Dating thread 56 all welcome

[Kirstywirsty]

The Rules

1 Develop a thick skin;

1. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
2. It's all BS until it actually happens;
3. Trust your gut instinct;
4. If it is not fun, stop

Wisey, I had a friend who was going for her clin psych training - she applied rather cheekily before getting any postgrad experience, and got an interview at a very well respected school because she said she had a lust for knowledge in her application. Apparently they couldn't resist interviewing someone who used the word lust.

Whoops again, yes that was to you, Wine. I'm such a lightweight, that pint of gin has gone straight to my head.

I'm going to use that word tomorrow at work, somewhere and somehow, all innocent like.

Well she's ok. Np huge firework but interesting, interested. Told me she's older than me which means she must have taken 5 years off her age at least..

When I moved into my own house two weeks ago me and two friends got vair, vair drunk and ended the evening throwing ourselves onto my sofa and doing bicycles. All very 8 years old by women who in their day jobs should bloody well know better.

I have regular conversations about penetrations and erections with large groups of blokes. No one ever even smirks. That sort of thing is Serious Building Stuff and not to be taken lightly by filthy-minded flibbertygibbets.

That's a bit off, Bant. Did she realise shed given herself away?

Flipper IRMER ? You poor, poor woman, they don't set the physicists on you do they ?

Funnily enough, I wanted to be a clinical psychologist, I met Spud in '85 when I started the degree...

I shall monitor A&E tomorrow for outbreaks of Flaky Datey Amputation and report back.

I recall the age pruning has been discussed before and lots of people do it to counter the people who automatically screen off at 35, 40 etc. Maybe she thought that as long as she came clean on first meeting it was an OK tactic to show up in more search results?

Well I know people who look, and act, much younger and those who look and act much older than their actual age.

I realise I won't attract men who might still want kids because mine are grown up, but then I'd think twice before a serious relationship with a man who has young children. I also, for some reason, shy away from those who are retired even if they say they're in their fifties (as am I).

I'm an inbetweeny obviously.

Wow I've missed loads!

I would date men with or without kids - it's swings and roundabouts. I had ivf to have my DS and so don't know if I could have another one (although would like to) so at least if I met someone with kids, it wouldn't matter so much if we didn't manage to have one of our own.

On the other hand, being selfish, it would of course be much easier not to have someone else's kids to think about. But what will be will be.

I've just messaged someone who I really liked the look of on POF and he's messaged back - I'm so excited!! Last night no one I messaged replied. Tonight I've messaged one person and he's written back. Now I'm stressing about what to write back and how to not sound boring, but not try too hard and sound over keen. Damn this is hard!

Alright, date over.

Not sure on this one, think it might take a second date. When she turned up I thought 'oh, not as good as the photos then', but apparently that's not a polite greeting so said 'hello' instead. She told me off a bit for not waiting at the entrance to the bar, which we'd agreed, and I pointed out I was sat outside the door. Door and end of the path leading to the door are both entrances.

Oh how we laughed.

Not

She was.. Ok. Interesting conversations about work and travel and stuff.

The impression I got, without specific discussion, is that she was with someone for a long time, focused on her career, and is now wanting kids at the age of 42 having broken up with the Guy and having had a bad time of OD. I showed her my driving licence as a joke to prove my age , she took it and studied it carefully.

I dunno. Maybe see her a second time and see if there is a spark second time, with alcohol and food. There was a bit of a connection but not much of one

The reason it seems there are only short men on OD, by the way, is that you only notice the talk ones who stand out in real life, the short ones generally fade into the background in comparison. OD is a great leveller because you look at the faces first, not the height.

Now I'm stressing about what to write back and how to not sound boring.......

Just begin your reply with "Sorry about the delay in replying but one of my submissives just passed out as I forgot to unfasten the mouth zip and then I also remembered I had a lemon drizzle cake in the oven......

That should make him either shit or get off the pot......

I should point out that unlike flo, I have never wanted someone who contacted me to either shit, or, indeed, to get off the pot

Horses for courses etc

Why didn't I think of that?? That would definitely show my 'interesting' side. Unfortunately I replied before I read your post so went for a more vanilla approach. If he doesn't reply, I'll know I should have run with the dom/sub chat...

With regard to shitting, and horses I've found that having spent a long while in Farmlandia, my nose has adapted to various manures. A bit like an ex smoker sniffing it out from a neigbour's back garden .

Hey Juliette are you still in contact with Dutch?

They did indeed, Nora. The most charming pair of geeks I've ever met come to talk to us every three years, what with us being a Very Special Group of people. I now know why the plates don't get hot in the microwave, and how sunburn happens.

Most impressed with your olfactory perception skills, Juliette.

Bant, as you know, I can sympathise with your date's position. For six more days, I will be in exactly the same predicament (see how I got in the mention that I have a birthday coming up), so i'm giving her the benefit of the doubt. I'm not sure I would have lied about my age or been quite so up front on a first date, mind, but at least she has been honest now. Maybe she hadn't seen a UK driving license before?

Flipper, why don't they get hot in the microwave?? This has actually intrigued me lately as I have one plate that does get hot in there but the food stays cold so I can't use that one...

Morning everyone.

Bant, I probably wouldn't hold the age thing against her as she was honest on the first date. Have you heard from CheshireCat?

Happy upcoming birthday, flipper

I dunno. I sympathise with her position of course, but as far as I could see from last night, I'm not the guy to fix it. Starting off the date by telling me off for being at the wrong 'entrance' when she was 20 minutes late, asking me how quickly my facial hair grows, then at the end telling me to grow my beard back, the disbelief that I told the truth about my age (people generally guess I'm between 38 and 40, so it's not as if I appear 45 or something)..

All adds up to - I don't think I'll see her again.

Oh and she'd said she was 35 on the profile but was actually 42. That's more than shaving a little bit off. If she'd said 38, 38, that would be more reasonable, but 7 years is too much. I wouldn't try and say I was 32.

That was meant to say '38, 39'