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oooh i feel ridiculous

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ImNotBloody14 · 21/06/2013 20:21

So silly. I'm a NCing regular. and a real proper grown up, I swear

I fancy someone. But I cant get up the guts to let him know or even to contact him. I've added him on FB (it's taken me months to build up to that) and he accepted. he's liked a few of my posts and a photo. I keep seeing him online (butterflies) and want to make contact but cant think of anything to say that isn't a blatant excuse to get talking to him. AFAIK he's single- well it says so on his FB.

arrgh this is so frustrating. if this was my best friend she would be chatting away to him no problem.

don't know what i'm posting for- just need to get this out of my head.

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WhiteBirdBlueSky · 23/07/2013 17:51

ONE TEXT ONLY.

ImNotBloody14 · 23/07/2013 18:01

I've done nothing yet- still haven't decided whether I am going to do anything or not.

numberlock he doesn't have children.

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ParvatiTheWitch · 23/07/2013 18:19

If the contact was Sunday and then not until Tuesday with. Booty text, surely that's not to bad is it? It's only two days or have I got it wrong?
Don't give up on good sex and a laugh too easily Op; enjoy it while it lasts.

ImNotBloody14 · 23/07/2013 18:24

last contact was Tuesday when I invited him to the cinema and he replied that he was already going with friends quite abruptly in comparison to how previous text conversations had gone. he had also ignored my text the previous day telling him to have a great day at work. then nothing til 2am sunday morning which I've taken as a booty text, due to the time of night and the fact that he seemed drunk. then last night he 'liked' my fb status which he hasn't done for well over a week at least.

I don't think I am very good at 'just sex'- I always want more- well because really I do want more than a casual relationship.

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ParvatiTheWitch · 23/07/2013 18:28

Sorry op. hope it sorts itself out.

maleview70 · 23/07/2013 18:49

I dont think he is into you enough to want a relationship but he will keep you dangling with just enough to keep you interested incase he fancies a shag.

If you want a proper relationship, he isn't the man.

Just move on.

ImNotBloody14 · 23/07/2013 19:00

yes, as much as I hate accepting that- I think you (and others here) are right maleview.

i'm just going to leave it.

thank you to everyone who has contributed to this thread from start to finish- I really appreciate all the support and excited hand clapping on my behalf I guess the shigging was only to be short lived but hey, it was fun while it lasted and I suppose somewhere in my head is a lesson learned, i'll work out what it is at some point. i'm just going to go and cry into my pillow for a while

thanks again everyone.

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Numberlock · 23/07/2013 19:38

Ah take care OP. You can wallow tonight them back up and at 'em in the morning.

sipofwine · 23/07/2013 19:42

Aw, come back and tell us about your next date and I hope you meet someone lovely soon (sure you will)!

ImNotBloody14 · 23/07/2013 19:45

thank you both. I intend to hang about anyway so i'm sure you'll see me around and if there are any new developments in my love life I shall be sure to let you all know first. i'll have to, because it's quite clear I need the advice!

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Numberlock · 23/07/2013 20:04

This is exactly why I'm staying single, don't need the hassle!

ImNotBloody14 · 23/07/2013 20:10

i'm 3 years single now and 3 years before exp aswell. I've spent a total of 4 1/2 years In a relationship and it was all with the one man. i'm fed up being single, but yes, also fed up with the whole scenario described in this thread happening again and again. why does it have to be so bloody hard? I know people who walk out of a long term relationship with one person and 2 weeks later are with another person and happy and no trouble finding each other.

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Numberlock · 23/07/2013 20:56

Have you tried speed dating?

ImNotBloody14 · 23/07/2013 21:28

no- I've never heard of any speed dating events happening locally. I am in NI and in a small town. we are a bit behind the times (small minded ) when it comes to stuff like that. I've done POF but got disillusioned pretty quickly with that. cant afford to be subscribing to any of the fee paying sites.

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ImNotBloody14 · 26/07/2013 10:44

Well we've had the initial awkward meeting. Passed him this morning on way to summer scheme with dcs- we both just said 'hi how you keeping- good thanks- see you later'

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Numberlock · 26/07/2013 10:48

What a twat.

ImNotBloody14 · 26/07/2013 12:32

Yup. We obviously couldnt really talk as dcs were there but i thought he might have indicated something that showed he felt like a shit.

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Numberlock · 26/07/2013 12:34

I hope you have something nice planned for the weekend.

ImNotBloody14 · 26/07/2013 12:37

Nothing actually- dcs are going to their dads in a few hours but i am so very skint so cant go anywhere. I was thinking of sorting through all our clothes and listing the no longer worn stuff on ebay.

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Numberlock · 26/07/2013 13:01

That's a good project to keep you busy and hopefully generate a bit of cash.

Have you got some friends you could invite round or visit?

ImNotBloody14 · 26/07/2013 13:06

Yep i probably will call in on a couple of friends aswell- a bit of MNing in there too

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ImNotBloody14 · 26/07/2013 13:08

Yep i probably will call in on a couple of friends aswell- a bit of MNing in there too

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Numberlock · 26/07/2013 13:19

Ha ha, good work!

WhiteBirdBlueSky · 26/07/2013 13:22

Ah well, nothing ventured nothing gained.

DiaryOfAWimpyMum · 26/07/2013 14:53

His loss OP!!

Try get a babysitter and go on a few nights out. I'm sure that's where the single men are to be found

Or I might take a tip from Millionaire Matchmaker and start dressing nicely and sitting alone in bars in Edinburgh around 3/4pm ish.

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