The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Off On A Journey Far & Wide, Full Of Support, With No Reasons To Hide.

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Hey, I'm Mouse, one of the Brave Babes on this Bus. :)

We're heading to sobriety, in various different ways, in our own different ways, some of us are there, some not quite yet.

We're a group of non judgemental, mothers, wives, partners, sisters, daughters, girlfriends, and of course all of the male equivalents that run alongside those 'tags', but most of all, we are, or we have been, just like YOU. :) Real people with real concerns about how much we are drinking all of the time.

Our relationships with alcohol are varied, and you'll find most of us are wanting to do something about it..... desperate to stop the cycle of drinking, stopping, drinking, stopping, drinking more, stopping for shorter periods of time and then the reverse, doing ever so well and then 'something' happens and you're back to square one, a place that sometimes gets a little crowded, one little square filled with lots of people who all want out.

Sound familiar?

You're never alone here. Ever.

Come and take a seat, post or lurk. We won't bite but we WILL look after you, SUPPORT you, if you want us to. :)

And for those want to know how we've ended up where we are today, about three years on from THIS THREAD RIGHT HERE

To our last thread JUST HERE

It will be lovely to meet you so why not take a seat and have a gossip about all things booze related but also, DCs, husbands, wives, in-laws, out-laws, and everything in between.

There's always a seat for YOU xxx

Well done pawprint that is awesome really :)

Climbing back on bus. Drank way too much last night. Haven't had a drink in weeks so currently have the hangover from hell today. Day 1 for me and today I will not be drinking!

Thanks Greeneyed

Hey Pawprint - I haven't said hi to you yet welcome to the mad house Bus, a HUGE well done on last night! That's amazing :)

Oh dear Obrigada - hangover + heat = YUK! You have my sympathies, I hope you're feeling better now. :) xx

I'm done in after running a teen hotel for the last 24/36 hours so off to bed. xxx

Obrigada hope you are feeling on the mend now. *Pawprint how have you got on tonight?

Well loving this weather accept the bus seems a bit quiet, everyone too busy sunbathing :)

purple here when you are ready to pop back on or just want to say Hi from the sidecar. Sending hugs and strength through the ether. Day 8 dusted off here - not actually thought about wine at all tonight, definitely getting easier. Right ordered all my gym wear, eaten crap all weekend as my last hurrah before I am whipped into shape hopefully. Hope my injury doesn't let me down, I SOOO want to run. Night babes, sleep tight x

I failed

Oops. I failed and continue to do so. Life is ok. LittleMsGee is doing brilliantly, DH is awesome. It's just this. I just worry I will have less days with DD because of it - that it will ruin my health. And yet, I'm sat here drinking because well, I could.

I know the drill. Off to bed and brushing teeth. So looks like I'm waving at the bus for a bit but you're on my radar.

Shuffle hugs to everyone xx

Hi Greeneyed and Mouse - AF tonight so I'm on Day Two . Tonight was hard as I was bored and that is a big trigger. Survived the pleadings of the Witch. Best thing I did was to chuck out the wine as I would have been tempted. I do feel a bit sad about a bottle of expensive prosecco give to me last week by a client but it had to go...

Thanks Sidecar. The peace of mind is priceless but I am going to have to battle long and hard to stay AF. I am feeling anxious tonight - I guess I was masking that with booze.

Little sorry to hear about your h

Morning!

Just survived my 3rd weekend AF, think I am day 22 today. It is getting easier and easier but I still can't look ahead too much. So I don't! Just concentrate on today.

Still finding the mornings such a reward, to have a clear head and not feel sick and dizzy is so nice to put it mildly.

Sorry I don't have time to NC as about to get in the shower, however hello to all new babes and all struggling at the moment, I just want to say that was me 22 days ago and it's only because of the bus that I have got as far as I have. It can be done. I know it is just SO hard though, I am not trying to diminish that.

I have taken a lot of support from the bus but maybe not given a lot back, I keep saying I will come back and NC and then don't have the time, sorry, I am going to make more effort as of today....DH doesn't know I am posting on here so that makes it slightly difficult. Not that he doesn't know how bad my drinking has been poor bloke knows better than anyone although he has never criticised me. He has always seen it as a bad habit and nothing more.

Anyway happy Monday to all and will post tonight,

Love Pink X

Morning gorgeous babes,

pink well done I think you have just 'given back' by posting. Also it does get easier and easier. I know I said it's hard at times but I was being a bit dramatic- it just hard for about 5 mins these days. Keep going 22 days is pretty much a month.

green isinde 'lo there gorgeous babes. I'm off to order the Mary Oliver book. Think I'll get a real book because that poem deserves to exist in reality not just on the kindle.

little I really hope that you are ok today. Whatever has happened, you are here,on the madhouse bus,ready to think and talk about what needs to be done. There are lots of loons babes ready to hold hands and offer support.

Lots of love to everyone,have a great day. I have a day off work and it's nearly the holidays,can you tell?

pawprint days 1-3 are the WORST,once you are past them it does get much easier. Get yourself some mini or maxi magnums and some soft drink and white knuckle it through tonight. It is worth it

Ditto everything gugs says. pink your posts have helped me enormously. Really inspiring to see your progress. No need to NC just keep telling us how uou are getting on. litlett be kind to yourself, this is not your fault. Your H hasn't had an affair because you get arseholed a couple of times a year. Don't blame yourself. Can you start a tgread in relationships about what has happened. Seen so many ladies in a similar situation get so much support.

pawprint huge well done. Try not to see it as a battle. Think about what you are gaining rather than giving up. You are doing yourself a huge kindness. Ditto what guggs says about first few days. It WILL get easier.

When you take away the wine you do need to replace it eith something to stave off boredom/anxiety etc. plan what you will do in the evening, gardening, exercise, sewing etc and it will be easier. X

MsGee don't you dare disappear! Come back and chat. It's lovely and cool up here on the roof rack as we rattle along, but I've had to put up a shade to keep the sun off.

Little so sorry to hear you're going through a difficult time. Feel free to share as much or as little as you want about it. You know that drinking won't actually make anything better but we do understand that it's your coping mechanism right now. Try to be kind to yourself, eat and rest. Do you have rl support?

Hi to everyone, welcome to new babes, hope to get to know you better.

I'm loving the mornings at the moment, the coolest, calmest part of the day before everyone gets frazzled and grumpy

Catch up with you all later x

< passes round ice lollies >

Hi all
Epic fail from me! Full of self loathing and sick feelings . This heat is making is worse:(
Yuck. When will I beat this?

Jango, hope you are feeling better, we can beat it one day at a time. I had the hangover from hell yesterday due to pure overindulgence so I can totally empathise with you.

Afternoon, tis me, Mouse

IsinDe - lots of calm responses and ignore I found with DD. The more she screamed, the quieter I got and the more I ignored her. She soon clicked that it got her nowhere where as asking for something politely or behaving better did. :) xx

MsGee and all others who are/have failing/ed, tonight is a whole new night.......... step away from the fridge! Right now!

Off out for a while but shall return and catch up properly :)

Jango we've all done it. I scared myself to death on Friday night. I got extremely drunk with female friend and ended up in bed with her. Neither of us is gay and I am married with a child. I came clean to dh straight away and he said he wasn't cross. I have talked to my friend and she was ok about it. However, I am still appalled at myself and realise things have to change. I have been drinking every night for years and, until two days ago, had not had an AF free day for a year.

On Saturday I threw away every bottle of wine in the house and haven't drunk since.

Today is day three and I am finding it very difficult. In a minute I am going to buy some cigarettes to cover up the wine cravings.

If I can do this, so can you xxx

Pawprint can you busy yourself with something this evening or go for a walk? When I find it really tough. I get showered teeth brushed, into my pjs and into bed with the laptop or a book. The Wine Witch can't get me in the bedroom. Well done getting rid of all the wine, it's essential for me not to have it in the house. Good luck tonight xx

Paw - when you say that you ended up in bed with her, do you mean that you had sexual contact? Or that you just fell asleep? Sorry to be nosy, feel free to ignore but I'm just trying to clarify what happened and how you really feel about what happened IYSWIM?

I know that I've ended up in many a strange bed and thought where the hell am I? Called a cab and tried to figure out my way home. The thought of my DD doing that makes me feel instantly sick.

It's frightening at just how fast things spin out of your control isn't it? In a moment, you could be on a high wall, walking along, super human style, in a bed with someone you aren't 'with', clubbing, taking drugs that you wouldn't normally touch, go to a party in Jeff knows where...... walk home alone. The list is endless and being out of control with no inhibitions is the most dangerous part of alcohol in my book.

Then there's the arguments, the fights, the fuel for the fire that alcohol provides. Truth serum or poison? Either way, it's just not great stuff for your body, mind or soul.

I hope all of you Babes out there tonight are at least safe, drinking or not. xxx

Hey Greeny - how are you? I'm liking your fail safe method, I'm already PJd and ready for my bed. After strawberries and cream that is!

Hi Greeneyed have fought the witch and won, thank God.

Yes, Mouse, there was sexual contact - just feeling each others boobs and kissing, but our clothes were off and we were rather going for it... I managed to stagger home with her bra and my knickers in my pocket. Luckily, my dh just sort of laughed and said "Oh, Paw, what are you like?".

I actually had a couple of sexual experiences with women before I married and dh knows about them, so he wasn't that surprised.

I am very grateful for his understanding but still absolutely mortified by how out of control I was. I just can't let anything like that happen again.

It doesn't help that I am bipolar and that has caused me to take dangerous risks and make damaging decisions.

I have to make something positive out of this - I have to keep sober. My marriage and my child are too precious to lose.

pawprint I'm sure you can make something positive out of this- more control over alcohol I mean.

I can see how uncomfortable you feel about what happened but a snog and a grope are far from being the worst things people do under the influence. I'd say that drunk driving is worse. Please stop beating yourself up over it.

It's time to turn over a new leaf and with a bit of sobriety under your belt you won't worry about it again.

Are you on any medication for bipolar? Alcohol could interfere with that.

Waves to all x