Dating thread 58 everyone welcome

[Kirstywirsty]

The Rules

1. Develop a thick skin;
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
3. It's all BS until it actually happens;
4. Trust your gut instinct;
5. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
7. If it's not fun, stop
8. loo update is mandatory

Oh, sorry OWW I assume that's why the sudden change of heart, the doctor has told him to get some 'head rest'.

I'm just getting flashbacks to this time last year and Spud having a meltdown less than two weeks before we were due to go to New York.

Hello new thread, just place marking for now and hope to catch up with you all later in the week :)

Oh Kin ... shit, fuck, buggerit and the rest.
and

I think lorna may be right, the sofa is a bloody good place to be at the moment, except for those lovely loved-up thread-members who remind us why we go through this shite.

Thank goodness for the lovely lot of you

Thanks Joy, I'm alright, just wish occasionally things could be easy.

Kin

I'm still all excited about this w/e. I'm planning on cooking a nice meal for him so been menu planning... Also planning on getting some of the 'good' wine out. Hope he appreciates the effort I'm going to!

My dating experiences are simply going from bad to worse. After Mr COPD who cut off his finger did a disappearing act whilst I was having angst over how to extricate myself, there have been the usual crop of space wasters till I discovered that friend-of-friend (actually ex-of-ex) now has an FWB arrangement with someone who I met OD but decided was a sweetie shop kinda guy. He's giving her the pursuing and wanting to be serious thing whilst being active on other dating sites too ... She's nice, I like her and he's an arse

I even had some twerp try the "I can't do rubber" conversation with me before he's even met me. Grrrrr ...

Budge up on that sofa my lovelies

ha ha yeah sofa is comfy, although i'm still gonna "put out online tentacles" so that i can hopefully get a connection to pursue later on...

Actual COPD Joy ? ( he'd have been worrying breathless during sexy time anyway )

worryingly - tssskkkk

Yup Kin ... hence my desire to find a way out, only to feel put out when he did the disappearing thing. He is not dead still signing onto the site so am being unreasonable which I hate having to admit to. Sadly I know about COPD, my big love (yes, I know, utterly vomit-inducing) had it although it was cancer that killed him.

I sympathize JF, the overwhelming majority of my dating experiences were in the bad to worse section of the scale

I'm wondering if the very act of participating in online dating brings out the worst in men

(cant comment on women having not been on the receiving end of their dating endeavors)

Well, I'm back from my date with the Mayor of Redflagsville.

Surprisingly lovely Logistics dictated a couple of snatched daytime hours in a random town neither of us know (half way between both of us). We ended up wondering to the top of an old castle, talking a lot and kissing a bit. Much nicer than I could possibly have imagined, especially since a big part of me thought he was so weird he must not be real. He very is.

No talk from either of us about what happens next, though. And I'm everso slightly puzzled, his three (count 'em) texts since have all been somewhat carnally inclined. Nice though

It's just that, as I said at some length on the last thread, our build-up communication had got ridiculously romantic, he was making all sorts of unfeasable declarations about his feelings towards me.... The last texts are definitely more, shall I say, realistic in their tone.

But I think maybe I really quite like this guy. What do I do now? Part of me openly wants to say to him 'do you like me as much as you did before we met? are your feelings still the same?' but that would be way uncool, right?

I sent one text back to his three, saying I really hope to see him again. He replied that I will, he'll insist on it. Nothing more solid though

roundwindow at good dates in random places - i'd leave the contact at that? also personally i wouldn't start the "do you like me?" thing at all?

think often pre-meeting texts are a bit more flamboyant than the post-meeting "ok she's actually a REAL WOMAN" texts, its not a sign that he's gone off you or anything, just that contact is gonna be a bit more "self conscious" now! just gotta see how this scopes out in real life now

Thanks Lorna, I shall exercise my feeble restraint as best I can.

He's texted again since. Just a very lovely slice of lasciviousness again. But no mention of when/where... AAAAARGH the frustration is killing me.

ha haroundwindow you obviously like him which is good!

i think often people don't know their schedules right at the end of a date, give it a few days, especially as you are text chatting anyway!

....so you know you haven't "lost contact"!

Winefield thanks for your comments. I have just what a selfish twat this one is. I'm questioning where I've have fitted in, just used for sex? It seemed so much more than that, it really did .

Oh and even after the breakup talk, he still doesn't get it and is asking to meet up. Twat! There I've said it.

"realised"

They both sound like egotistical headfucks.