Who's going to start dating thread No57?

[akaWisey]

Or am I going to be 'one'

according to that article, OWW you can hand him your purse and see if he wants to sleep with you. That may, however, give the wrong impression.. :)

Lovely to hear about the moonlit swims Snape, and snorted tea at your 'spread my croissant' non euphemism. I will have to use that one in the future....

Nice to see some butterflies OWW, I agree that wrists are vair sexy.

I do enjoy reading your exploits but wish I had some of my own. Having been really unimpressed with the quality of guys messaging me, and as I am quite prepared to send first messages myself, I have been searching the pools of talent.

Sweet Jesus. It's diabolical. I am on Match and POF - never hurts to have feet in two camps, the paid and the free - and, no joke, there is not one guy on either within 50 miles of me I find remotely attractive. And I'm not stupidly picky or expecting a "10". The sort of guys I tend to find attractive would probably be most people's "6-8". That probably sounds dreadfully shallow but there we are - there has to be some initial physical attraction, even though I don't expect to go "pwoargh I want to rip his clothes off" on first glance!

Am now considering entering a convent if that's the best that's out there.

My wrists are really skinny - I can get my thumb and middle finger round them with an overlap to the top joint of my thumb, if that makes sense. So not sexy at all. Wrists and tits is my friend's plan for how to seduce old Alpha into a bit of light snoggage, which I do not have an awful lot of faith in, for some reason. Might go with the purse plan, though Bant - that one sounds like a sure-fire winner.

Hi Jessica - I think very, very few of the men on either site (these are the ones I'm on too, btw) actually resemble their photos. Some are so far apart as to look like a different person. Some are ten years older or else have had a very bad time of it recently. Some look different once you see them in the flesh. Some (a sizable minority, actually) just have terrible photos and look better in person. Unless there's something really offputting about the photo, I really wouldn't set too much store by it.

I think men generally have far fewer photos taken of us, we're not so into them - that's why men choose pictures with fish, someone on here asked a man why and he said 'it's the only time we get pictures taken)

It's usually women who put together photo albums and things, men can, of course, but in my experience it's almost always the wife that does these things - single blokes just have a few holiday snaps of themselves or bad ones on a mobile. So we have fewer to choose from. And we would never ever ask a male friend to take a nice full length photo for our dating profile.

I have very white wrists, does that make any difference ?

Generally I rely on the old tits 'n' eyes combo - I am a classy bird.

re the link on flirting signals OWW, had to laugh at this explanation for the perpetual 'fiddling' that men seem to do (especially in the gym )

'A lot of times we will make ?adjustments? to our package to create the illusion of sheer size, like ?Look I?m making another adjustment. Can you just imagine how huge it must be if I can?t keep it where I need it.? Anyway, that is why we make adjustments all the time, size is everything right?'

Do you think men exist who actually use that kind of reasoning ? The poor, poor deluded souls.

Many of us don't think we look great in some photos but most of us have one or two where we think "yeah, that looks like me and I look OK". Not most guys on online dating, it seems. And so few guys in their 30s with hair on their heads.

I agree re photos. You can tell the ones where they have put the best one as their profile and then the remaining ones they really don't look the same..

Any update Title? Feedback from last night I mean?

Good luck tonight oww and apologies if I've missed anyone..

Have arranged a cinema date next Tues with the consultant. Seems ages away, am not known for my patience but nice it is organised and not just a fob off, 'I'm busy'

You can tell the ones where they have put the best one as their profile and then the remaining ones they really don't look the same

Yes. Likewise. And one horse rider looks pretty much the same as another.

I've mentioned before not to put photos of the Sphinx and stuff in OD profiles. I just got a mail from a woman in Budapest with 23 profile photos. She is in 2 of them. And I can only see her face in one of those - at least I think it's her, she's in a group and one of them looks vaguely similar to the other photo.

So the received wisdom is that there are far more men on dating websites than women - that's what I've always assumed. I haven't really bothered with comparing profiles from a mans vs womans point of view by creating fake profiles.

However, I just tried it to see what it's like for the women in Budapest. I created a fake female profile (I'm not going to sign up but I'm wondering how many 'heeeeyyyyy' messages I'll get.

And I did a quick search. My general search is for women signed on in the last week between 29 and 44, so I thought I'd look for men between 32 and 47, which sounds like a sensible comparison.

There are 22 men (including me) compared to 41 women. It looks like I'm in a sellers market :)

Ooh just off, will update if I can!

don't forget. Wrists, purse, and use the word 'naked' at least three times in conversation...

Have a wonderful time, chuck

bonne chance

Bant be careful. you might end up getting some man falling in love with you

@ KinNora

tits and eyes? well i like to wiggle my secret mound in their direction!

That's an interesting tactic Lorna , and very subtle

Newstart lots of texting again today, but its been like that for 3 weeks since he first messaged me. Before last night we talked about him staying over one night this w/e and it seems like that's still on so it must've been ok from his perspective It certainly was from mine!

Sex - to date - has been a joyless dutiful thing at best. With Mr Lovely, it is anything but joyless and dutiful

I am very much looking forward to this w/e

Lorna - once you wiggle your secret mound at someone, it's just a mound. The mystery, alas, is gone.

ha ha sadly its "very" secret at the moment, not by my choice.

still sticking to my "no casual sex unless its with someone i genuinely am excited and happy to see" policy though, meh sex is SO five years ago for me!