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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Off On A Journey Far & Wide, Full Of Support, With No Reasons To Hide.

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Mouseface · 23/06/2013 23:19

Hey, I'm Mouse, one of the Brave Babes on this Bus. :)

We're heading to sobriety, in various different ways, in our own different ways, some of us are there, some not quite yet.

We're a group of non judgemental, mothers, wives, partners, sisters, daughters, girlfriends, and of course all of the male equivalents that run alongside those 'tags', but most of all, we are, or we have been, just like YOU. :) Real people with real concerns about how much we are drinking all of the time.

Our relationships with alcohol are varied, and you'll find most of us are wanting to do something about it..... desperate to stop the cycle of drinking, stopping, drinking, stopping, drinking more, stopping for shorter periods of time and then the reverse, doing ever so well and then 'something' happens and you're back to square one, a place that sometimes gets a little crowded, one little square filled with lots of people who all want out.

Sound familiar?

You're never alone here. Ever.

Come and take a seat, post or lurk. We won't bite but we WILL look after you, SUPPORT you, if you want us to. :)

And for those want to know how we've ended up where we are today, about three years on from THIS THREAD RIGHT HERE

To our last thread JUST HERE

It will be lovely to meet you so why not take a seat and have a gossip about all things booze related but also, DCs, husbands, wives, in-laws, out-laws, and everything in between.

There's always a seat for YOU xxx

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Pawprint · 04/08/2013 12:34

Hi Babes - well done all those who dodged the Wine Witch, Vodka Vulture, Whiskey Wanker etc.

I've been in the Side Car lately; slipping back into old habits after two weeks of doing well :(

Ladame · 04/08/2013 13:29

Hi Pawprint I'm in the sidecar with you. Sat out in the garden last night with Mr Ladame listening to music and having a few glasses of wine. I've found a Vinho Verde at 9% which is much better than the usual 13/13.5%, drank lots of fizzy water too, so am feeling pretty ok today.
Today though, I will not be drinking.
I am having Sunday to Thursdays off at the moment and feeling much better for it. Three or four nights a week and sticking to it. It's hard because Mr Ladame is an every night few beers type of man and loves me to keep him company and as it's mostly just me and him, it's hard to say no, but I need to lose some weight (going away beginning of September with gorgeous friend and her hubby).

So, I've strimmed my veg patch (bit brown and sad because of the heatwave), roasted a big fat chicken in Olive oil, lemon juice, thyme and garlic, ready for tea tonight with potato wedges and salad and a big glass of lime and diet lemonade. Bathed and clipped Ladamedog and washed his basket and cushion. Done DD's ironing and put it away (she is a norty girl and if I don't do it, it becomes like Everest and hey, I just love having her home from Uni! Grin Grin

Tidied everything up and ordered myself a (hopefully) slimming black cossie and pretty cover up from Marks and Spencer online, with my wages from last week's cooking.
Today I am a happy Ladame and am sending you all some happy dust across the sea xxx Also, temperature a much cooler 32 degrees with a breeze Grin

dementedma · 04/08/2013 17:37

ARF at "strimmed my veg patch"
Is that like trimming your bush?
Annie I had an AF Saturday too last night which is amazing. I am having wine today bit hope to go AF again one or more days this week. Have been out for a walk with Ds on his bike, and tried a wee jog bit seem to have hurt my knee, which is not good so had to hobble home. Done some ironing, cleaned the oven - yuk - and am off to do dinner. A Spanish chicken thingy with patata bravas.

Ladame · 04/08/2013 17:48

Yeah ... as I read that back Grin 'a bit brown and sad' - TMI?

greeneyed · 04/08/2013 18:19

Never mind that If there's veg growing in it, time to be concerned!

dementedma · 04/08/2013 19:08

Will your dp be ..ahem..sampling the veg in your patch later?

Ladame · 04/08/2013 19:50

Dear God I hope not. It's not his birthday, or Christmas!

Ladame · 04/08/2013 19:53

Anyway, there's not much left. It all got a bit dried up in the heat. It's all brown and scrubby, not very attractive at all. Used to be lush and full or growing things. (How much further can we lower the tone?) - I suspect a lot furthern ahem.

greeneyed · 04/08/2013 20:39

My patch is mostly covered with cobwebs!

Anneisnotmyname · 04/08/2013 20:44

ma yesterday was my first AF day this year, and once I get tonight over with it will be my first AF weekend in years!!

I know I will have alcohol next week as away till friday but I really hope I don't overdo it. I'm going to try not to have wine as one glass always leads to more - lager and cider much less so - and I'll keep reading this thread on my phone, although i'm not sure If I can post from there.

PervyMuskrat · 04/08/2013 21:37

"veg patch" Grin... sniggers like a teenage boy and ambles back off the thread...

Mouseface · 04/08/2013 22:16

Evening tis me, Mouse

SMUT!! On this thread? Hell NO sisters! Grin

Not unless I'm in on it too! Grin

To be fair, I did hear my husband use the term 'lady fluff' yesterday when talking to his best mate and I didn't have to ask him what he meant.....

Pervy - you of all people should be here if there is smut going on with a name like that!

Off to bed, will come and set up the new thread when we get nearer to the end tomorrow.

Be strong brave babes xxx

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dementedma · 04/08/2013 22:18

Well done Annie I will try and keep you company but am a serial failure on this bus!
ladame my veggie patch is also rather barren these days...my furrow needs a good ploughing.

PervyMuskrat · 04/08/2013 22:30

Sorry, my filth-meter is on the blink seeing as DH told me about the binful of maggots we have in our outside bin [shocked] Watching the Inbetweeners on TV and Lonely Island on YouTube to restore my natural balance Grin

thurso13 · 05/08/2013 07:31

Morning everyone,

You're not a serial failure Ma, you're a strong woman, with lots on her plate, and trying to get a handle on the WW, NOT a failure, ever.

I have again starting writing before going back a page, so sorry not to NC. I hope everyone has had a good weekend. I was snackered on Saturday night, and did have 2 large glasses before I went to bed, felt horrible and exhausted on Sunday, so not a good decision.

Busy week this week, as I go on hols next weekend, oh, and my lawn needs a good trim before I go as well!

Lots of love
xxxxxx

Ladame · 05/08/2013 07:58

Day 2/7 for me. Today, I will not be drinking.

OK, so I felt a bit sorry for Mr Ladame over the whole Christmas and Birthday thing and invited him for a wander around the shrubbery. He looked a bit alarmed and said there were two Father Teds on and he thought he might have eaten too much tea - could we take a raincheck? Well, considering rain is about as rare as hens teeth over here, that should give me another three weeks. Then I can say, he had turned down a forage in the veg patch three weeks last Sunday and hang it out another week, and voila!! It's his birthday - so it can work out pretty well Wink

ThisIsMyTime · 05/08/2013 09:30

That's it I've proved I can't drink sensibly 2 bottles last nite one the night before the anxiety is ruining my life affecting my work I'm so scared that I'm going to be left with this anxiety when I am AF and its scaring the shit out of me please help what are everyone's experiences with anxiety feeling very low indeed

lonnika · 05/08/2013 09:37

Hi This - I struggle with anxiety - health anxiety - have been AF for nearly 100 days - still have health anxiety some days good some days not. can you get something from the doctor for it ?

ThisIsMyTime · 05/08/2013 09:42

Probably I'm going to fight this anxiety got an interview for promotion at work this week I just hope it keeps at bay ! Alcohol is such a horrible crutch I'm done its not worth losing my job , sanity or life over

Mouseface · 05/08/2013 10:34

Morning, tis me, Mouse

Lonni - Citalipram is a good one for anxiety but go and speak to YOUR gp as everyone is different. WELL DONE ON 100 DAYS!!!!! :) Thanks

You are doing so well! Maybe your anxiety is also thinking about the fact that you've got this far and maybe you could drink now....... ?

Ladame - you have the smuttiest mind, I love it!! Grin

ThisIs - GOOD FOR YOU!!!! Fingers crossed that you get it, they wouldn't be interviewing you if they didn't want to see you sweetheart xxx

Right, breakfast. We had a power cut here for 6 hours and Nemo woke as he hates the dark, luckily I am so analy retentive that I have a torch by the bed, went and got him a night light in a holder and all was well again. Well, apart from the fact that DD had no internet so I said sleep could be an option!! Grin

Nemo's nurse is due but I will do the new thread soon xxx

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lonnika · 05/08/2013 11:06

Hi Mouse - good to hear from you - I was responding to Thisis 😆 I am actually 100 days on Thurs :) - no chance of drinking again for me - don't want to - for me life is better without it.

This is good luck on your promotion interview :)
Right must go and clean the house !!!!!
See you laters

pink - way hay we are starting week 3 of the hols

Mouseface · 05/08/2013 14:23

Lonni - whoops! Maybe I should read before I post then. yes? Sorry Grin

I've just been sprung by DH trying to srtip the bed, I can't do it anymore as it kills me and he came upstairs whilst I was ahem, mid strip Wink

Anyway, needless to say, he did the rest and we even hoovered under the bed when we saw how much dust there was! That's not been done since we moved here in 2008 Blush

I suppose I should think about lunch...... my low carbing means I'm not as hungry which is great :) and I'm losing weight slowly rather than yo-yoing.

Back in a bit, where are you all?!

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Pink01 · 05/08/2013 15:21

Hi all

I'm away on holiday at the mo so not online much. Trying this from my phone.

I've failed tho Hmm Hmm

Two pints last night and two the night before. Lager not squash btw.

I don't know why I'm doing it and I have let myself down badly. Already thinking about a drink tonight.

Sorry Lonnie x x x

Anneisnotmyname · 05/08/2013 16:37

Hi quick check in. Im on holiday and whilst I've not noticed I have a particular time where I want to drink I've identified a trigger. The dc are whining, I'm having to sort everything, things are going badly-not what we expected at all-so I feel like I deserve a drink. To put me in a better mood for everyone s sake :(

babyjane1 · 05/08/2013 18:20

Hi babes, jut popping in to say hi, not feeling great with my tummy troubles which in turn causes me to feel depressed anxious as I can't really leave the house for obvious reasons, on lots of meds and just feeling kinda down. Sorry don't want to be all gloom and doom, you guys are all doing so well and I'm on the bus but honestly I really miss the first fast glass feeling but can't do it cos it never stops there!!!