oooh i feel ridiculous

[ImNotBloody14]

So silly. I'm a NCing regular. and a real proper grown up, I swear

I fancy someone. But I cant get up the guts to let him know or even to contact him. I've added him on FB (it's taken me months to build up to that) and he accepted. he's liked a few of my posts and a photo. I keep seeing him online (butterflies) and want to make contact but cant think of anything to say that isn't a blatant excuse to get talking to him. AFAIK he's single- well it says so on his FB.

arrgh this is so frustrating. if this was my best friend she would be chatting away to him no problem.

don't know what i'm posting for- just need to get this out of my head.

How do you know him? Friend of friend, work, hobby...

initially through a thing my dc attends, Im now friendly with one of his friends (also through the thing my dc attends) and I see him almost daily when he passes my house to go to work- also weekly at the activity.

does he never attempt to chat to you? I think as you've made a first step adding him to FB, he should start talking - you both sound 14!

I mean , it sounds like you meet a LOT, esp the weekly activity.

"you both sound 14!" I know, it's ridiculous!

we chat in as much as saying "hi, how's it going" if we pass in the street or at the weekly thing- but he's involved with the organisation of the weekly thing and cant really just chat to one person- it's quite a busy thing and there just isn't the chance.

if it wasn't for the fact I know i'll have to face him again every week then i'd just get in touch and if he rejects me then I could forget it and move on- but not when I know i'll have to face him and no doubt he'd tell the friend that I know aswell and she'd know I fancy him!

It's fundraising/summer fair time of year - are there any 'weekly thing' events coming up that you can use as a pretext to message him about, asking if he needs any extra pairs of hands?

what about after this weekly activity - any chance travelling in same direction or having a drink (sound like you live close by)? but let him to suggest actual dating.

no 'to' in last sentence

weekly activity is for dcs so going for a drink after not an option and I also have a car full as I give a lift to my friend and her dc.

there is something happening next weekend that I could message him about but I know he'll think "why didn't she ask mutual friend" because I chat all the time with her. plus we've been given a letter with all the info we could need. I just don't want to make a dick out of myself and then have to face him again.

eeek I've just messaged him- he replied- it's ok- it's done now.

What did you say, what he he say? Don't leave us hanging

he posted on a link his friend sent him so I PMed a jokey comment about it and now we're taking about our plans for this weekend

Eek, how exciting! Let us know how the conversation develops :0)

I will- we've swapped numbers!

This sounds really exciting!!!

Arrange a proper date. He's probably just as nervous and if one of you doesn't ask then you could be missing out on some happiness and naked time

love the name buswanker

we're talking about where each of us likes to go out for a drink now...

Oooh, I second bus's advice

possible sunday night date if I can get a babysitter.

Excellent! No 'if' about it - a babysitter must be found!

cant believe I waited so long to do this! almost a year.

yes i'm going to see if my neighbour's DD is free to babysit- eek again!

Yay, well done! I'm so excited for you

oooh, dramatic change of pace! Good luck! did one of you actually suggested a date , or are you dressing it as some friendly drink n chat?