The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Off On A Journey Far & Wide, Full Of Support, With No Reasons To Hide.

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Hey, I'm Mouse, one of the Brave Babes on this Bus. :)

We're heading to sobriety, in various different ways, in our own different ways, some of us are there, some not quite yet.

We're a group of non judgemental, mothers, wives, partners, sisters, daughters, girlfriends, and of course all of the male equivalents that run alongside those 'tags', but most of all, we are, or we have been, just like YOU. :) Real people with real concerns about how much we are drinking all of the time.

Our relationships with alcohol are varied, and you'll find most of us are wanting to do something about it..... desperate to stop the cycle of drinking, stopping, drinking, stopping, drinking more, stopping for shorter periods of time and then the reverse, doing ever so well and then 'something' happens and you're back to square one, a place that sometimes gets a little crowded, one little square filled with lots of people who all want out.

Sound familiar?

You're never alone here. Ever.

Come and take a seat, post or lurk. We won't bite but we WILL look after you, SUPPORT you, if you want us to. :)

And for those want to know how we've ended up where we are today, about three years on from THIS THREAD RIGHT HERE

To our last thread JUST HERE

It will be lovely to meet you so why not take a seat and have a gossip about all things booze related but also, DCs, husbands, wives, in-laws, out-laws, and everything in between.

There's always a seat for YOU xxx

Morning all,

greeny pleased you made it and you deserve a rest today. How is your crazy toddler?

hi Ionnika that is an early post. Asia is quite a long way to go for a paddling pool however Well done on your fab sobriety.

I'm doing ok. Being sober is HARD and shows how dependent I was.I wasn't that heavy a drinker but it's amazing how often I can be triggered. Hot day? -glass of wine. Cold weather? Glass of red. etc etc.
I'm finding it easier every time I get through a new situation without resorting to booze.So many things are better in my life,so yeah,booze effects every aspect of life and I think it holds you back from doing what you really want to do.

And this will make me sound like a loon but anyhow,I've managed to grow some giant sunflowers for the first time. Amazing how ability to garden increases when you're not pissed. Yesterday I found a white feather on the sunflower leaf which I decided to interpret as a little sign of hope and that I'm, on the right path. I KNOW that that is inside my own,crazy head but it made me happy.

Lots of love x

Lol Guggenheim - I like the white feather sign am sure your right that it is a sign that you are on the right path.
Today's just getting better - have now just fell out with my mum (due to my selfish sister but that is tooooooo long a story). - Would like to go to sleep and start again but as that is looking unlikely wil do some ironing instead - before it gets too hot :)
Hope everyone else is feeling better than me -
L x

Hi guggs not a loon at all. I'm sat next to my giant sunflowers on the patio! Gardening gives me a real sense of peace or satisfaction. Re seeing signs, I do it all the time. If I catch a glimpse of a kingfisher or heron, dear or bird of pray I always feel privileged, special and happy. I remember once sitting on a bus at 6 am when I was about 20 feeling wretched. (Probably been partying all night) i was literally suicidal then a heron flew over us. I thought that's it everything is going to be alright. It was a sign of hope snd that heron was just for me. Can I recommend a book if you haven't got it already. Wild Geese by Mary Oliver. isinde introduced me to her poems on here. I think you'd like it.

Sat on the patio with my vapestick. DS playing up already. Unfortunately a symptom of being an only child he finds it really hard to cope with other children here, having to share his mummy and toys and not always being able to play what he wants to play or watch what he wants to watch.

Right time to don the hard hat and get back in there. Have a lovely day babes. If you are going to a BBQ and think you won't resist the wine there is some wine called first cape which is really nice and 5% I know it is in morrisons and tescos. At least if you drink the bottle it will be 4 units as opposed to 9 or 10. Love and luck to all xx

Sorry you are having a shit time lonnika hope the day gets better xx

Hey green I have the heron as my totem as well.
Still on hold here in Poland but wanted to send you a hug over the miles.
waves to all

Hols even

Hi babes - I'm a name change but was never a regular poster. My drinking is out of control :(. A bottle of wine a night, every night. I am married with a ten year old son. I have been married for 12 years and have never been unfaithful before. Last night, however, I got very drunk indeed and ended up snogging a female friend. We did have a bit of a grope of each others boobs but were too drunk to do much. I spoke to her this morning and there wasn't any awkwardness but I still feel v guilty. I told my dh what happened and he just sort of shrugged. Anyway, I need to stop drinking and have poured all the wine in the house away. I cannot trust myself around booze :(

Pawprint, i'm sorry it's very quiet here today everyone must be out in the sun. Everyone one of us here has done things we're not proud of. I'm sorry you are feeling so terrible today.

Well done for pouring the wine away. How are you feeling now? What are your plans for this evening?

pawprint sorry to hear that you are suffering and I hope you are feeling better today.

Maybe give up the wine for a week or even a few days,see if you feel better without it. Stock up on ice cream and nice soft drinks,try those instead.

Yup,booze does make us do things we just wouldn't dream of doing ordinarily.I'm not sure that you were being unfaithful though- drunk and out of control:yes.I've done lots of stupid things when pissed,lots of falling over and vomming in public etc. so no judging from me.

Come back and tell us how you are getting on lovely,hope you are ok.

Pawprint - hope you are doing ok this evening. The come down from booze can magnify any anxiety so you will begin to feel better in a few days. Here's to day one xxxxx

Pawprint, same here - no judging from me. I have done some absolutely stupid things when drunk, which I look back on and feel so ashamed. Especially as I am supposed to be a grown up and have at times behaved like a 14 year old after too many Malibu and cokes!

You clearly feel awful about it but, not being flippant, it could be worse. Your friend is still talking to you, your DH knows and hasn't gone mad, so just try and put it behind you and focus on the cause of the problem.

You can stop drinking/ learn to control your drinking and we here on the bus are here to help you. We all understand and we are all trying to sort out our relationships with alcohol one way or another.

How are you know? Have you got plans for this evening?

I was drinking the same amount as you, more at weekends, and I am on day 20 now (i think) and am feeling so much better and happier. You can do this too, although it may not feel like that right now.

Hello all other babes, quiet on here today, I expect everyone is enjoying the sun.

Mouse your comment about everyone being out getting wasted really made me laugh last night!

Pink X

Isnidie thank you, still taking a deep breath about it all!

Paw sorry I wasn't on here earlier, nothing to be shamed about on this bus, it has been the lifesaver for me, so glad you've got on.
How are you doing tonight?

Dh has been off in Nottingham for the last two days, watching the ashes, I have got quite used to having the house for myself!!

I've done pink toenails, and a pink film (wedding crashers!!), I think I am all done now, and ready for an early bed.

Have left a note for Dh to go to bed somewhere in one of the spare rooms when he gets home though!
All that adrenaline (blurgh!)
xxxx

Isinde :). Lol at your tent putting up trip - can just imagine it :)
Going to bed now - fingers crossed I hope I can sleep better tonight -

Morning :). slept better - yay - now of to support daughter in sporting comp - last one of the season - fingers crossed -

Hope all ok - laters:) L xxxxx

Morning all. thurso I do exactly the sane when DH is out. Don't pass go, straight to the spare room :)

isinde thank you. I am in the middle of a parenting manual
At the moment ( hoping for a miracle) and will order the other mary oliver book after that. Are there any other poets you recommend? I loved poetry when I was younger, theatre, the arts before I found cigarettes and alcohol. Tome to reawaken some old passions and create some new ones :) . Sorry to hear things are trying fir you isinde hope you are okay.

lonnika glad to hear you are feeling better, you are an inspiration to me at the moment and pink you are doing so well.

ma enjoy the rest of your trip then come and talk to me about training. I an hoping to do a 5k in September. I've not been able to run for the past couple of years because of an injury problem. Starting with a personal trainer tomorrow who reckons he can get me past it. I'm stuffing my face with bread and sweets this weekend as I know he us foing to put me on a low carb diet - talk about self sabotaging! :)

Love and luck to all babes today, enjoy the sunshine xx

Apologies for typos. Fat fingers and tired head x

littlet :( welcome aboard. I'm sorry you sound very sad. Want to tell us anymore about your drinking and what you'd like to achieve?

Oh littlet getting arseholed a couple of times a year sounds a harsh reason to be leaving you! i'm sorry you are going through this. There will be wiser babes along soon to advise you on the drinking when out. Sounds like a sensible plan driving.

I am similar to you in that I can control the amount I drink at home (but struggle with the frequency) but when out I drink much quicker. There is a tipping point and once I am over 3 glasses of wine there is no stopping me. You won't go under. You have recognised the problem, that's a big step and you are already addressing with making plans to drive. You sound like a sensible lady.

Will leave other babes to advise further. What do you want to do, stop, cut down?

Afternoon, tis me, Mouse

I've not caught up at all but will do later, just wanted to say hi and I hope you are all okay. Purple is alive, just not feeling so great so can we save her some Opal Fruits please? Thank you. :)

Right, garden with the boy, DD had a camp out last night with 2 friends seeing as though the party was cancelled so we need to go and tidy the remains!

Be back later. Big hugs xxx

Thanks all - sorry not to name check, but am on my mobile. Thanks for all the support and encouragement. Today is a better day and last night was my first AF for almost a year.

I will take it ODAAT. Thanks again.