a handful of his crown jewels, making a Cosmo Smallpiece face and saying 'eeh by gum, you don't get many of those to the pound, fancy a bunk up ? '

I think Nora's line is more up my street, sorry Moan!

Despite all this, I'm really looking forward to seeing him tomorrow. And have made a great discovery that my dd's shoes fit me - excellent stuff! Arranged to borrow nice pair off her for tomorrow. Whole new shoe wardrobe awaits (but I'll have to lend her mine now too).

Well enjoy the posh restaurant OWW, sounds fab! He can't possibly be not interested, so I doubt that anything you ask him, lewd or otherwise , could put him off. Hope you enjoy, and get some answers!

Bill, I do think that if Italian asks what you're doing at the weekend, you should tell her you have a date. She did miss out!

Oh god that really was a terrible date. He was lairysweary. Someone in their early 40s showing clear signs of having a past that involved loving pills a lot, but with divorce and bitterness thrown in. Almost had me pining for faketwat! Was only out an hr though. Was like sommat off that first dates prog.

Spangled- was going out with faketwat for a couple of months. Before that had messaged loads to the point of sappy feelings at getting a message. Dumped last week via FB message . He had cooled off a bit the 2 weeks before - still the odd 'I love you too much' txt but I was happily giving him space etc. think it was all just a ploy to provoke me into reacting. He thrives off drama and attention I reckon.

Deffo a player- denied much experience of OD but quick google of usernames shows he's been doing it for years. Before, during and after marriage I'd say.

Least he was good company on a night out

joy oh dear. How disappointing!

I have spent the evening preparing for a weekend of body exposure and hot sex by eating a whole pot of Haagen-Dazs Creme Brulee ice cream. I am mortified but it was lush

Is it wrong to indulge in little daydreams of a happily ever after?

Morning all. Insouciance is still my middle name. My lawyer told me yesterday my decree absolute is final. I'm now unmarried. Odd feeling. Not sure whether champagne or staring dolefully into the remnants of a pint is more appropriate. It's probably going to involve booze somewhere though.

FrenchGirl and I have been discussing our dating experiences. She can't find chemistry with anyone. This is the reason she gave me for not being with me before, that I'd hurt her in the past so the chemistry wasn't there anymore. And yet she wants to cuddle up on the sofa and watch horror movies.

Ah the friend zone. Thou art a heartless bitch.

Hi all.

I have worked my ass off the last couple of weeks. In preparation for going to Scotland with Mr R&R tomorrow We have had a few blips, all down to my past dumping spree and general I don't do together for ever attitude. Fuck. I'm hard work

Mum has been home for over 2 weeks. Almost scared to say it, but this time it is going bloody brill

Oww 6 weeks and nothing

Joy oh dear me, that sounds beyond awful. Hope you've got someone better lined up!

Title a bit of ice cream never hurt anyone especially the Creme Brulee one. Knock the daydreams on the head for another six months, though, still early days but I'm so happy for you that it's going this well.

Bant definitely the champagne! Here's to a fabulous new start for you

Testosterone, Bant. That's the chemistry you need. Try going for a run before the next horror movie, and see what happens. Of course, it could just be me, but I seem to lose control of my senses in the vicinity of a recently exercised man (even if they've had a shower and everything afterwards).

Congrats/commiserations on your divorce. Must be weird.

48, so pleased about your Mum, and that Mr R&R can cope with a little hard work.

Joy, one fish down, plenty more to go. Sorry it was a rubbish experience though.

I'm sure there are all sorts of reasons why knowing too much about others people's business is a bad thing, but I'm chortling along with you, Snape. Same as I chortled when I heard that ExP and OW are having exactly the same issues in their relationship that he and I had, only much sooner. It is no doubt dating karma that I am still single and unable to meet anyone at all suitable because of this chortling.

Oww The M word is off the menu. The L word very much on