Who's going to start dating thread No57?

[akaWisey]

Or am I going to be 'one'

The Rules

1 Develop a thick skin;

1. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
2. It's all BS until it actually happens;
3. Trust your gut instinct;
4. If it is not fun, stops
5. Do not wee on his willy

no, Western, I haven't been aware of the delights of Willy Wee guy, but I think I get the gist.. like you say, nuff said

Right, time to cultivate my steady side. Have just eaten so much ice cream I can hardly move so that's a good start (I am a romcom cliche)

1. Unless that's your thing. In which case, go ahead, just don't tell us about it. The Angel Delight thing was enough, thankyouverymuch

I think as well we should have 8. You are the prize

How about:
1 Develop a thick skin;

1. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
2. It's all BS until it actually happens;
3. Trust your gut instinct;
4. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
5. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
6. If it's not fun, stop
7. loo update is mandatory :)

Kirsty quite agree.

I once knew a girl who met a guy who wanted her to wee in his mouth, golden rain, I believe but he had the manners to lie in the bath while she tried. She told me she p--d herself laughing, not literally she got stage fright. It wasn't me btw .

I like the rules. I am the prize. (right now, I'm a prize idiot, but we're talking bigger picture, right?)

does 'you are the prize' apply universally?
I mean, if I think I'm the prize and he thinks he's the prize, wont we just try to 'out precious' each other

I could never, ever, in a million years, wee in someone's mouth just saying

I like the inclusion of no 6 - You are the Prize - it was one of my very best friends who said that to me last summer and I think I quoted it on this thread, it really made me stop and think about whether they were what I wanted, rather than was I what they wanted.

by the way 48 so pleased for you and Mr R&R, meant to say the other day.

Scrazy hope you are okay and work things out in the best way for you.

made a major faux paux today of the text variety, STBXH was here clearing out the garage, we got into a major argument over the lawnmower, I went inside and sent Mr EA a "for fucks sake, what a knob" type of text, except in my anger sent it to STBXH who was still in the garage

Thanks Tigsy, I'm trying to work it out in my head atm, come to terms with it all.

Yes, 'You are the prize' is good but he has to think so too, then he might think he is... oh it's a bloody minefield isn't it all? I give up, I want a meaningless fling!

I think I could probably manage it but I dont fancy being the recipient of any water sports

sounds like a freudian-text-slip Tigsy :o

Tigsy, just read your last sentence, great .

Mercury, me either [boak]. It wasn't me though but I believe the girl said it was a leetle turn on .

pretty sure I've never met anyone who was that way inclined!

Hey, love the thread this evening.

Round, I'm not great with rules but the one I remember the most is the meet quite quickly one, because a connection on text can be great, and such a support if you're lonely or flattered etc. so easy to say the right thing at the right time when you are using an inanimate phone or laptop, but eye contact and physical presence/connection is everything..

As the others have said already.

Weeing in mouths is extreme but 2 trusting people can do what they like in my book! I think that sort of thing is something you take to your grave (or use as material for the next 50 Shades, under a pseudonym, then relocate to Timbuktu..)

My insouciance has paid off - lunch on tomorrow now trying to find a pub in the middle (20 miles) that isn't where all the school mums go as per his first suggestion!

I've never been into 50 shades of wee myself, but if people want to do it, fair play to them.

I dont even want to think about wee...I've just got back into swimming and I dont want to think about what's really in the pool water

It wasn't me but my friend OK

New, that's great, see we told you so.

Urgh yes I hate the whole pool thing, best not to think..

Yay! Thanks Scrazy et al

meetup report - just got in, bit pissed

1. overall good night - i can only manage 1 "big" night out every few months, so i think this was it.

1. totty report...

well overalll very "nice" bunch of people, easy to get on with and chat to.

two couples which was a bit NOT as in they weren't cool and easy going

but does anyone else ever feel a bit "scarlet woman" as spare, in shape, relatively pretty female on her own? like i was a bit about chatting to the guys on their own, although it was fine. don't want to be the newbie annoying everyone by flirting with their men but of course sometimes that does just happen and maybe reading too much into it, as of course the women involved are very attractive and pleasant.

eligible men- well i'd pegged 3 "options" as in in my age range

guy A : this was the "best prospect" - saw him at the sports session and seemed very visually appealing but a bit shy.

he was here and i thought "aha he'll be a bit different with a few inside him and in a social context". Alas, still just very shy again (even when he goes to the bar, doesn't ask if anyone fancies a drink) so thumbs down - either he's not looking or he doesn't fancy me (fair play ) or he's gonna be with some woman who wants to do 100% of the work. meh.

guy B : not very appealing at ALL. was a bit worried as he offered to get me a drink straight off, and i was like this is gonna be awkward but thank fuck he sort of drifted away.

guy C : warmed to him as the evening went on, very gregarious etc... then i spotted his WEDDING RING, actually the organiser so his job to chat to everyone.

so overall all quiet on the romance front!

1. i picked up that it "is" sometimes uncomfortable socialising as "new single female". maybe its different in big cities, but as lovely as the couples were, i was reminded of how awkward it is to chat pleasantly with attached men whilst thinking "shit shit shit i hope their partners don't think i'm some desperate woman who has latched onto their blokes!" obviously topics of conversation fairly mundane and chats instigated by guys in question, but still...

1. reminds me of why i like OD so much, i feel attractive in RL but negotiating social dynamics of a group is

ha ha just about to drift off and thought "hang on that looks like i was intentionally flirting with attched blokes".

no what i meant was even in "innocent" conversation feels a bit awkward, like its a "lets all meet someone new" situation so anxious about not "giving the wrong impression" - of course i chat equally to everybody, male and female, attached and non attached, but then if you're "single and potentially interested in someone to date" it has a bit of about it.

OD all the way!