The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Off On A Journey Far & Wide, Full Of Support, With No Reasons To Hide.

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Hey, I'm Mouse, one of the Brave Babes on this Bus. :)

We're heading to sobriety, in various different ways, in our own different ways, some of us are there, some not quite yet.

We're a group of non judgemental, mothers, wives, partners, sisters, daughters, girlfriends, and of course all of the male equivalents that run alongside those 'tags', but most of all, we are, or we have been, just like YOU. :) Real people with real concerns about how much we are drinking all of the time.

Our relationships with alcohol are varied, and you'll find most of us are wanting to do something about it..... desperate to stop the cycle of drinking, stopping, drinking, stopping, drinking more, stopping for shorter periods of time and then the reverse, doing ever so well and then 'something' happens and you're back to square one, a place that sometimes gets a little crowded, one little square filled with lots of people who all want out.

Sound familiar?

You're never alone here. Ever.

Come and take a seat, post or lurk. We won't bite but we WILL look after you, SUPPORT you, if you want us to. :)

And for those want to know how we've ended up where we are today, about three years on from THIS THREAD RIGHT HERE

To our last thread JUST HERE

It will be lovely to meet you so why not take a seat and have a gossip about all things booze related but also, DCs, husbands, wives, in-laws, out-laws, and everything in between.

There's always a seat for YOU xxx

Anothertime - I do lots to distract myself - have a bath, wash/dry hair, go on here, have a lie down for an hour, go for a walk, do a jigsaw etc - 9 weeks on my habits have changed so I don't need the distraction as much but at he beginning I did need to do something at the witching hour to keep me going.
Well done Pink :). You will be thinner, healthier and happy :)
Matistella, hi and welcome, nothing is beyond change - things get forgotten quickly - don't think about the past other than using it to live your future forward - YOU DON'T WANT TO FEEL LIKE THIS AGAIN!! - If you always do what you'be always done, you'll always get what you've always got :). if you want inspiration go and read the first ever post from Jesus what next - keep reading and you will see how she turned her life around - one day at a time. Good luck - you can do it !!!!!

Ima - good to see you !

night all - see you tomorrow, L x

Matistella I cross posted with you - hope all is ok x

I'm really struggling. I don't like or respect the person I've been

Oh maristella, we've all done stuff that we're not proud of but there is no point beating yourself up over it. What led you to be unfaithful, are there problems in your relationship or other issues that are leading you to behave in a way you wouldn't normally do. Have you had the chance to think all this through to understand where you are today?

My thoughts are with you. Please keep talking, we are here for you.

There have been problems but there is so much love there, we really turned a corner recently and felt so solid. I snogged someone in a very packed pub, surrounded by familiar faces

I did it because I was blind drunk. I'm so ashamed

Oh love, no one is going to judge you here, just take the time to process it all and, if you want to, talk it over with us. I just hope you know you can talk here if you want to.

As an aside, although I've not been great in terms of stopping drinking I have been a lot better and a combination of cutting down and eating better means I've lost three pounds in the past ten days which is a good incentive to carry on.

Maristella, I can certainly relate to that. It was a couple of years ago and I did regret it but at the same time it made me start to think about what was really important to me.

Another one here whose had an epic fail on the non-drinking front - and no bloody exercise at all since the run last week. Straight back in to old ways....
indie whaddya mean I don't cut it! I am shocked and saddened at your cruelty, discarding me like an old rag for that French trollop.
at cox less pairs

It was DP's friend. He just lunged in for a snog! I'm cross with him too. I was stupid in allowing myself be be vulnerable and he took advantage

That really sounds like I'm blaming him, I'm not

I'm looking forward to losing some of my flabby middle! The rest if me is toned, just not my drinkers middle

Just a quick question is it true that the truth comes out when your drunk? Because wen I'm drunk I can't hardly stand dp and my nasty side really comes out. So is it just that I hide it when sober? (I do go out a lot at wkend's if he's home)....

For me it's more that the truth gets distorted. I read things differently and respond differently. I adore the man, I stupidly gave him no thought

Cox less pairs that did make me earlier, absolutely no innuendos here

Matistella. - I have lost my drinkers middle - hounded will too.
waking up with no guilt, regret, fear etc is the best feeling ever - good luck and keep posting. :)

Stella - no idea sorry

Sometimes you have to reach rock bottom and have a day when you think NO MORE and just desperately want to change.

You may have reached that point today, so as awful as it feels, remember the feeling you have now and tell yourself you will never feel this bad and low about your drinking again.

Take control now and you can do it, honestly, I think most of us must have been where you are right now.

Ma hope you are alright and not beating yourself up. Your posts helped me a lot during my lurking days.

I will keep posting, thank you
Funny how I turn to MN when I don't know where else to turn, glad I did though

It sounds as if the other man has got issues if he thinks it's acceptable to hone in on a friend's partner especially when you are vulnerable. Have you discussed it yet with your partner? Does he know the worries you have regarding alcohol and the influence it had on your behaviour?

Stella, sorry I missed your post. I don't know the answer to be honest. I don't feel that my true self comes out as such in that aspects of my personality come out that I don't like. For me it is more that feelings
I've suppressed come out when I have had too much. It acts like a valve and it all comes out - everything that I've been worrying about for the past couple of months. I do a good job of presenting a good front so it doesn't take much to break that.

He knows that I'm curbing my drinking, and he's supportive of that.
I haven't told him the rest. I don't want the shit to hit the fan, he'd never trust me again
I can't cope with the prospect of his disgust, he would be so hurt

Is he likely to find out though? It may be better coming from you with an apology than hearing it from someone else.

Stella sorry I also missed your message.

I am not sure there is a hard and fast rule, for me sometimes I say honest (but inappropriate) things when drunk and other times I say something and then the next day I remember and think I have no idea why I said that, I don't even mean it!!

Oh god I'm a terrible person to be a drunk! Not great anyway to be one but couple it with the fact that my relationship is complicated and like u say your true feelings all pour out. I hate dp tonight. And most the time actually really need to make changes. We have a v tricky set up but needs sorting out. Thanks all. Also drink tolerance going up quickly! Was meant to be off it today as felt rough yesterday after one bottle Fri. Bought bottle this morning despite that as was in garage. Felt bad after and left it with friend as birthday gift. Phew none in house! Stress in afternoon kid's playing up went out home with a bottle:-/ but!! It wasn't enough could easily have drank more and hopefully won't feel too crap ,tomorrow.... But it really hit home tonight I don't like dp and even if I had to share kids with him it might be better than this:-(

Stella why don't you like him?