Who's going to start dating thread No57?

[akaWisey]

Or am I going to be 'one'

Checking in, all is very well

Brilliant, Juliette. So very pleased.

Glad to hear it Juliette

That's good news Juliette .

In other news, I can tell you that decent hotels are priddddddy thin on the ground in the East Midlands ( the Talent Show trip ) - I may have to lower my standards

Oh whereabouts are you going Nora? Have friends in the area and will see if there are any recommendation if you want to PM me.

Juliette

Well that went well

Looking forward to a repeat performance next w/e

Hello all

Slowly recovering from my weekend with Mr Flirt

It started really well and very sweet and stuff and the sex was better though he still couldn't 'finish' so to speak. Then his sex drive seemed to just completely vanish and I lost all confidence to even try and initiate something because the sexual signals just were not there and it was all just cuddles and talking and going for lunch and more cuddles.

So frustrating because I really like him. GAH.. why o why o why is there always something not quite right. Something important. ALWAYS! when I like someone. Every goddamnfuckingbastard time.

I will have to talk to him about it at some point I suppose but I don't want to make him feel pressured or start overthinking it or anything.

brief check in from corfu. both sunburned to buggery, i am covered in mosquito bites, so am attractive mass of lumps fell downstairs yesterday & think i have fractured my arm but there has been naked moonlit sea swimming, relaxing & tons of sex, so the arm can wait until i get back to blighty. miserable with burns & bumps & bites but gloriously happy on the inside.

Morning everyone,

That's a bit of a bugger Lubey , do you think he'll be amenable to discussing it ?

Snape glad you've had a lovely time, pm me if I can help with your arm.

Have fun out there, chaps

Lubey tricky one that, but I have had a bit of experience with this: my STBXH started having a bit of ED in early 50s & absolutely freaked out - end of world, woe is him. It was mainly psychological, unrealistic expectations ( thought he was 16 forevah) & too much booze. He was not amenable to discussion, & resolved it with Internet Viagra.
My current guy had some difficulty the first time or two as hadn't had sex for quite some time - had been in a nearly sexless marriage for 5 years. His attitude was completely different, matter of fact & non-anxious. We have not over-analysed this, I was just very relaxed & said we have all the time in the world; it has ( obviously [big grin]) improved.
You will have to see where he is at with this; if there is potential, focus on sex as a process, not an outcome- kissing, stroking, etc & less on intercourse. He may well be tense & self-conscious which is a real passion killer - reassurance from you is the best approach.

Thanks moanranger yes that seems like an excellent approach and fun too doing it.

I think he'll be happy to talk about it yes he's quite an open kind of man and has talked about his problems now and then with anxiety and panic attacks. And he brought it up once too and said it was feeling kind of like an overload of excitement to him that he finds difficult to handle.

Snape :o ouch at the arm though, definitely get it looked at sooner rather than later if you can. I am delighted to hear about all the lovely stuff though. omg. I wanna do naked moonlight swimming! I have in the past while slightly tipsy but had no one to join me apart from some equally tipsy female friends

Smug marrieds. "WE think you're too fussy". You bite back the 'well you weren't'. Later, he gets a bit pissed over dinner and starts to attempt flirting with his interminable stories whilst his wife rolls her eyes and contradicts him. She drinks ever bottle in the house including the wine he is saving and sits with you in the other remembering with remarkable clarity details of the men she's shagged whilst leaving him to clear up the kitchen. Next morning he insists on coming down to breakfast with his gibblets on show though one of those shorty dressing gowns and butters his toast standing up at the table.

Lubey he sounds like a good one, hope the sex resumes.

Snape for your arm. Best thing is the ask a sensible local about the hospital (not the local clinic as they are newly qualified doctors on rotation)

Bant no handcuffs here either. Clearly not needed for true hedonists

OWW agree, flash your tits. Over the table.

i have consulted nora and am icing arm, will keep it in a sling & watch out for pins & needles/ numbness. nameless is being attentive to point of slicing and spreading my croissant this morning (not a euphamism) so hoping to put off hosp until thursday night & return to blighty.

Naked moonlight swimming the absolute best

Juliette I am ROFLing at your smug marrieds

snape That's lovely that you are having such a good time (burns, breaks and bites aside)

lubey So true, there is always something!!

I have spent the last two nights pulling all nighters talking to Guy 2. He knows about Mr Distant and asked last night where I stood with them both. I was honest. He is better for me in every way, but I can't shake being hung up on Mr Distant. It would be easier if Mr Distant comes back and says that he doesn't want a relationship (he's meant to be thinking about it). I think I feel like a failure/not good enough if it just doesn't work with Mr Distant without something bad happening to give me closure. Does that make sense? In all my past relationships something bad has happened or been done to me which gives me closure about the guy. It's hard to accept that maybe I am just not the right girl for Mr Distant.

Sux are you one who (like I have a tendency to) is determined to succeed - so when you are in a relationship that isn't all you want it to be, or deserve, you keep trying?

Sorry if I have misunderstood, just sounded familiar.

Also, hard to move on if you still wonder what if, or as it sounds in your case what when? Ie you don't have closure

Can you see Guy 2 as a nice distraction - you have been honest with him? I know it's hard to do that but survival and all that and giving yourself a chance. 2 nights of no sleep he must be very lovely :-))

Ouch to Snape, but really glad the romance element is strong and happy days are being had. Be careful on flight if swollen but sounds like you have advice etc.
Wow to Oww re house sorting, must get round to that!

You are just a bit previous Wine - save that thought for later on tonight. Things are not exactly going well at the moment as I am all of a jitter and full of butterflies and silly excitement. Planning cleavage- and wrist-revealing outfit. For pity's sake I am too long in the tooth for all this nonsense. Part of me is just waiting for whatever it is that's going to go wrong to go wrong . . .

...wrists..? seriously?

I'm mentally picturing a date who I found attractive showing me her wrists and I am just failing to get any signal from it at all. Brushing hair out of eyes, yes. Showing plunging neckline, yes. playing with earrings, making long eye contact, licking lips, uncrossing legs, all of these things I could get interested in.

Wrists?
Wot?

Wrist action

Yep the wrists have it, Bant. It's on the Internet so it's got to be true ...